Have sex with her???!!! He cant even get her to kiss him while shes making a a boiled egg. I say this thing is toast.
Look at how the OP is reacting to the slightest hint of malcontent. He should move on from this girl regardless of the "truth" which he will never actually find out.
OP. Get rid of this relationship because of where you are at in life that you cant confront her on "wine night" with her friend. Dude seriously, crying at your keyboard while she laughs it up. WTF. I would just disappear from her life. Dont even confront her at this point. Go out and find yourself.
In my most AFC whirlpool, I would have never put up with this behavior...FROM MYSELF. I would have confronted her right away in the most indifferent way possible, gather the facts the best I could....or packed a bag and disappeared. Let that be the conversation. She will lose her mind.
I would have NEVER, EVER, sat on this without action and cried about it.
Either believe your friend and take ACTION or do not and act like you never heard the info. Your insecurities astound me. (Coming from a recovering AFC)
Your floundering makes me want to puke. MARCH soldier. Pick any direction and march the f^ck towards it.
OMG. Some of the best days of my relationship life was when I found out a girl.
Pfffsstt. Onwards.
Its the good girls that break your heart that are worth coming here about but not this sorry excuse. MOVE THE F^cK ON. Regardless.