ZaCool
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- Feb 20, 2018
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This is half a statement and half a question, on one hand iam interested to see what you think of this (my own personal statement) , on the other hand almost every success i had with women was due to not playing by the rules and doing things that women said they hated and other men (friends usually) found counterproductive and could in no way work .
dress and smell good, be clean, well groomed ...etc yeah basically externally be on point we all get that, now personality wise its differet but almost all agree that you have to be cool, charming, approachable and someone that is confident and can hold a conversation and i agree with all that it indeed helps .
but what do i mean by not playing by the rules ? I realized few months after getting into college (Well even before that since even before college it was noticeable ) that girls find me attractive, like eye contact, always staring, finding excuses talking to me attractive, plus a lot of compliments, as a guy i couldnt rely on just sitting there looking pretty iam the man after all, so while i have been approached by some women i have approached my fair share of women, usually most guys who dont get a lot of attention play a numbers game , but i didnt my success rate (and by that i mean getting numbers and then dates, was easily 80% ) if she refused to go out i usually found out she had a bf or i needed to invest a loooooot more so i stopped purusuing .
I message a girl once if she respondes game on and i proceed with the conversation, conversation ends, two days later i message again have a long conversation with some flirting (sometimes) and wait for her to message me first or say hi/ ask to meet me, if not the next .
i dont go out of my way for girls, if she needs help and i can help her i will gladly do it as long as it doesnt waste my time .
i never approach a girl that shows no interest in me, if shes not acting like she is about to throw herself at me then to me she is not interested .
I dont fight or argue with other guys for girls, if she wants me she knows where to find me and i have made it clear iam interested, if another guy at some point shows up and she wants both, he can have her .
iam not her emotional bank or someone whos always "there" for her, iam there for my gf if youre not my girl then why treat you like one ?
A lot of guys do the opposite of that, sometimes it works but most of the time they are just being made fun of, after all if she never seemed intersted after the first couple of mesages she wont be after 10, youre just entertaining her at this point or even annoying .
Iam not player and some guys on here have far more experience than me and far more success, i tried a lot of approaches through the years and the one above feels the most natural to me, as iam laid back and cool and it helped me get the most girls .
dress and smell good, be clean, well groomed ...etc yeah basically externally be on point we all get that, now personality wise its differet but almost all agree that you have to be cool, charming, approachable and someone that is confident and can hold a conversation and i agree with all that it indeed helps .
but what do i mean by not playing by the rules ? I realized few months after getting into college (Well even before that since even before college it was noticeable ) that girls find me attractive, like eye contact, always staring, finding excuses talking to me attractive, plus a lot of compliments, as a guy i couldnt rely on just sitting there looking pretty iam the man after all, so while i have been approached by some women i have approached my fair share of women, usually most guys who dont get a lot of attention play a numbers game , but i didnt my success rate (and by that i mean getting numbers and then dates, was easily 80% ) if she refused to go out i usually found out she had a bf or i needed to invest a loooooot more so i stopped purusuing .
I message a girl once if she respondes game on and i proceed with the conversation, conversation ends, two days later i message again have a long conversation with some flirting (sometimes) and wait for her to message me first or say hi/ ask to meet me, if not the next .
i dont go out of my way for girls, if she needs help and i can help her i will gladly do it as long as it doesnt waste my time .
i never approach a girl that shows no interest in me, if shes not acting like she is about to throw herself at me then to me she is not interested .
I dont fight or argue with other guys for girls, if she wants me she knows where to find me and i have made it clear iam interested, if another guy at some point shows up and she wants both, he can have her .
iam not her emotional bank or someone whos always "there" for her, iam there for my gf if youre not my girl then why treat you like one ?
A lot of guys do the opposite of that, sometimes it works but most of the time they are just being made fun of, after all if she never seemed intersted after the first couple of mesages she wont be after 10, youre just entertaining her at this point or even annoying .
Iam not player and some guys on here have far more experience than me and far more success, i tried a lot of approaches through the years and the one above feels the most natural to me, as iam laid back and cool and it helped me get the most girls .
