joekerr31 said:
you graduate highschool and think life will be the bomb. but its not.
you get your drivers liscence, same thing.
you can drink, but still you aren't overcome with joy.
get a woman, same thing. get another woman, same thing.
you graduate university, same thing.
you get a job. get married. have kids.
you get the body you want.
you get the clothes you want.
and yet, happiness, lasting happiness, is always just around the NEXT corner.
you get in to a routine, you figure happiness MUST come during retirement. so you save and you work and you save and you work. you finally hit retirement age and you don't want to retire! your life has passed you by and you don't know where you missed the happiness train.
no amount of success can offset the existential delimmas that go along with being alive in western society today. you have to figure out happiness in spite of the world around you, because its not going to help you find it in anyway.
Ah, we have the good old Puritan ethic to thank for this fvcked up mentality. You’re not even supposed to enjoy anything now, and if you do, it’s probably a bad thing. You’re supposed to suffer and sacrifice now and your rewards are in heaven. Sensual pleasure is doubly bad.
An insidious perversion of this thought process is the extension of the idea that since everything is bad that is here and now, then the actual present is bad, so one always strives to escape or avoid it, rushing headlong for some dreamed-of future.
It’s a clever trick, a type of brain washing where the masses are convinced that where they are in time and place is bad, and that if they only do this or that, it will get better in the future.
I have counseled more than a few of my peers who have reached a bewildered state of awareness that: “OH SH*T, THIS IS ALL THERE IS”. No, I’m not disavowing heaven or religion, I’m referring to an awareness that the future that they have lived for is fast evaporating.
Unfortunately some never make the next step in awareness, that THIS IS ALL YOU NEED. It is very hard for the Western mind to accept that everything they could ever want or need, they already have. There is no need to hurry, no need to do anything.
Women are external and you don’t need them, but, because they are so fun, to deny oneself their pleasure is foolish. Here again we see many threads of men who, even with women, are always future-looking. They seek to nail down that LTR and are looking beyond their present with the woman.
The DJ guru’s have stumbled upon some critical “mystical” knowledge, that what you do NOW, immediately with a woman is how you intrigue her. Words, planning, discussing are almost useless with women. They FEEL in the present. Look at the Gunwitch material: you don’t talk about sex, you don’t PLAN for sex, you don’t SCHEDULE sex; you don’t even fantasize about sex, you ooze it from your pores, you vibe it and you make it happen in the now.
Sometimes we are our own worst enemy when we are with women. If we are preoccupied with working an angle, using a method, then we lose the moment with her, we are literally not there with her in the present. If you are not with her you can never take her with you, she cannot join you in your world.