NewspaperRalph
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I don't know about you... but in Canada, university starts on the 13th... I'd thought i'd write something to help my fellow classmates. lol. here it is.
1. Sit next to your target
The first two weeks of school is when everyone is most vulnerable. Most people come to lectures and sit two seats away; but this creates distance and uncomfort. You need to sit NEXT to your target. Do not sit two seats away. When you sit next to your target, you establish that you're comfortable in your space. That's important to your first impression. The other reason that you sit next to your target is this: people are creatures of habit. That sexy girl will sit in the same seat for the rest of the simester (unless you creep her out). So sit next to your target.
2. The first two week is the most important time in school to make friends
The first two weeks are when people will make the first impression of you. When you form friends, you are forming alliences. Reasons for forming friends fast: they can help you study, occupy your time when you eat lunch, invite you out to parties, and do assignments together. Alliences are important because the more people in your allience, the more other people will want to JOIN you. Though, I know that using the word "alliences" is sort of corny; but think of them as your group of friends - your clique, if you will.
The other reason to make friends during the first two weeks, of school, is that during the beginning of the simester, people will be nervous. People all feel the same nervousness, doesn't matter if you're the sexy girl, or the ugly nerd. So expect the girl next to you to feel the same way, awkward and nervous; like she doesn't want anyone to look at her. BE DIFFERENT, look at her and don't be afraid to say something. Get her attention and snap her out of that awkwardness - you will find that she will be quick to reciprocate.
Of course, if you're in your 3rd week of school (or more), there are still other places to meet people on campus... go to my website (bottom of this post) and follow me in my adventures (in my blog), as I find my next girlfriend.
3. Don't talk during class - once lecture starts, it's too late.
You must come early to class and talk to people before lecture starts. I hate when people talk during the lecture.
4. Have a reason to talk to the person next to you.
If the proffessor instructs you to turn around and talk to the people around you. Then use that time to do so.
Don't worry if your (target) girl doesn't have anything to say. If she doesn't carry the conversation, then it's ok to talk about yourself until she feels comfortable to talk about something she enjoys. Say what ever is on your mind; be bold, and have fun!
Have a reason to talk to someone. The reason I use all the time is this, "Hi, I don't know anyone in class, I thought i would use this time to introduce myself... I'm Lee," (She'd state her name) then i'd follow up with, "I don't want to be like everyone else in the room, who'll look at their cell phone, anticipating class to start," (She would agree) then i'd follow up with, "this is nice (talking to you), tell me about yourself, you have any hobbies?" (She say no) then i'd talk about the subject (if i'm in chemistry, i'd talk about chemistry). Simple and not that hard, right? Of course, you can always compliment her on what she's wearing; most people try to look good during the first days at school.
The important thing is to KEEP TALKING... It doesn't matter if you talk about yourself the whole time... At least she'll be comfortable, remember, she's just getting to know you, so she won't say much anyways. If she has something to say, let her talk!
Also, the first time you meet her, remember to just introduce yourself, and to make a good first-impression. You don't have to go all out and tell your whole life story - after all, she's just a stranger. After the first week, then you can talk about more personal things.
You can just start talking out of the blue; if you have a random/upbeat personality. But many guys do not have this gift, they'll need to have a purpose to talk to someone. If that is the case, then here's a list for reasons to talk to someone new: Want to start a study group, want to make friends, want to get to know people, want to collaborate, want to avoid awkwardness, bored of sitting alone and waiting for class. I'm sure there are people here who can give you more suggestions (and expand that list).
5. Ask for your target's number right away!
BEWARE - DO NOT WAIT. It will be more natural to get her phone number as fast as possible; because if you like her, and you want something more than a friendship, it will be harder to say: "can I get your number, so I can call you on my free time?"
Instead, when you first meet her, and you're about to part ways, say this: "Hey, what's your number? that way i can call you if i decide to skip class, or start a study group."
Ok, a quick plug - if you don't mind.
I've started a forum and blog for highschool/university students. Join me in my forum, i build a website and dedicated it to you guys (people in school). In my blog, I'm going to write about my adventures to meet and select girls to become my new girlfriend. I'll be using things like love letters, plain pickup, and other ways to meet girls. The website's brand-spankin new, and I'd love to create a community for collage students (website below). If nothing else, be the first to post something on my forum.
leelincoln.com
p.s. ralph is not my real name. lol.
1. Sit next to your target
The first two weeks of school is when everyone is most vulnerable. Most people come to lectures and sit two seats away; but this creates distance and uncomfort. You need to sit NEXT to your target. Do not sit two seats away. When you sit next to your target, you establish that you're comfortable in your space. That's important to your first impression. The other reason that you sit next to your target is this: people are creatures of habit. That sexy girl will sit in the same seat for the rest of the simester (unless you creep her out). So sit next to your target.
2. The first two week is the most important time in school to make friends
The first two weeks are when people will make the first impression of you. When you form friends, you are forming alliences. Reasons for forming friends fast: they can help you study, occupy your time when you eat lunch, invite you out to parties, and do assignments together. Alliences are important because the more people in your allience, the more other people will want to JOIN you. Though, I know that using the word "alliences" is sort of corny; but think of them as your group of friends - your clique, if you will.
The other reason to make friends during the first two weeks, of school, is that during the beginning of the simester, people will be nervous. People all feel the same nervousness, doesn't matter if you're the sexy girl, or the ugly nerd. So expect the girl next to you to feel the same way, awkward and nervous; like she doesn't want anyone to look at her. BE DIFFERENT, look at her and don't be afraid to say something. Get her attention and snap her out of that awkwardness - you will find that she will be quick to reciprocate.
Of course, if you're in your 3rd week of school (or more), there are still other places to meet people on campus... go to my website (bottom of this post) and follow me in my adventures (in my blog), as I find my next girlfriend.
3. Don't talk during class - once lecture starts, it's too late.
You must come early to class and talk to people before lecture starts. I hate when people talk during the lecture.
4. Have a reason to talk to the person next to you.
If the proffessor instructs you to turn around and talk to the people around you. Then use that time to do so.
Don't worry if your (target) girl doesn't have anything to say. If she doesn't carry the conversation, then it's ok to talk about yourself until she feels comfortable to talk about something she enjoys. Say what ever is on your mind; be bold, and have fun!
Have a reason to talk to someone. The reason I use all the time is this, "Hi, I don't know anyone in class, I thought i would use this time to introduce myself... I'm Lee," (She'd state her name) then i'd follow up with, "I don't want to be like everyone else in the room, who'll look at their cell phone, anticipating class to start," (She would agree) then i'd follow up with, "this is nice (talking to you), tell me about yourself, you have any hobbies?" (She say no) then i'd talk about the subject (if i'm in chemistry, i'd talk about chemistry). Simple and not that hard, right? Of course, you can always compliment her on what she's wearing; most people try to look good during the first days at school.
The important thing is to KEEP TALKING... It doesn't matter if you talk about yourself the whole time... At least she'll be comfortable, remember, she's just getting to know you, so she won't say much anyways. If she has something to say, let her talk!
Also, the first time you meet her, remember to just introduce yourself, and to make a good first-impression. You don't have to go all out and tell your whole life story - after all, she's just a stranger. After the first week, then you can talk about more personal things.
You can just start talking out of the blue; if you have a random/upbeat personality. But many guys do not have this gift, they'll need to have a purpose to talk to someone. If that is the case, then here's a list for reasons to talk to someone new: Want to start a study group, want to make friends, want to get to know people, want to collaborate, want to avoid awkwardness, bored of sitting alone and waiting for class. I'm sure there are people here who can give you more suggestions (and expand that list).
5. Ask for your target's number right away!
BEWARE - DO NOT WAIT. It will be more natural to get her phone number as fast as possible; because if you like her, and you want something more than a friendship, it will be harder to say: "can I get your number, so I can call you on my free time?"
Instead, when you first meet her, and you're about to part ways, say this: "Hey, what's your number? that way i can call you if i decide to skip class, or start a study group."
Ok, a quick plug - if you don't mind.
I've started a forum and blog for highschool/university students. Join me in my forum, i build a website and dedicated it to you guys (people in school). In my blog, I'm going to write about my adventures to meet and select girls to become my new girlfriend. I'll be using things like love letters, plain pickup, and other ways to meet girls. The website's brand-spankin new, and I'd love to create a community for collage students (website below). If nothing else, be the first to post something on my forum.
leelincoln.com
p.s. ralph is not my real name. lol.
