SecondHalf said:
How long have you been together?
What do you really want out of this?
Is this woman in academia or a "doing" job but with a high education?
Still need you to augment the profile of this woman. But personally I'm leery of women with impractical doctorates. They can often be a little out there and extremists. I've 15 years experience in this!
SH
OK second half thanks for your reply
I want a consistdent intimate interaction, I want "normal" whatever that is now days
I want us to frow and build
She has cut me off from most if not all her friends, Her family doesnt like me she has sabotaged any chance to bre accepted, She has told others I have anger issues, I have gotten extremely upset with her cause of her hot cold indifferent attitudes then she goes Oh I love you beyond words etc etc tears cry sob etc Alligator tears? IDK
sHE WILL DISTANCE, SAY i SHOULD FIND SOMEONE ELSE WHO CAN PLEASE ME BLA BLA, THEN WE ARE GOOD TILL SHE FINDS THE LITTLEST REASON SHE FEELS CANT PLEASE ME,( sorry didnt realize caps were on) i dont want anything out of the normal things and ways two people love and what comes with that, Example: she is reluctant to consistantly say I love you, She actually feels I am in her words "the player supreme" I believe she says this because I DO treat her so well she thinks I am not genuine, she has said she doesnt believe she is lovable, and love is stupid, I think her self esteem, neg body image and self confidence is lacking and she feels if she accepts my love for her is solid and genuine she will one day find out I have side play and she will have been played and now looks like a fool, This is rediculous I am loyal and devoted when in love, She is a High school teacher 29 yrs with a doctorate in education, she has had very little experience sexually and serious relationship wise, One poster said toss her back and keep fishin, Yea I get that and have done that many times throughtout the years but as I said she is georgeous and when we are in synch it is awesome, she was my first girlfriend 42 yrs ago we hadnt seen one another for 35 yrs, We were one anothers first kiss and first BF/GF so long ago, There is just a something about her that I cherish then there is this crazy fearful easily manipulated by her so caklled friends who quite frankly I feel they envy our relationship because these women in a word controlled her she is very kind and helpful but I feel she is used often, This is the hardest relationship I have ever knoown and thrrowing her back seems a no brainer but my heart is stuck tight,,, Whats wrong with me? I have always been able to snag women easily I DO have game,well honed for 50 yrs, believe me some of us senior DJ's have super suave down pat!!!
Man this is a new day for me and I know I should just walk but she (when she puts her insecurities away) a magnetism...She fits the borderline or bi-polar mode to a T
I feel I am so above this kind of treatment and am embarrased I am having such a problem disconnecting, Masybe its cause at my age a partner in life is more important than in my earlier years,, Now I hear Tic Tock Tic Tock and am not the loner type, I want a partner to live out the rest of my time... I hear that clock and I am settling for something I struggle mightily with but the good periods are quite frankle mind blowing, Sex is earth shattering and yes at my age I can goi wall to wall action give her multiples and she leaves no bone unturned ...fascinating to listen to her views etc then she goes Mr Hyde and then "OUCH!!" TIME AGAIN.....,,, I appreciate all comments but I do realize this is my bed I have to sleep on it and any other woman who displayed these traits would have been sent packing quickly but I have dealt with this behavior for 4 yrs, Initially I thought she was fkd up because her X left her for another much younger thang , that is a nice place to visit but give up everything for a tighter package? who subsequently ditched him,Ruined his life big time! anyway I thought she was devastated by him cheating and abandoning her and if I was patient and loving she would get over her issues etc but NOPE, These issues may be why hubby left... I'm in this deep and without my boots on..