Hearing things like this makes me worried about my little brother. He's 6'3 at 15 but very skinny, so he's eating 8000 cals to bulk up and get muscles, is in the gym. I know I'm thinking about this in the overprotective big sister way, but I don't want him to get hurt or abused by some crazy chick. He's a good kid with a huge heart and the fact that a girl can walk in his life and give him a lifetime of issues just is heartbreaking...
Not all women are as bad as the examples I referenced but it's also pretty common. I really think young men should be pushed to achieve as much as they responsibly can. The expectations that women have of men, in regard to being open to dating them, are substantially higher than what previous generations of men had upon them. An overwhelming majority of baby boomer males in the U.S ended up married and had children. This is not at all the case for modern young(ish) men and I believe that the trend is showing further rates of decline over the years to come. If a boomer man was 6', reasonably in shape and had a decent job he would not at all have struggled forming and maintaining a relationship with a normal/healthy weight woman without children, in fact I'd say it was almost a given that this would be the case. The dating market today is substantially more competitive than ever and it's going to going to be hard for any young man today.
I would encourage all young men to do this;
- Get in shape and take care of your body. This teaches discipline and also can get a man's competitive nature going. You don't have to be some steroid pumping maniac, but try to find a sport or activity that you really enjoy and pursue it. This could be running 5ks, getting into Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, swimming, etc.
- Get into a solid career/education plan, really needs no elaboration but doing well in this regard will lead to more confidence, etc.
- Work hard and make sound financial decisions that will set you up for a good future down the road. This is a much more difficult process now than it was when the boomer generation was in their prime years but still possible. Get some side hustles to rake in some extra money and invest and save that money. Go deliver pizzas at a busy place on the weekends or go mow lawns.
- Approach women when you are young in order to gain experience. A huge issue is many men are still inexperienced well past an age where it will not be an issue. This can lead to them getting taken advantage of by woman and ultimately lead to getting hurt and possibly discouraged from being in the dating market all together.
- Have a good group of guy friends that support you, this is healthy for men but many lack this as well.