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SgtSplacker

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I have to say I find it odd for a woman to be giving advice on these matters. You just dont understand the dynamics related to this topic. Definitely awesome to see a womans point of view in alot of things here except this. Testosterone shapes mens lives, our bodies, our wants and desires, our drives to achieve greatness... at the same time it can turn us into homebound masturbative geeks. When a man talks about compromised sexual desires all men know the other things associated with it that may not have been said, it's not about just wanting to bang a particular girl.
 

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I find porn in moderation one of the greatest invention for men. When I was single and got flaked on, I would watch it to release tension and not be pissed of at being flaked on. Then make my plan with the next date with another girl.

Now that I am in a serious relationship, I use it when my girl is not available. I am not tempted to cheat when I don't see her for 2 weeks due to traveling for work.

Mega overdosing of vitamin C can give you diarrhea, people still need it. I use porn to help me keep control of my temptations. I honestly need it or my life will be in ruins.
 

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CuriousGirl said:
I've dated people both younger and older than you, I spend time with different groups of friends of 18-35 years old and I've got more than a handful siblings of 0-18 yrs (and their friends), I'm a student but I also have 2 jobs. So actually I have a lot of experience with all sorts of people. My dad's even pretty cool too. I don't see why you're so adamant my observations count for nothing.

That's fair enough, I wasn't condemning that.
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Ok I'm really struggling here. I've given up chewing tobacco (withdrawals were bad) and drinking alcohol but giving up porn has been a challenge. I've given up the hardcore porn but still find myself looking at non-nudes and dancing girls on youtube. I don't jerk off while watching but I do immediately after. Hopefully soon enough I will eliminate all virtual girls because I know it has affected me in relationships (not only females but every relationship).
 

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Mark1234 said:
Ok I'm really struggling here. I've given up chewing tobacco (withdrawals were bad) and drinking alcohol but giving up porn has been a challenge. I've given up the hardcore porn but still find myself looking at non-nudes and dancing girls on youtube. I don't jerk off while watching but I do immediately after. Hopefully soon enough I will eliminate all virtual girls because I know it has affected me in relationships (not only females but every relationship).
This is really interesting that tobacco and alcohol were easier than giving up porn.

What I reccommend to you is going cold turkey on viewing ANY kind of female on the computer; hardcore, softcore, dancing girls, girls in bikinis, etc.

You can only use your imagination, and feel free to jerk off as much as you want. Set up your life so that the only way you can view beautiful women is by going OUT.

Then, a month from now, start jerking off once or twice a week.

It's called progressive desensitization.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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thanks for the advice Vice

It might be because I've only been using tobacco and alcohol for about 5-6 years (25 now) and really only used them for the buzz. And have been using porn/pics of girls to get my rocks off for about 10+ years. I have actually noticed a difference since not watching hardcore porn (going on 1 month now). I feel more at ease around people, less anxiety (still there but minimal and controllable), feel a lot more comfortable around girls, have a deep desire to connect with others, and I can talk to strangers without getting all panicky and weird. I don't know if porn has affected me more so than others but that is my experience, now to quit the soft stuff, which is going to be hard (pun intended haha)!
 

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I used to watch a fair amount of porn but after I while I just found it depressing...Lily Thai is the only girl I still watch because she actually seems to enjoy herself (plus she's crazy hot).
 
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davidchatman said:
I won't say to stop but you should have a control on it
Telling someone to control their porn addiction is like telling a crack addict to control their crack addiction.
 
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Mark1234 said:
Ok I'm really struggling here. I've given up chewing tobacco (withdrawals were bad) and drinking alcohol but giving up porn has been a challenge. I've given up the hardcore porn but still find myself looking at non-nudes and dancing girls on youtube. I don't jerk off while watching but I do immediately after. Hopefully soon enough I will eliminate all virtual girls because I know it has affected me in relationships (not only females but every relationship).
+1

I gave up smoking, chewing, drinking as long as I want. But porn more that a few weeks is extremely tough.

Also, want to add that I have always just liked the porns with the best looking women. It never went to extreme stuff like anti-porn people advocate.
 

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So I looked at some porn yesterday and jeez it was a pretty intense experience. I was browsing the internet before bed and a seductive picture appeared in an ad. This led me to explore more pictures and before long I watched a hardcore video (been about 2-3 weeks since I've done that). Wow I was hit with a rush of euphoria and feel good feelings. After I watched for about 3-4 minutes I turned the video off and "finished the job" so to speak. Now today, all I can think about is looking at porn. It's very powerful stuff!
 

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Some people say watching porn desensitizes you to real women but I don't quite agree.

IMO, if can be seduced by a "seductive image" or video of 2 random people fvcking, that means when you see the real thing in life it is so much stronger since it is the real thing.

If a fvcking online photograph can seduce a person, what can a real woman do to you? Maybe that's why we get AFC's who worship women.
 
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