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[Pandora]

Seems like you are bending over backwards to marry a woman you are unsure about. Why?

Noo..i really love middle eastern and norh african culture. I respect Islam alot. I dont mind converting. I look forward to it.
My West African name is rooted in Islam.

 

[Pandora]

Seems like you are bending over backwards to marry a woman you are unsure about. Why?

1.) She is pretty af...to me
2.) She is obsessed with me
3.) First guy to show her the world
4.) She is thin
5.) Not a single mother ( they dont play that **** in that nation).
6.) She does have serious issues. She aint perfect but 80% of her is.

To be honest I would not be able to lock this down in the USA in my late 30s. Im just keeping it real. I can smash attractive American girls but they are too rebellious for me.

I was never bad with women but most of the women in my age group are single mothers. If they are not single mothers then they are nuts.

This chick was 24 when i met her. I was like 36. Unless you are rich you aint getting a childless, semi submissive child free chick at 36.

My question is why are single men not going overseas?

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Pandora,
"My question is why are single men not going overseas?"Well the Bars in most Philippino Cities are full of Westerners,most just wasting their time on Bar Girls who are just in it for the dollars LOL.

 

[Pandora]

Hi Pandora,
"My question is why are single men not going overseas?"Well the Bars in most Philippino Cities are full of Westerners,most just wasting their time on Bar Girls who are just in it for the dollars LOL.

Ahh yes i can only imagine. I have heard that the Philipines is over saturated.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Pandora,
" I have heard that the Philipines is over saturated."You are right,but if you line your Ducks up on an Internet Dating Site even an old Duffer like me can easily score,but they come with a lot of drawbacks!

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

to me it’s a pride thing. I’m not religious either but I have an issue with Islam because it’s unlike other religions as it seeks to dominate everything - insisting you convert is an example of that.

I married a Christian woman, but I didn't convert (I was baptised and raised a Christian, but I'm not religious). My only vow was that I was not going to derail / sabotage our (future) children Christian upbringing, but I wasn't going to attend church except on special occasions (baptisms, weddings).
My kids are baptised, but neither of them are Christians. My daughter had a rebellious phase with my ex-wife where she would talk about joining the Church of Satan, which was hilarious to me. Neither them nor my ex-wife attend church anymore.
So much for religious fervour...

 

[DreamAgain]

1.) She is pretty af...to me
2.) She is obsessed with me
3.) First guy to show her the world
4.) She is thin
5.) Not a single mother ( they dont play that **** in that nation).
6.) She does have serious issues. She aint perfect but 80% of her is.

To be honest I would not be able to lock this down in the USA in my late 30s. Im just keeping it real. I can smash attractive American girls but they are too rebellious for me.

I was never bad with women but most of the women in my age group are single mothers. If they are not single mothers then they are nuts.

This chick was 24 when i met her. I was like 36. Unless you are rich you aint getting a childless, semi submissive child free chick at 36.

My question is why are single men not going overseas?

I have strongly considered going overseas, and will do so if in the next few years I cannot find the right woman stateside.

I am going to be 33 next year and my time is ticking.

I would like to try out a few more cities in the US, try to find a girl in the 24-28 range that is second generation from another country, and that I can build a life with.

I want to stay in the states for now because my earning potential is simply much higher, a stable life for the kids is much more assured, I think the future is just brighter there than any other place at the moment.

If this fails though, I will in the meantime also work on building a business/income online and then pulling the plug and going overseas. In the meantime work on my foreign language skills too.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

In the meantime work on my foreign language skills too.

Choose wisely which languages you learn, specifically with your final destination.

This is why I'm dating a Hungarian, so she can teach me how to speak to the devil.

 

[Pandora]

I have strongly considered going overseas, and will do so if in the next few years I cannot find the right woman stateside.

I am going to be 33 next year and my time is ticking.

I would like to try out a few more cities in the US, try to find a girl in the 24-28 range that is second generation from another country, and that I can build a life with.

I want to stay in the states for now because my earning potential is simply much higher, a stable life for the kids is much more assured, I think the future is just brighter there than any other place at the moment.

If this fails though, I will in the meantime also work on building a business/income online and then pulling the plug and going overseas. In the meantime work on my foreign language skills too.

This sounds like a really good plan. I wish I had that mindset when I was 33. Check out that Tandem app too. It has native speakers on there for just about any language.

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

Exactly! I was kind of happy when they denied her K1 visa application. I was so relieved. Right now she is submissive and pleasant. I knew that if she got to the USA it was only a matter of time for her to change.

She told me that at the Visa interview they were already giving her pamphlet and materials about domestic violence and calling the police etc. She was shocked.

Why are you allowing her to even try to get a VISA if you are so concerned?

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

I met her on a language learning app. I met another woman on this app and went to go visit them. No regrets. Good experiences. That could have been a thing but I didnt want to cheat.

Guys have no idea the world they are missing if they dont dip in the international market. Its like fish in barrel.

I worked as a lab tech/ supervisor for years now I do fulltime ems. So they are not high paying jobs and I cant do them online.

I will have to figure something out.

I agree. Just get the option to go to a 3rd country, do not bring her here. if you have to come to the US, come by yourself for 2-4 months, make money, do your thing and then go back to whichever country you chose. It's not the most perfect situation so it calls for imperfect solutions. It is what it is.

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

American chicks will be obsolete in the next 10 yrs. They will be trying to make laws like the Norweigian women ( blocking Thai women).

Holy ****! I did not hear about the Norwegian situation! Yeah, lol, I could definitely see that happening here...

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

Pandora, you are making a mistake here.

There are too many variables that can go wrong, the culture shock will be huge for her.

How good is her knowledge of the english language, what marketable skills does she have, do you intend for her to be a stay at home wife?

Many cases like this of women being brought back end up in divorce, not necessarily because of anything you did wrong, but it is too much of a shock to the system for the weaker sex.

The winning formula is to find a second generation american girl who still has roots to her homeland, I hope you heed my message well. Who is integrated into society, who can be a team player financially, but yet still has some connection to traditional values from her parents.

This is probably the second best option but the problem is that here you are dealing with a WAY tinier dating market. it could take years to find someone who fits that criteria...

To your point, when a foreign woman comes here, she will be shocked by the fact that she will probably not be able to find other moms to hang with that she can relate to. Even if she finds other moms over time, they will likely be lonely and isolated in hostile territory so to speak. And the moms she finds will likely bi(t)ch and moan non-stop about their husbands which will over time trickle into said foreign woman's mentality...

Whenever I go to large parks, it's mostly post wall chicks with their dogs and a small amount of moms. The moms with carriages are like aliens in hostile territory. It must be lonely being a stay at home mom in the US compared to the supportive family cultures of other countries...

 

[DreamAgain]

This is probably the second best option but the problem is that here you are dealing with a WAY tinier dating market. it could take years to find someone who fits that criteria...

To your point, when a foreign woman comes here, she will be shocked by the fact that she will probably not be able to find other moms to hang with that she can relate to. Even if she finds other moms over time, they will likely be lonely and isolated in hostile territory so to speak. And the moms she finds will likely bi(t)ch and moan non-stop about their husbands which will over time trickle into said foreign woman's mentality...

Whenever I go to large parks, it's mostly post wall chicks with their dogs and a small amount of moms. The moms with carriages are like aliens in hostile territory. It must be lonely being a stay at home mom in the US compared to the supportive family cultures of other countries...

100% correct.

 

[DreamAgain]

This is probably the second best option but the problem is that here you are dealing with a WAY tinier dating market. it could take years to find someone who fits that criteria...

To your point, when a foreign woman comes here, she will be shocked by the fact that she will probably not be able to find other moms to hang with that she can relate to. Even if she finds other moms over time, they will likely be lonely and isolated in hostile territory so to speak. And the moms she finds will likely bi(t)ch and moan non-stop about their husbands which will over time trickle into said foreign woman's mentality...

Whenever I go to large parks, it's mostly post wall chicks with their dogs and a small amount of moms. The moms with carriages are like aliens in hostile territory. It must be lonely being a stay at home mom in the US compared to the supportive family cultures of other countries...

She will have to be more self reliant. To have some hobbies, to make new friends, all while having a language barrier that will make it very difficult to integrate.

I know such families. I am a children of immigrants myself. I was lucky that my parents assimilated pretty well, but not flawlessly. My mother certainly protested a lot and yearned to go back "home" many times. There were many fiery arguments about this topic, I sadly remember them vividly as a child.