Pissed off...****ing mad as hell!

[seek&destroy]

Long story short...


There's this chick I work with and I have been macking on her for the past week and we agreed that we would do something together sometime. I tell one of my best buddies that I like her (and by the way they have just been introduced to each other not too long ago). This girl is crazy about my friend meanwhile completely tuning me out...but that's now what got me...

See my buddy told me he thought she was "ugly" and would only do her if he was really wasted. Of course I asked him about it cause I knew about how she wanted him. So here's the thing. We went out to a bar with a bunch of friends, and after we came back they started making out right in front of me...I got furious inside, excused myself from the room and drove home at 5AM in a ****ing halestorm WASTED OFF MY ASS...something I made sure I would NEVER do, yet here I was.

Now I'm mad at my buddy cuz he lied right to my ****ing face, and especially beacuse we have been great friends for more than 4 years and he goes on and does something unforgivable like this...I'm furious to say the least!

So now here I am, HIGH as a ****ing kite thinking about it and it makes me even more mad...I cannot repress it, I just want to confront him and beat the living **** out of him...I cannot describe how betrayed I feel right now.

By the way...apparently after I left they didnt have sex cause she rejected him because she knew another one of her friends has a crush on him (and she told him about that), and he got really pissed at her too...so I do have another chance but I don't know if I should still go for it.

 

[ChrizZ]

It's not your buddies fault that you are a complete AFC.

 

[seek&destroy]

HE KNEW that we had something planned together. HE KNEW that I liked her and wanted to DATE her. And instead of being my wingman and trying to help me with it he went in for the kill.

And yet he even had the balls to tell me that he will be my wingman if I need him to be.

 

[Bible_Belt]

This girl is crazy about my friend meanwhile completely tuning me out

Just go with the flow and let it go. He should have at least asked you first, or waited until you struck out with her, but don't hate the guy over some girl. There are plenty more girls to go around.

 

[seek&destroy]

****...

Good one Bible_Belt...you're right it isn't worth it to lose a friend over it...I don't even know if I should tell him what I feel, but I'm pretty sure he has an idea.

 

[seek&destroy]

then again...she was hitting on him. that is probably why he wanted her jsut cuz she showed some interest...and she usually is very openly sexual with everyone she flirts with nearly everyone, guys and girls...he probably just went for it cuz he thought it would be an easy lay for him.

 

[XFalcon]

so I do have another chance but I don't know if I should still go for it.

No dude... you do not have another chance. What she did has completely ended any abysmal probability of anything ever occurring between you two. Besides, from what I am hearing, it sounds like she has given you minimal IOI. Save your dignity at least and walk away. Also, stop flirting with her at work and do not act like anything more than a friend. But do not hold a grudge! It is slightly possible that she has hot friends and that in the future your friend and her will want to go on a double date. Always keep your options open!

 

[DonJuan11]

This girl is crazy about my friend meanwhile completely tuning me out...but that's now what got me...

See my buddy told me he thought she was "ugly" and would only do her if he was really wasted. Of course I asked him about it cause I knew about how she wanted him. So here's the thing. We went out to a bar with a bunch of friends, and after we came back they started making out right in front of me...I got furious inside, excused myself from the room and drove home at 5AM in a ****ing halestorm WASTED OFF MY ASS...something I made sure I would NEVER do, yet here I was.

Now I'm mad at my buddy cuz he lied right to my ****ing face, and especially beacuse we have been great friends for more than 4 years and he goes on and does something unforgivable like this...I'm furious to say the least!

So now here I am, HIGH as a ****ing kite thinking about it and it makes me even more mad...I cannot repress it, I just want to confront him and beat the living **** out of him...I cannot describe how betrayed I feel right now.

Unless you and the girl were dating, she is fair game. You wouldn't stop making out with Angelina Jolie if she was crazy about you and your buddy said he "liked" her.

You were not her bf or in a LTR with her, suck it up.

 

[DonJuan11]

HE KNEW that we had something planned together. HE KNEW that I liked her and wanted to DATE her. And instead of being my wingman and trying to help me with it he went in for the kill.

And yet he even had the balls to tell me that he will be my wingman if I need him to be.

This deserves the same response as above.

 

[Fluid]

the same thing happened to me, basically a friend i trusted took the girl i was going after, and i wanted to beat the living **** outta him

and yet here I am one year later, got into "the game" and this site and couldnt be happier. I dont like this girl at all now, and honestly it taught me an important lesson in life and took me away from my old afc self...

honestly u shuld just tell her u liek her, cuz ur just gonna get even more pissed when she does get a bf, so just go out and do it,

if she accepts ur fine

is she denies, no more wasting time and the feeling will be better then the regret u gotta live with

 

[Last Man Standing]

Wake up kid, The Matrix has you - hors are for everybody!!!!

 

[Ken785]

HE KNEW that we had something planned together. HE KNEW that I liked her and wanted to DATE her. And instead of being my wingman and trying to help me with it he went in for the kill.

And yet he even had the balls to tell me that he will be my wingman if I need him to be.

People will do that too you for pvssy....sometimes even your own family will do that to you...ive had it done to me but i dont care...only AFCs stab there own people in the back for something pink and wet. One of my cousins even told me "hey...its whoever gets her first..."...have at it then d!ck!...you dont need to be around people like that...find some new people to hang out with.

 

[Epic]

Yeah Bible_Belt is right, you are placing way to much importance on a chick you're not even in a relationship with. You drove home wasted, which could have gotten you killed, over a girl that you've been macking on for a WEEK. This is a reason why Rollo says spin more plates. You need to keep multiple options open at all times. If you had been doing this, when faced with that situation you wouldn't have cared because you would have had other girls that want your attention. You've learned from it, so forget about her and keep the ball rolling. Good luck.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

No, the friend was a prick for not being up front and honest. I'm sure seek would be less upset at the guy if he didn't lie to his face. He said his friend KNEW that he was trying to work on her. It doesn't feel good to have a really good friend sweep up your interest like a hawk. It's happened to me and it took two weeks to get over it.

Heh, my friend (he's such a good friend. I considered him my brother) told me our friendship was more important than a girl, and if I seriously had a problem with it he wouldn't see her anymore. THAT'S A GOOD FRIEND, IMO. I told him I was being a little girl, my ego was bruised and I would get over it. Turns out I did get over it, and things are working out great between them. I couldn't be more happy for him.

The girl gave HIM interest and turned ME down. That's life. However, he never lied to my face though. He never tried to downplay anything and make me think I had a chance. Your friend is a prick for lying to you. I'm sure if he said "I'm interested" and the girl was also interested in him, you'd back off. He gave you his word that he wasn't interested.

I'd ignore them both for a while just to show what you won't put up with.

 

[Last Man Standing]

The most dangerous mindset in a man regarding a woman, is to proclaim a woman is his possession, by the mere proclamation that he has interest in her and that all others, including friends, are forbidden to pursue her!!! Is this right? NO!!!!! This eliminates the free will of the woman, such that she is now the slave of the male who forced himself upon her!!

 

[iqqi]

The most dangerous mindset in a man regarding a woman, is to proclaim a woman is his possession, by the mere proclamation that he has interest in her and that all others, including friends, are forbidden to pursue her!!! Is this right? NO!!!!! This eliminates the free will of the woman, such that she is now the slave of the male who forced himself upon her!!

AND the man in turn becomes a slave to his own desire.

You are furious with a friend, over a girl you've like for a WEEK.

You drove drunk, in a blizzard, over a girl you've liked for a WEEK.

Look at yourself. Don't you feel silly???

I understand you "claimed" her, but reread what LMS said. You have to be more fluid with your emotions, learn to flow a little better. Reserve your true emotions (rage, love, desire) for when they are more appropiate.

You get an AFC badge for this one.

Bro's before Ho's, I thought was the mantra.

Yeah, I know he was your friend, but if you think about it, you should've let him have her freely once she expressed interest in HIM and not you. He got laid, and maybe karma will get you laid. Most likely you will have to go through this same experience again though, since you didn't react correctly.

Think about it. A WEEK. Try not to be that lame again.

 

[Ken785]

The most dangerous mindset in a man regarding a woman, is to proclaim a woman is his possession, by the mere proclamation that he has interest in her and that all others, including friends, are forbidden to pursue her!!! Is this right? NO!!!!! This eliminates the free will of the woman, such that she is now the slave of the male who forced himself upon her!!

But wouldnt you also argue that your friends are also kind of 'stabbing' you in the back...i dont know if theres a lighter term for that...

 

[Last Man Standing]

AND the man in turn becomes a slave to his own desire.

Iqqi, very well stated!!!

Ken - why force someone to accept your wishes - are you her father???

 

[seek&destroy]

I said that he DIDN'T get laid. She told me the whole story how he got pissed off at her after she truned him down and told him that her friend has a thing for him...

The thing that really gets me the most is that if SHE could do this for her friend, whom she's known for less than a few months, why couldn't my buddy whom I known for 4 ****ing years do the same thing for me. That makes me pissed off...

and i have to clear something up...i ommit certain details when im high...so what really happened is that she was snuggling up gainst him, and i did leave cuz i felt pissed at her at first. but i thought if it got out of hand my bud would tell her to stop cuz he knows that i want her, but instead he was moving things forward, he asked her to have sex with him right then and there and she respectfully declined...my bud stabbed me in the back while she stood up for her friend. does that make any sense?

 

[Bible_Belt]

he asked her to have sex with him right then and there

He's an AFC!!! Why are you jealous? That guy is no competition. I have gotten laid quite a bit, and I swear that can't ever remember asking a girl to have sex with me - not once in my life, ever. You don't ask; you just do it. If she does not want to, she will stop you...several times. If she really did not want to at all, then she would not let herself be alone with you where it could happen, or at least she would leave as soon as you touched her.

and she respectfully declined.

surprise!