Post 5 random tips.

[ValleyDJing]

I have just one tip:

Forget all the rules and just do your own thing - if she likes it, great; if she doesn't, she can go to hell!

I love it! Kinda like Tucker Max's "**** her/him if she/he can't take a joke."

My random tips off the top of my head would be...

1. Do everything, anything you can think of to improve your looks. Not only does it improve your looks, you're self confidence will soar through the roof.

2. Don't be afraid to say something perverted, overtly sexual every once in a while. You're a guy, its not only ok, its expected (My friend that I'm trying to help out is having trouble grasping this concept). The worst I've ever had was she laughed it off...but I just know she was fingering herself later that night thinking about what I said .

3. You want a girl to know you're a wanted man. Always be dropping hints that you're talking to this chick or that chick, allude to the fact that you flirt with and think certain girls are hot. Just make sure you remind her that she is NOT the only girl you know/talk to/think is hot.

4. Nicknames work like charms. If you can come up with a good nickname for a girl...you know what? Just trust me. It always makes you special in their eyes. My personal favorites are "mamacita" for latina's and milfs and "dimples", "freckles", "big red", etc. (geared towards an appearance trait of the girl).

5. "You can lose a lot of money chasing women, but you won't lose many women chasing money." -I think I Love My Wife (just saw it today, goddamn Kerry Washington was hot!) Or to put it more crudely...

"He's chasing a b.itch. Stupid! Chase the paper they come with that s.hit!"- 50 Cent lol!

 

[COD]

1) have a default opener for every situation: ya after you master all apsects you won't need any lines/openers and you can say anything. Most of you aint there yet.......SO GET SOME CLEVER OPENERS.

2) ITS NOT ALWAYS WHAT YOU SAY-but how you say it. Most people think body language is how you stand........its entails your tone, the speed in which you converse, how you smile, your eyes, your body movements should be smooth. Saying hi and saying Whats up mean the same thing but are percieved differntly. Saying hello and well hello there.....again same thing but one means more confidence.

3) EXCPECT SOME REJECTIONS: ya you heard me, those that have no fear are foolish. Especially when starting out, mistakes will happen, women will not find you funny, and yes you might get burned right there in front of everyone. The man that can get rejected and become immune to it and still pull a number or walk away feeling like it's her loss is the benchmark you should be striving for. I ain't talkin 'bout faking it fella's, you gotta actually live it. I cant tell you how many times a chic said no in an email, in a bar, or durring the day and then like 2 minutes later handing me her digits saying " I know I am going to regret this but here you go". Sometimes the token NO actually means.........not right now, but I might be persuaded.

4) USE IT OR LOSE IT: naturals are born with the gift, if you watch them they use every opportunity to enhance their craft. They are always hitting on chics. For those of us that are wannabe's- we have to adopt that training methodology. Practice does improve our skill set. Look you can read all the tips in the world but its nothing without imperical real live research. Go out and try this stuff out.......write down the results. If you don't start using this stuff in real life situations you will quickly lose that edge.....nuff said.

5) EVOLVE: ever what happens to Pick-up artists that get old....40's. Realise there is more to life than banging hot chics. If you improve your game and research this stuff you will come to the ultimate conclusion that the skills you learn will spill over into OTHER aspects of your life. You might land that audition on AMerican Idol, you might get a promotion at work, you might hook up with an incredible chic that you'll marry one day, you may like so many others instruct, write a book for others to benefit from. These skills are not just about getting laid.......but enhancing your life.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

1) Don't take life too seriously. Have some fun.

2) It's more fun to go down in flames, than to die quietly in your bed, forgotten by everybody.

3) Don't take things to the extreme. Moderation is the key.

4) If you get bored, make your own fun.


And the most important rule... (5) Don't let others dictate your life.

 

[Micheal Moon]

1) A philosophical question I recently came up with myself

If you were a girl, would you go out with yourself?

2)An old saying, but true, "clothes make the man"

3)If you want anything in life, you have to go after it, be bold

4)Women love self confidence. Self confidence is simply a strong belief in oneself. The goal is strengthen it till its unshakeable

5)Live in the moment.

 

[Docs]

Five more
1) Do not focus on end state. Focus on the steps to get to end state. If you don't plan and execute your steps correctly, end state will always never be obtained.
2) Become a fun human being. Even if it's being able to talk about your day in good light, even though the only thing you did was burn your dinner, it's still a story to captivate your audience. If you haven't already realized it, a normal day to you is INTERESTING for someone else to hear. Doing something cool on top of that, bonus.
3) Exactly in line with the last point. Hobbies, required. It's yet another thing to talk about with your intereseted audience, it's a fallback when you experience the lulls in conversation, AND it's a potential date idea!
4) Carry yourself well. As a man, a man with a strong future and a powerful sense of confidence, I STRIVE to make myself look good, in the way I interact with others. This is NOT necessarily looks, but in my interactions, you can feel it within yourself that confidence is none the lacking. Combine that with my very open handed approach and you get a result somewhere along the lines of a social magnet. If people want to be around you, and you make them feel welcome, they will have no problem with 'running into you' at the mall or the street.

5) Lastly, consider this, what is the purpose of an approach, a sarge, a hookup, a random passing in time where your event pathlines intersect? The one core purpose you should be focusing on is to get the girl to want to see you again. If she doesn't want to see you again, you have failed. Any indication of her that she wants to see you again, IS SUCCESS. Understand and apply that, and forever will the successes you desire be easier to obtain. This is the exact reason why you will rarely see a routine or a canned line pop out of my mouth, because I don't require them.

 

[Bonhomme]

Three more

1) Think of seduction more like fishing than hunting. Know the waters and make your bait irresistible.

2) Enjoy the process. This is similar to Docs' 1st tip above, but with more emphasis on making the process fun. Social interactions are damn interesting. If you can be an interested participant/observer without getting hung up on obtaining a certain result, you're not only ahead of the game, but on top of the game.

3) Don't get hung up on any one gal, but value them as people. There are lots of other carp in the canal. If the canal's dead, cast your line into different waters.

Geez, someone's ready for fishing season.

 

[Vulpine]

1. Some things matter, some things don't.

Learn to step back and weigh the importance of things troubling you. People tend to over-complicate their lives with stress, worry, and negativity in general. Why should I care who got thrown off American Idol... seriously... duh.

When you can know that even the harshest of situations really, truly, don't matter much. Women, possesions, finance... throw it all in a pile and set it on fire. Doesn't matter: I'll roast marshmallows over the flames.

2. Rely on your spine.

Reach behind you and feel that bad dog! Your spine is the core of your being. Attached is the cage that protects your heart. The spine protects all the powerlines to your crotch. Your spine stands you up as a man. When you are being taken advantage of, disrepected, or negatively treated, let your spine do the talking. Your spine is your protector; learn to fully utilize it's power. Be careful, your spine is vulnerable to attack from behind: watch your back!

3. Bro's before Ho's

It was mentioned earlier, but few understand the cause and depth of this "fun saying". Make it your mantra. Women come and go throughout your life: but a good friend will stay and watch them come and go with you. Male friends are far more loyal, fun, useful, and last far longer than a woman will. ALWAYS hold your male friends in higher regard than any female friends - always!

Ooop... and make it clear to your male friends how you stand. Insist that they understand "bro's before ho's" and demand that they hold you with the same regard.

4. Live within your means.

Media and marketing will have you chasing crap you don't need, but somehow seem to want. If you realize what matters and what doesn't, it will be easy for you to resist impulse buys and frivolous purchases. Ask yourself "do I need this?" Then compare the answer to the big three: food, water, shelter. Realize that you would survive with leather robe, in a cave, with a rabbit frying on a stick over a fire. Avoid debt and promote saving for the future/goals by simplifying your lifestyle to a minimum. Debt will destroy your life and lock you into a renter's prison. To help avoid negativity, avoid negative numbers. If you were truly a man, or a DJ, you wouldn't care what others thought of you. So, you don't need a H3 hummer or a Movado, do you?

5. Don't watch TV.

If you don't watch TV, you don't need to pay for cable. Seriously, the television poisons your brain and trains you to not think for yourself. TV forcefeeds opinions, agendas, lifestyles, dreams, and lies to you. And, it does so in a way that is somehow pleasant? TV is addicting like porn, gambling, and drugs. TV consumes your time and devalues your life. Do you know what I find amazing? When someone is out having a great time, then says something ridiculous like "I have to go guys. Lost starts in 20 minutes."

Turn off the TV. Get out from behind the screen and live your own fairy tales. Turn off the computer as well. I used to be a gamer. I had lots of virtual friends, killed lots of virtual enemies, I even had virtual good time doing it. But it really, not virtually, destroyed my life. Now, I don't pay for internet at home, or cable.

If you have too much time on your hands, find a constructive way to use that time besides having the electron gun firing at your head giving you square eyeballs. TV is the cord that plugs into the back of your head like in the matrix: it's a prison for your mind.

 

[thirtyplus]

1. Floss

2. Listen

3. Shave

4. Match

5. Visualize

 

[djbr]

everything on his post

A M A Z I N G!

I repeat all he said and dare to add a #6 tip... beware of your body. Do not go breaking bones like I stupidly did! :crackup:

The reason?

it sucks to depend on others for anything.

Relating what I just said to women: masturbation is still better than supplication, never forget this!

 

[Incog]

4 months later, some great tips have been introduced in this thread. Let's respark the thread and keep them coming.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

5) Move into the city. Suburbs suck. You'll never understand why until you do.

Just moved to the city.... and it's unreal. Suburbs do suck.

 

[Bible_Belt]

1) This is a great post to read:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16822&highlight=ups+downs+baby

2) Your emotions are your enemy, especially when things are going poorly. It doesn't matter what you are feeling. Do the right thing even when it's very difficult.

3) When she backs away from you, back away farther.

4) Love comes and goes several times in most peoples' lives. Be happy when you have it, and let it go when it leaves.

5) "It's out there alright, and if you catch it, see a doctor and get rid of it."
http://corky.net/scripts/jerk.html

 

[Sir Juanalot]

1) Dont waste time worrying over things you have no influence over.

2) If its bothering you and you can change it, then CHANGE IT!

3) Never accept second best, you are selling yourself short.

4) Make a to-do list, and put your name at the top of it.

5) Never allow a woman to put you or herself down in your presence.

 

[comic_relief]

Killa awesome post

1.) "Think and you shall become"
2.) "Whatever the mind of man can conceive... it can achieve" -Napoleon Hill
3.) Trust your gut
4.) Know when to bail out on something (not relationships but also situations)
5.) Never stop learning and always be ready to learn everyday

comic_relief

 

[Oisdog]

(1)- Improve your looks in whatever way possible!

(2)- Patience- Patience is a virtue...and ooo by God that is true

(3)- Improve your sexual techniques! speaks for itself!

(4) - Have a life outside of women!

(5)- Improve your social skills, and learn to be the top dog in town

 

[The Librarian]

As a recovering AFC only a month into his rehab, here are some of the things I've learned from getting out into the field:

1. Always have a good time. Women may help you to have a better time, but don't let them be the main component.

2. Don't be afraid of silence in conversation. If you're the last one to speak and there's a silence, the rules of conversation will put pressure on her to fill the void.

3. Women seem to be able to pick up on whether or not you're faking interest in conversational topics. Rather, take the things you're generally interested in and make them interesting to her.

4. BE PICKY. If you're willing to take any woman that you can get, women will pick up on this and, consequently, the only ones you get will probably be ones you don't really want.

5. Get a good night's sleep. During the spring I was spending many sleepless nights working on my master's thesis, and I can't even begin to describe how much better I feel now that I can actually get 7-9 hours of sleep per night.

 

[christz]

1. Persistance ALWAYS pays off (unless you feel in your gut its useless)
2. Trust the gut.. More times than not its ALWAYS right
3. Everything for face value (if she says she's into you) just belive it
4. Always keep other women on the backburner because oneitis is a bytch
5. Don't over anaylize! it is how it is.. and if you see it then its there.. looking into things to much will drive you crazy and make you stressed.

 

[Holland]

1. Enjoy your moments in this lifetime
You're only going to be here for some amount of years and then you leave this life behind. Are you having a great time?
Having some pain? Enjoy it. Life is made of ups and downs. You win some, you lose some and if you play your cards right eventually you'll win some more. If you reach a low point in your life, don't get discouraged, don't feel down. Laugh it off and enjoy it, it'll be over before you know it. Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. Life is too precious to be spend wallowing around in negative emotions. The sun is always shining behind the clouds.

2. Make this world a better place
Are you contributing to the rest of the world?
After you've taken care of 1. widen your focus on bringing Joy and Happyness to the world. Give people that feeling that when they are going to spend time with you their moods will instantly get brightened.

3. Live a passion
Get something that excites you, thrills you and challenges you to keep growing. Choose a field and commit to Mastery.
Being a 'PUA' doesn't count, you have to have a passion besides women.

4. Fuuck the comfort zone
'Nuff said. Everyone knows and hates it. Get rid of it by seeing Excellence as journey and never stop taking action and improving yourself.

5. Become a Masterful Lover. Develop the skills that are going to give your girl that kind of feelings she has never experienced before. Becoming Sexually powerful is also VERY good for building even higher self-esteem.

 

[Incog]

1. Don't discuss your past relationships with your current girlfriend.

2. If a chick insists on keeping her ex-boyfriend around in her life, dump her immediately. Trouble will ensue.

3. Smile and smirk.

4. Say what you want without worrying about offending people.

5. LEAD.

 

[RamboCS]

1) Take pride in your work. Today I started a new job as a dish washer, a job I had prior experience. Two hours in there were various employees saying "Everyone loves you already!" It's because when people asked for help, if I was bored and doing nothing....I'd help them. One girl bought me an XL Monster, another who I didn't even formally introduce myself to hugged me before she left. Another was feeling up my tattoo, and another was asking me when I was working again. Still another rubbing up against me and sitting with me on break, another applying a band-aid when I cut myself...all because I was trained by my parents from a young age to always work hard. Plus, I do have dashing good looks. I also just quit UPS, and this is A LOT easier in comparison, so the happiness of getting out of that ****hole and into a much better job must've showed.

2) Watch a lot of comedy, and develop your own style and brand of comedy.

3) Pursue a passion, and use it to your advantage. I play guitar...ALL THE TIME. I plan on going big, I have dreams and goals as a musician and plan to achieve them at pretty much any noble cost.

4) Subtle jokes are the best. You know what my shirt said at a recent gig? "Support Local Music: Sleep With a Musician." I bet half the audience didn't even catch that golden nugget of comedy.

5) Indifference.