OMG, girlfriend went insane (SERIOUS!)

[KillingTime]

OMG... I am in complete shock right now, this is a long and confusing story:

I made the post earlier about my girlfriend and I having to keep the relationship a secret b/c of her parents. This past week she reluctantly ended it b/c we just couldn't be.

This is a girl that called me all day to tell me she loved me, she treated me like a king.
Today she turned into a completely different person... i mean out of nowhere, overnight she went from telling me she loved me to being angry, hostile and screaming at me to get the hell out of her life or she would call the cops on me.

Im completely heartbroken but also shocked... i mean she sounded straight-up posessed, she was screaming at me like I had just killed her family or something, just cold and hostile.
Something happened... I don't know what or if someone told her something but she was a completely different person, and she sounded SO angry... i didn't do a thing so I don't know what went down but something is really fishy.

Now things are going to get hella interesting though. She had ended it with me b/c she just couldn't tell her parents, this morning i sent them a long letter explaining the whole situation and telling them that their daughter and I would like to be together... she was too chicken to do it so i took charge, ok this was a few hours BEFORE she turned into linda blair.

I now have a psychotic girl who last week wanted to marry me and is now totally hostile against me. She hides it well so nobody knows that this is going on, her parents don't even know we were ever a couple.
In a day or two her parents are getting a letter in the mail revealing EVERYTHING that went on and stating that we want to be together...
The plan was obviously to win them over so we could be together, but since this nut-job lost her mind I have no clue what kind of hell that letter is going to cause now... im pretty sure she is now going to deny everything and tell them that she hates me and ive been bugging her this whole time (BS! she begged me to be with her EVERY day, hopefully I still have some of her emails saved for proof)... that or she will completely break down and admit that she has hated the way they have been so overprotective all these years, or who knows what else could happen...

Ah man, this is easily the strangest thing that has ever happened to me in my life. I am at a complete loss of words.. somebody said something to that girl that messed her up big time this week, im not kidding when i say she sounds posessed, that or the issues with her parents are way deeper than i ever knew... if that's the case things are about to get really interesting when that letter is delivered

 

[Last Man Standing]

There is another dude involved in her life!!!!

 

[Remulak]

Last Man, I love ya but you never got anything nice to say. Maybe she has psychological issues that you were unaware of that just came to light.

 

[Ice Cold]

Her mom found out and she was forced to cut off the contact with you.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Remulak, my objective is not to be "nice" but rather truthful! The truth is very harsh and ugly for some.

I should explain more for the response I gave - there could be many reasons why she flipped - but "why" she flipped is NOT important because - guess why? She never told him why she went ballistic!!!! What is more important is how she treated the innocent party in all of this drama -- MR dj Killing Time --- This was undeserved treatment!!!! Which tells me that DJ KT doesn't really know this girl -- she is hiding something!! Why blame KT??

Now someone that said she loves you a few days ago and then now totally disrespects you and screams at you as if you were a chump and a nobody - turns "cold" and "heartless" --- this tells me something is wrong and that her "I love yous" were fake!!!! DJ Kt was deceived by her sweet words!! Was he being used???

Their relationship was a secret from her parents?? WHY?? Hmmmm...Hmmmmmm...Hmmmmmmmm - I wonder why????

Here is what I think --- she was seeing another dude (who her parents knew well) at the same time as Mr DJ here - thus she had to keep MR DJ Killing Women" - I mean, "killing Time" away from her parents or else they will find out she is playing with two boys!! They approve of this other chap but maybe expressed disapproval of DJ KT!!

Maybe, just maybe someone told this other chap - when he came to town or whatever, that his girl was seeing another dude named DJ KT and her parents found out!! Now she is ruined because her parents disapprove of KT and accepts the other chap - but now the other chap don't want her because he has been played!!! So she is upset that her plot has been spoiled!!!!

Mabe she was deceiving DJ KT and told him to keep it (their relationship) a secret because he would find out about the other chap if he got too close to the family!!

Now DJ KT sent a letter revealing ALL!!!!!! WHAT DRAMA!!! This could be a soap opera!!!

Maybe it is something else but this scenario came to my head right away after I read killing time's post and tone of the post!!! I've been involved with girls/women for 34 years!!!! I have an imagination, if mothing else!!!

Nonetheless - it is fun to speculate - hopefully Dj Kt finds out the truth!!

 

[gherald]

Her parents found that out already I guess...

Similar situation has happened to me too few years back...

Her love for her parent(or fear) is greater than you...

Thats what i think...

 

[Babnik]

Remulak, my objective is not to be "nice" but rather truthful! The truth is very harsh and ugly for some.

I should explain more for the response I gave - there could be many reasons why she flipped - but "why" she flipped is NOT important because - guess why? She never told him why she went ballistic!!!! What is more important is how she treated the innocent party in all of this drama -- MR dj Killing Time --- This was undeserved treatment!!!! Which tells me that DJ KT doesn't really know this girl -- she is hiding something!! Why blame KT??

Now someone that said she loves you a few days ago and then now totally disrespects you and screams at you as if you were a chump and a nobody - turns "cold" and "heartless" --- this tells me something is wrong and that her "I love yous" were fake!!!! DJ Kt was deceived by her sweet words!! Was he being used???

Their relationship was a secret from her parents?? WHY?? HHMMMM....HMMMMM...HmmMMMMM I wonder why????

Here is what I think --- she was seeinfg another dude at the same time as Mr DJ here - who her parents knew thus she had to keep MR DJ Killing Women" - I mean, "killing Time" away from her parents or else they will find out she is playing with two boys!! They approve of this other chap but maybe expressed disapproval of DJ KT!!

Maybe, just maybe someone told this other chap - when he came to town or whatever, that his girl was seeing another dude named DJ KT and her parents found out!! Now she is ruined because her parents disapprove of KT and accepts the other chap - but now the other chap don't want her because he has been played!!! So she is upset that her plot has been spoiled!!!!

Mabe she was deceiving DJ KT and told him to keep it (their relationship) a secret because he would find out about the other chap if he got too close to the family!!

Now DJ KT sent a letter revealing ALL!!!!!! WHAT DRAMA!!! This could be a soap opera!!!

Maybe it is something else but this scenario came to my head right away after I read killing time's post and tone of the post!!! I've been involved with girls/women for 34 years!!!! I have an imagination, if mothing else!!!

Nonetheless - it is fun to speculate - hopefully Dj Kt finds out the truth!!

You know...regardless of how whack this sounds...I think you may be right.

Its possible that she cheated and feels REALLY guilty. I know girls do that...they break up because they cheated and realized that they are not angels like you think of them.

 

[DonDan]

My girl did that before... hmm... let me try to remember why she did it....... i think it was because her parents gave her a reality check on things about marriage and blah blah blah and how we're too young and how she got in trouble cus of us.. i knew when she turned into a witch, exactly what ur saying is when she got in trouble that had to do with us being together like getting caught, or finding a letter, or seeing her myspace... sht like that..

 

[insanity]

i agree that another man has entered the picture and she may or may not have cheated. my best friend was dating a girl who was in university and she would call him they would get along on the phone for an hour and then BAM, she would just snap and say thats it it's over for no reason. it stumped him. i knew what was really going though. she just wanted an excuse to dump him for a boy toy.

she did this same routine like 6 times through her school year. then when she came home she wanted to be exclusive with him. but she told him that she slept with 6 guys the whole year after they broke up all those times.....opps i mean when she broke up with him. like a fool he over looked it.

 

[Phyzzle]

Always, you people say that if she dumps you, then she MUST be banging some other guy. You aren't helping.

Look, just because she lost interest in KT doesn't mean she has to be banging another guy right now. Chicks are perfectly capable of loosing interest on their own. Chicks are perfectly capable of going a few days, or longer, without sex.

You guys have all these signs of cheating, like slowing down on the nookie, flaking out on dates, etc.. These are just signs of low interest. Other guys have nothing to do with her low interest in you. By saying "there's obviously another guy," you're just causing unnecessary anger when there's really no reason to believe there is another guy.

(The fact that she hid you from her parents, and dumped you via screaming, just means she's batsh!t. It has nothing to do with cheating or not cheating.)

 

[spesmilitis]

Whatever happened with her, that was no excuse for her to yell at you like that. Ignore her and cut her outta your life. If she ever comes back, demand a full explanation and don't let her off the hook too easily with some bs excuses.

 

[~attrACTION~]

Sorry, never mind, I made a mistake. Good luck.

 

[Cod3r]

^ ^ Haha lol this is the type of comedy that makes my sides hurt... tks again


-Cod3r

 

[KillingTime]

No way I'd take her back unless she got some counseling. We had been together (without her parents knowing, that took some work) for a year and this was completely out of character. She sounds cold and lifeless now, and very angry inside, something happened this past week, i just dont know what.

The cheating scenario immediately came to mind too, there's only one thing that makes that one a bit hard to believe and that's that we communicated WAY more than the average couple, possibly b/c we had less chances to go out. Her interest level in me was sky-high at all times, she was very clingy... she was calling me ALL day and i mean ALL day, every hour. Every night we'd practically fall asleep on the phone together.
I would always try to get her off the phone, id tell her we needed to have a bit of time to ourselves and shed get all teary and beg me not to leave her.
If she said she couldn't go out b/c her parents said no, she'd still be at home on the phone with me the whole time... I mean if she did cheat, well damn... I have to learn her strategy b/c it would have been almost impossible to pull off

Here's my main theory: (lol this is actually keeping me kind of entertained, even though i am heartbroken)
1. I gave her a present about a month ago, on the card i wrote "i love you" and i think i said how it had been the best year of my life being with her yadda yadda yadda). She had this hidden under her bed I think, one day when she got home she told me "hmm thats weird, the card is not in the same place i left it this morning...", at that point i was pretty certain her mom or someone had gone through her stuff and read it. It could be that her mom found it, flipped out and forced her to end it with me (she's done that before with some other dude).
I don't know if anyone ever saw the movie White Fang (lol follow me here..) but its about a guy and this dog he loves so much, at the end he has to leave the dog behind, the dog doesn't want to leave so he, in tears, starts yelling at it to leave him the hell alone... it broke his heart to do it b/c he didn't mean it but he had no choice
I know, this is stupid but that's almost exactly how it went down with us.. and im the damn dog in the situation!

alrighty... well that letter I sent should be arriving today or tomorrow and all hell is about to break lose. The parents will find out everything, she will either deny it, break down and finally tell them she hates being so over-protected, or make up some bs about me, they will either thank me or put a restraining order on me. Ill keep ya'll updated

 

[KillingTime]

KillingTime,

I have no experience with this type of situation, but I find it strange that just a few days ago, you posted a question, "Where do I find nice, down to earth girls?"

Perhaps either she ran into this thread on her own, which is online by the way, for the whole world to see, or maybe a friend showed it to her.

Either way, when you post about wanting to find new girls, and then your girlfriend goes psycho on you, well, what do you think?

Here is a link to your thread, just as a refresher:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=114545

I found it very useful though, since I am single.

LOL no no, i posted that thread AFTER this happened b/c if this girl does stay psycho, I need to move on. Prob is I have a hard time finding these girls and ive really lost a lot of my social network this past year so its even tougher to bounce back.

 

[Tazman]

Her interest level in me was sky-high at all times, she was very clingy... she was calling me ALL day and i mean ALL day, every hour. Every night we'd practically fall asleep on the phone together.
I would always try to get her off the phone, id tell her we needed to have a bit of time to ourselves and shed get all teary and beg me not to leave her.

Women, especially YOUNG women can flip on you in a hot second. Unless she has some mental disorder (which I doubt), her message is clear. She wants you to absolutely leave her alone, and you should do that definitely. Honestly, it doesn't matter what the reason is (although it would be humorous to find out why). Most likely she's either with another dude or is preparing to do so and you are an obstacle, so she's getting rid of you the hard and fast way.

I seriously doubt this has anything to do with her parents, they may not like you messing with her but if she truly cared about you it wouldn't matter (and she wouldn't scream at the "love of her life" for no reason), she'd just do it in secret. It doesn't make sense to you because you claim it happened so fast and unprovoked, so I wouldn't worry at all about it and just make a clean break. Look at things from her angle, she wants you GONE, so stop caring about the "why", it's not even worth the energy, leave with your pride intact.

 

[KillingTime]

Yea i do agree with you, unfortunately im stuck in the situation for now all because of the letter... i sent that letter about 4-5 hours before she went psycho.

im glad i sent it though, i see it as win-win for me.
1. If there is another guy involved, nobody f*cks with me and this is some sweet revenge. as soon as her parents get that letter her whole plan is going to fall apart while i move on with some other chick.
2. if it really was her parents, there's a tiny chance that the letter will make all the issues surface and we can actually pursue a normal relationship now if the adams family over there gets there act together.

i get some satisfaction either way.

 

[musclyjerk]

If it's any consolation I've had this happen too. Exactly the same situation.

Ultimately you will never find out why as you cannot trust what she's telling you is the truth.

While it's true she may of cheated and feels so guilty about it she wants you to be angry/mad at her...... it's possible she's doing the whole 'dog' thing you mentioned and her family have come down on her real hard and she's real mad, powerless... leaving her no choice but to push you away completely.

Maybe it will be easier for her if she thinks you hate her.

Who knows. But, it's not good thinking about why or trying to figure it out. That's for sure.

The Muscly Jerk

 

[spesmilitis]

I don't know if anyone ever saw the movie White Fang (lol follow me here..) but its about a guy and this dog he loves so much, at the end he has to leave the dog behind, the dog doesn't want to leave so he, in tears, starts yelling at it to leave him the hell alone... it broke his heart to do it b/c he didn't mean it but he had no choice
I know, this is stupid but that's almost exactly how it went down with us.. and im the damn dog in the situation!

man, that broke my heart.

 

[Last Man Standing]

No way I'd take her back unless she got some counseling. We had been together (without her parents knowing, that took some work) for a year and this was completely out of character. She sounds cold and lifeless now, and very angry inside, something happened this past week, i just dont know what.

WHAT?? You kept this secret from her parents for a whole year?? WHY??? Most girls that are in love with their beau introduce him immediately to their parents and friends!! How do you know her parents don't approve of the relationship between you two if they don't know about you??? And how could they not like you if they never met you? Or did they? Did your girl tell you that her parents didn't like you?

When you are a "secret" for a few months something is wrong! When you are a secret for a whole year something smells very fishy!!!!! Why would you go along with such folly for a whole year???? I think you were deceived!!! For what reason - I wonder!

For your sake fellows - never believe women when they use "I love yous" constantly - unless she will become your wife!! Women always use these sweet words to lull the man into submission and their control!!! They want men to keep their guard down and then the man never questions her intentions or rarely follow-ups on his suspicions!!!