Preemptive breakup with my gf

[charlezz]

Been at least a year i wasn't here posting.

I have been in a LTR of 1year plus.

Things were going fine until recently, we have been quarreling over small matters; Some my fault, Some hers. But I can feel that things were not going well.

Until yesterday, she disappeared for the whole day (Unusual). Called her several times (We were organising a trip thus, we need to discuss) Didn't picked up.

Finally she picked up the phone and talked in a indifferent manner. I asked her where has she been. She said her friend's bf is admitted to the hospital and her friend insisted her to follow and my gf didn't brought her phone.

After a 5mins talk, she said she's going to the shower and preparing for work. Usually we talked more..

Many further details (which i won't go into it) smell fishy and my gut feeling tells me that she may be seeing someone new. I consulted two close friends and they think that she may be seeing someone else.

So.. I dropped her a text "Let's break up; no hard feelings"


30mins later, she started calling me a few times and texting me; in which i ignored all.

When i wake up in the morning, a further 10 more messages from her. She said she respect my decision if I really want to break up. Still ignoring..


Guys, in my heart i am actually dying to know if she is seeing someone new; I know she will be calling me more in the future... I know I will pick up to hear what she's going to say..

Asking her if she has a new guy will definately be the no no in this forum. Anyway... she won't admit even if she has a new guy...

I'm quite puzzled... Need some advices..

 

[charlezz]

To add on.. I am not sure if I break up with her too soon or abruptly, I just find myself uncomfortable with her behaviour.

This breakup is one without closures. We will see how..

 

[Tiguere]

Keep ignoring.... By ignoring you will prevent her from hsuccessfully branch swing to her new guy and/or raise her interest level.

Her excuse was bull... This is how girls first start acting when they up to no good.


Keep ignoring her.. The more you ignore the more revelations will come.


And please keep updating us.

 

[Iceberg]

To add on.. I am not sure if I break up with her too soon or abruptly, I just find myself uncomfortable with her behaviour.

This breakup is one without closures. We will see how..

Whether she's seeing someone new or not, your instincts are telling you that there's something wrong.

And you should trust your instincts. You have them for a good reason.

She's speaking to you less. She wasn't answering your calls. She's fighting with you. It sounds like it's time to meet someone new.

Asking her if she has a new guy will definately be the no no in this forum. Anyway... she won't admit even if she has a new guy...

Yes. Definitely a no-no. And yes, if she IS cheating on you, she won't admit it anyway. There's no point in asking....just makes you look desperate.

 

[expos]

30mins later, she started calling me a few times and texting me; in which i ignored all.

When i wake up in the morning, a further 10 more messages from her. She said she respect my decision if I really want to break up. Still ignoring..

Well played. This is how a DJ behaves. Drop her like she was nothing. She goes indifferent? Be the man and go GHOST. Always maintain the upperhand. It will do wonders for you confidence and you have established your dominance over her regardless of the situation. Repped.

 

[charlezz]

She hasn't called or text today..

Hit the gym today with my brother, feeling good. (I am a gym regular) More girls are noticing me day by day. An UG 2/10 hit up on me and get my number... not that it is something to be proud of..

I am actually not a newbie in this forum as I read a lot and practised a lot.

The old me will be calling her and questioning her whether if she has a new guy or not. The old me is still there, BUT being educated in this forum, (and support from 2 close alpha friends) I forced myself to do productive things to improve myselfl than to call her.

Actually I have a new chick but she measured 6/10 and sex wasn't good. Need another hot chick to kill the inner monster of me. Heh. My gf (or ex) measures a 8/10 (she's a body model).

Partying tonight (Its saturday night now), will try to get some new numbers.

I admit I still miss her a lot, it's only human to be so. Self-discipline comes into place here.

What will you guys suggest if she repeatedly called me and begging me for a period of time.. say a week.? I know I will make her do that before I listen to anything she's gonna say.
I do realise that now the number one thing is to be accustomed to live alone; improvements etc...

But i am also preparing for the fact that she may not call anymore, will that means she has already branch swinged if she doesn't contact me anymore? <Old me creeping.... i know>

Need help from experienced people whom are clear minded than me now.. Appreciated.

 

[betheman]

you have handled this pretty well so far, dont blow it. this woman was displaying very shady behaviour before you broke it off with her. you were planning a trip together and she went awol??? her excuse was balls too!
if your curiosity gets the better of you, answer one of her calls, keep it short, say few words and end the call because you have somewhere to go, its good you have another fem on your arm, that will get back and rankle with her.

 

[charlezz]

This question keeps ringing in my mind... ask you guys..
i am preparing for the fact that she may not call anymore, does that means she has already branch swinged if she doesn't contact me anymore?

Dont worry, I will stand strong.. AFC(Maybe) in front of you guys only.. lol

 

[betheman]

This question keeps ringing in my mind... ask you guys..
i am preparing for the fact that she may not call anymore, does that means she has already branch swinged if she doesn't contact me anymore?

Dont worry, I will stand strong.. AFC(Maybe) in front of you guys only.. lol

the majority of women have numerous branches, she has a model body? you bet she will be branch swinging, its what women do, its what you have done as well.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Whatever you do, don't contact her in any way, shape or form.

Any attempt on her part to talk or text with you is her own purely selfish attempt to feel better about things.

Her behavior was absolutely inexcusable and she must now be made to pay the price. If you contact her it will boost her right out of her anxiety and cause her to label you a loser (in her own mind) and move on with perfect closure. You, however, in this scenario, will be left a wreck, regretting giving her the chance for closure.

Keep the upper hand, and stay absolute NC. You are going to be going through withdrawal symptoms that are similar to withdrawing from an addiction. Your mind will play tricks. Stay strong and stay away from her at all costs. Soon your mind and emotions will settle and you will feel a very real sense of power, knowing that you handled the situation and that you made the right decisions.

When a man senses that something is wrong in the relationship, you can rest 100% assured that something is indeed seriously wrong. A man's hunches about relationships always prove to be accurate, because men are usually slow to catch on that there is an issue until she starts withdrawing. When a woman starts withdrawing, she has already broken up and has already gone through the grieving process for the past 3 to 6 months. She is simply acting out the inevitable.

When a woman withdraws it is critically important for a man to withdraw all the more. A pre-emptive strike is not always the solution, but a massive withdrawal is mandatory. A woman must be trained into understanding that the man's value is higher than the woman's. That's the only dynamic that can keep her interested.

 

[charlezz]

I was wondering.. Issit it too harsh to NC permanently? Burning the bridge??

Several days ago, her friend once talked to me and said my gf really loves me a lot and I have my own share of indifference to her. (I was always busy with gym, work, socializing)

I was actually contemplating to convert her to a gf with no "marriage future", while seeing new girls

Sex is the killer... She is good in satisfying me with excellent body...

Damn... Guys always died to hot asses...

Then again, her AWOL did disturb my trust on her

 

[charlezz]

She just texted me "Charlezz, are we really breaking up? please let me know. i need to be clear" looks like she needs closure... and she post some emotional quotes in her Facebook.

Looks like the hamster mind is spinning

I never reply. No intention to do so as of now

 

[betheman]

She just texted me "Charlezz, are we really breaking up? please let me know. i need to be clear" looks like she needs closure... and she post some emotional quotes in her Facebook.

Looks like the hamster mind is spinning

I never reply. No intention to do so as of now

how old are you charlezz?

 

[JoeMarron]

Don't let this get to you and have you slipping back into AFC sh!t but I think you broke up too soon. I would've went ghost for awhile to see if her behavior changed first. Like Atom Smasher said when a woman starts withdrawing you withdraw even more. After tasting what life is like without you she would've been forced to either change her behavior or break up. Of course its too late for this now. Perhaps in a couple months from now if she hits you up again you could turn her into a fvck buddy.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

She just texted me "Charlezz, are we really breaking up? please let me know. i need to be clear" looks like she needs closure... and she post some emotional quotes in her Facebook.

Looks like the hamster mind is spinning

I never reply. No intention to do so as of now

She already has closure and she doesn't need it. She went AWOL & cold on you.

If your gut is telling you she is seeing someone else, then she probably is.
HB6,HB7,HB8...it doesn't matter. They are all natural plate spinners.

I ended a 13mo relationship and didn't give her any closure. I went NC for 2months, then I took her back (stupid I know). Nothing really changed (besides more sex), I ended it 3 months later. She just partied way too much for my old ass.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Sex is the killer... She is good in satisfying me with excellent body...

If you want to fvck her so badly then go fvck her. Then ignore her.

Repeat that process every once in a while, and she'll understand that you want sex but not a relationship. But you have to be emotionally strong before you can pull that off. If you want her to be your wh0re, then you have to be strong enough to treat her like one and drop the love act. If you can't do that, then you don't need to be talking to her.

 

[In2theGame]

She just texted me "Charlezz, are we really breaking up? please let me know. i need to be clear"

This question shes asking you is tricky because in my opinion, it seemed she wants to get a final "Yes we're breaking up" so she can justify and not feel guilty about blowing the next guy she might be seeing. My advice is remain silent and don't say anything. Ive been there too and i know that gut feeling is usually bad. The #1 weapon against women is going quiet.

 

[charlezz]

how old are you charlezz?

32years old

 

[Zarky]

At your age you should always be dating 2-3 women at a time. No excuses.

 

[Lord Hypnos]

good job on the pre-emptive breakup. keep up the good work ignoring her, if she was going cold and distant, you have to assume that she's getting her rocks off somewhere else, especially if she is a model. how frequently do you bed her? and is it to her satisfaction?