ONEITIS - Lets Be Honest
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How does oneitis feel? HORRIBLE, yes its truly painful. Its just that feeling that holds you
and takes all your energy from you making you weak and emotional. Some can control it, MOST get controlled
by it. When oneitis has its claws in you IT WILL bring you down and suck your confidence, time, and
positive energy right out of your soul. You no longer feel like the man that you were, you wont be that
same guy ever again, period. More on this later. All you do is think of that one girl that is YOUR "dream girl"
your one and only. You think about her ALL day , ALL nite, first thing in the morning, last thing at nite, you
see her face every where you go, you wonder what shes doing rite now, what shes doing this week, who shes
hanging out with, what clubs shes in, what she gets up to, IF SHES THINKING ABOUT YOU like YOUR THINKING ABOUT HER, the list goes on and on and on and on. Its very
unhealthy and we have all been there.
There are several different heads of oneitis, some worse than others:
oneitis in LTR
When you actually have the girl you want and she monopolizes your thoughts like mentioned
above.
oneitis with a missed opportunity
When you have oneitis with a girl that HAD feelings for you at one point
and doesnt have them anymore whilst your feelings for her GROW. This is very very painful, ive been through it
,its like she just 'cast her spell' and left you hanging. If i remember this head of oneitis crossed over to the next more deadly form which will truly destroy you if you dont get out of it quickly...
oneitis when youve LJBF'ED
THIS IS LIVING HELL!, This is a slow painful death that no man deserves to suffer. This is a realm where truly
torchered souls dwell. This form of oneitis will punish you severely.
oneitis with a girl you dont know
This is when youve never actually met the girl, but just see her around. You might share the same circle of
friends etc etc, but youve never actually met.
Now thats covered lets get to the deep inner reasons why we develop oneitis in these situations. Oneitis is
like an 'infatuation' or an 'obsession' with a particular girl, an unhealthy infatuation. You think to
yourself "why cant i think of something else?" or "why did i have to meet her?". You just want to be your
self again, you question your self.
If we look deep within our selves we will find the answer. Its there waiting, all you have to do is search.
I looked deep within myself and i found out why i had severe oneitis for one girl.
Here are the reasons why:
"If i let go of / lose her then no other girl will want me"
This is the single most contributing factor that fuels the bouts of oneitis that torcher most of us. This
thought or state of mind is directly linked to having weak inner game or self esteem. You doubt your abilities
to get another girl, or another girl like her ( or even better than her ), so you hold on and develop ONEITIS.
You think "i have to make it work/ get her to like me / like me again / cos im doomed if i dont".
"its an honour for her to like me / be mine"
This isnt for you , its for your EGO. You want her on your arm to make you feel better so you try to get
her or fall into the cycle making her ike you and continously fail..
"not knowing when youve been defeated"
This is when you like the girl, ask her out and get rejected and NOT MOVE ON.. Youve been defeated, move on.
"She has to LIKE ME ME ME and NO ONE ELSE"
This is another factor that adds to the oneitis fire, POSSESSIVENESS. You want her to be yours and yours only
because you have already commited your self to her and want her to reciprocate. You become obsessed with her
because you think SHES YOURS FOR EVER, you actually believe that. ONEITIS is developed. You want her to like you / love you. Your now caught up in a cycle in which your trying to keep her interested in you. Your stuck in oneitis. Also, you probably want to possess her so that your either:
A) The first to fvck her ( take her virginity)
B) make sure your the only one who fvcks her and cant picture her getting d1ck from some other guy or being with someone else.
Thats how it was with me and my oneitis, its all INSECURITY
"weak inner game, low self esteem, no confidence"
People with low self esteem and ones who doubt themselves when it comes to girls develop oneitis ALOT.
You probably dont have much attention from girls and when one shows interest in you you get obsessed and think
"YES at LAST MY DAY HAS COME!!, IM NOT GONNA LET THIS ONE PASS, IM GONNA HOLD ON TO THIS ONE!!". When this happens you hold on for too long and it becomes an obsession. You develop oneitis.
"Not knowing when to say NEXT or MOVING ON"
This is due to having weak game . You dont know when the girl is not interested or just playing you along
or you havent made any moves and are just sitting there chumping over her. You read the whole scenario wrong
and fool your self into thinking that theres "something there" or that theres "still some passion/chemistry
between us". You end up lost in a never ending cycle and develop oneitis.
After digging deep within myself i realised that those were the primary factors as to why i had oneitis.
You have to dig deep and find answers. The girl i had oneitis for wasnt even that hot about hb 6-7, she is an
attention-*****, serial dater, and is the type of girl that expects guys to do as she says. I wondered as to
why I had oneitis for her and NOT any other guys, or my friends that knew her ( some dated her )? WEAK INNER
GAME and all that i pointed out above.
For all you guys in oneitis, ask your self this: how many other guys have oneitis for your chick? i bet its only YOU!
When i used to show my friends pictures of my oneitis (ex) or show her to them in person or talk about her, they would often get puzzeld as to why i was infatuated with her
They were more interested in other hotter girls. I had latched on to my oneitis and thought that she was the only girl for me, how foolish i was.
You see? its all in your head this infatuation, if she was truly a goddess as you lead your self to believe then every guy from here to the north pole would be infatuated with her NOT JUST YOU!. Oneitis likes to 'boil' in your brain and you add it fuel when you over-think and fantasize about the girl. For example, you imagine what it would be like for her to be 'your girl' or 'where your gonna take her next week and what you will do together' or 'how things would be if you hooked up' or 'how the future looks for both of you as an item' or any other scenarios in your oneitis infested mind. The reason you do this is because you CARE TOO MUCH and dont wanna FVCK THINGS UP.
This is a very very bad attitude because you focus everything on her and forget about your self completely. That will lead to your downfall
SNAP out of this ASAP, it really doesnt matter that much and the more you believe that ( cos its the truth ) the better off as a MAN you will be. SNAP out of it ASAP brothers :box:
For all you guys with oneitis fear not, your changing. Your becomming stronger , feel it and learn from it.
Look within your selves and find your answers because they are there waiting for you to break you
from these chains. Free your self.
Now that has been covered, how does one not get oneitis? Once bitten, NEVER AGAIN!!
Here is a list that should stop oneitis, or reduce it:
Dont have just one girl
Dont get EMOTIONALLY involved with ANY girl
Know that you should be able to WALK AWAY from any relationship without looking back
Protect your heart
Dont let your emotions cloud your judgment.
Dont doubt your self, if she goes then no problem, you can go get another better girl(s)
Dont put too much emphasis on girls, we really dont need them as much as you are led to believe.
And for gods sake make your move on that girl!!!!
For all you guys stuck in oneitis, Turn your back and WALK AWAY, cut the rope and never look back. :woo:
peace
muttley
EDIT: some new things added which i forgot
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
How does oneitis feel? HORRIBLE, yes its truly painful. Its just that feeling that holds you
and takes all your energy from you making you weak and emotional. Some can control it, MOST get controlled
by it. When oneitis has its claws in you IT WILL bring you down and suck your confidence, time, and
positive energy right out of your soul. You no longer feel like the man that you were, you wont be that
same guy ever again, period. More on this later. All you do is think of that one girl that is YOUR "dream girl"
your one and only. You think about her ALL day , ALL nite, first thing in the morning, last thing at nite, you
see her face every where you go, you wonder what shes doing rite now, what shes doing this week, who shes
hanging out with, what clubs shes in, what she gets up to, IF SHES THINKING ABOUT YOU like YOUR THINKING ABOUT HER, the list goes on and on and on and on. Its very
unhealthy and we have all been there.
There are several different heads of oneitis, some worse than others:
oneitis in LTR
When you actually have the girl you want and she monopolizes your thoughts like mentioned
above.
oneitis with a missed opportunity
When you have oneitis with a girl that HAD feelings for you at one point
and doesnt have them anymore whilst your feelings for her GROW. This is very very painful, ive been through it
,its like she just 'cast her spell' and left you hanging. If i remember this head of oneitis crossed over to the next more deadly form which will truly destroy you if you dont get out of it quickly...
oneitis when youve LJBF'ED
THIS IS LIVING HELL!, This is a slow painful death that no man deserves to suffer. This is a realm where truly
torchered souls dwell. This form of oneitis will punish you severely.
oneitis with a girl you dont know
This is when youve never actually met the girl, but just see her around. You might share the same circle of
friends etc etc, but youve never actually met.
Now thats covered lets get to the deep inner reasons why we develop oneitis in these situations. Oneitis is
like an 'infatuation' or an 'obsession' with a particular girl, an unhealthy infatuation. You think to
yourself "why cant i think of something else?" or "why did i have to meet her?". You just want to be your
self again, you question your self.
If we look deep within our selves we will find the answer. Its there waiting, all you have to do is search.
I looked deep within myself and i found out why i had severe oneitis for one girl.
Here are the reasons why:
"If i let go of / lose her then no other girl will want me"
This is the single most contributing factor that fuels the bouts of oneitis that torcher most of us. This
thought or state of mind is directly linked to having weak inner game or self esteem. You doubt your abilities
to get another girl, or another girl like her ( or even better than her ), so you hold on and develop ONEITIS.
You think "i have to make it work/ get her to like me / like me again / cos im doomed if i dont".
"its an honour for her to like me / be mine"
This isnt for you , its for your EGO. You want her on your arm to make you feel better so you try to get
her or fall into the cycle making her ike you and continously fail..
"not knowing when youve been defeated"
This is when you like the girl, ask her out and get rejected and NOT MOVE ON.. Youve been defeated, move on.
"She has to LIKE ME ME ME and NO ONE ELSE"
This is another factor that adds to the oneitis fire, POSSESSIVENESS. You want her to be yours and yours only
because you have already commited your self to her and want her to reciprocate. You become obsessed with her
because you think SHES YOURS FOR EVER, you actually believe that. ONEITIS is developed. You want her to like you / love you. Your now caught up in a cycle in which your trying to keep her interested in you. Your stuck in oneitis. Also, you probably want to possess her so that your either:
A) The first to fvck her ( take her virginity)
B) make sure your the only one who fvcks her and cant picture her getting d1ck from some other guy or being with someone else.
Thats how it was with me and my oneitis, its all INSECURITY
"weak inner game, low self esteem, no confidence"
People with low self esteem and ones who doubt themselves when it comes to girls develop oneitis ALOT.
You probably dont have much attention from girls and when one shows interest in you you get obsessed and think
"YES at LAST MY DAY HAS COME!!, IM NOT GONNA LET THIS ONE PASS, IM GONNA HOLD ON TO THIS ONE!!". When this happens you hold on for too long and it becomes an obsession. You develop oneitis.
"Not knowing when to say NEXT or MOVING ON"
This is due to having weak game . You dont know when the girl is not interested or just playing you along
or you havent made any moves and are just sitting there chumping over her. You read the whole scenario wrong
and fool your self into thinking that theres "something there" or that theres "still some passion/chemistry
between us". You end up lost in a never ending cycle and develop oneitis.
After digging deep within myself i realised that those were the primary factors as to why i had oneitis.
You have to dig deep and find answers. The girl i had oneitis for wasnt even that hot about hb 6-7, she is an
attention-*****, serial dater, and is the type of girl that expects guys to do as she says. I wondered as to
why I had oneitis for her and NOT any other guys, or my friends that knew her ( some dated her )? WEAK INNER
GAME and all that i pointed out above.
For all you guys in oneitis, ask your self this: how many other guys have oneitis for your chick? i bet its only YOU!
When i used to show my friends pictures of my oneitis (ex) or show her to them in person or talk about her, they would often get puzzeld as to why i was infatuated with her
They were more interested in other hotter girls. I had latched on to my oneitis and thought that she was the only girl for me, how foolish i was.
You see? its all in your head this infatuation, if she was truly a goddess as you lead your self to believe then every guy from here to the north pole would be infatuated with her NOT JUST YOU!. Oneitis likes to 'boil' in your brain and you add it fuel when you over-think and fantasize about the girl. For example, you imagine what it would be like for her to be 'your girl' or 'where your gonna take her next week and what you will do together' or 'how things would be if you hooked up' or 'how the future looks for both of you as an item' or any other scenarios in your oneitis infested mind. The reason you do this is because you CARE TOO MUCH and dont wanna FVCK THINGS UP.
This is a very very bad attitude because you focus everything on her and forget about your self completely. That will lead to your downfall
SNAP out of this ASAP, it really doesnt matter that much and the more you believe that ( cos its the truth ) the better off as a MAN you will be. SNAP out of it ASAP brothers :box:
For all you guys with oneitis fear not, your changing. Your becomming stronger , feel it and learn from it.
Look within your selves and find your answers because they are there waiting for you to break you
from these chains. Free your self.
Now that has been covered, how does one not get oneitis? Once bitten, NEVER AGAIN!!
Here is a list that should stop oneitis, or reduce it:
Dont have just one girl
Dont get EMOTIONALLY involved with ANY girl
Know that you should be able to WALK AWAY from any relationship without looking back
Protect your heart
Dont let your emotions cloud your judgment.
Dont doubt your self, if she goes then no problem, you can go get another better girl(s)
Dont put too much emphasis on girls, we really dont need them as much as you are led to believe.
And for gods sake make your move on that girl!!!!
For all you guys stuck in oneitis, Turn your back and WALK AWAY, cut the rope and never look back. :woo:
peace
muttley
EDIT: some new things added which i forgot
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