ok small problem with 2 hotties....saw me with the other

[electron]

OK I went out on a 1st date with a solid 9.0 (19) she was smokin anyway we go to Mexicali Rosas for a couple drinks, and as we are standing waiting to be seated Natalie my date says are those your friends over there in the corner? Apparently they were all waiving at me, but I didn't initially see them, then I do, and so I shout back at 'em and thats all cool...they yell a few things back whatever....there is like 4 guys and 4 girls. Then I notice a particular girl I know.......sitting with them (see below)

The other day I was at the grocery store, and I # closed on another solid 9.0 again she was (19) her name was Lindsey....I called her yesterday and we chatted a bit, I told her we should go out sometime this week and she said sure, call me.

I had called my buddy (who was one of the guys at the restaurant) the other day before I called Lindsey and asked her out, and mentioned this chick Lindsey whom I had met at the grocery store. We figure out that he knows who she is, and that his GF and her are tight........so he says some good things about her and I think his GF called her after and mentioned all this to her, anyway I was stoked for a date with her later this week.

So back to the current situation, Lindsey is THERE! at Mexis and sees me with Natalie......at this point I am panicking inside, and Natalie is like whats up....so we take a seat and go on with the date with Natalie........


What to do!... ...I have only talked to Lindsey 2x once at the grocery store and once on the phone.......Should I have gone up to her and said hi? I know I should have, but I was soooo not expecting this.....how should I handle this? Is this a bad thing? What to do? As I still want to go on the date with Lindsey....I need some damage control??


Help!

 

[sAxyguy83]

Sounds like one of the 80's comedy movies. One little bit of advice - don't try to cover your a$$ with lies, or you'll just end up in even deeper sh*t. Unless she is bi and/or unusually tolerant, you've probably lost pretty much all chances with Lindsey. Cut your losses and have a blast with Natalie, and leave Lindsey for another time or another DJ.

 

[BobbDobbs]

Actually, I recommend lying your arse off. Tell #2 you and #1 aren't getting along anymore, she's your ex, you're breaking up, etc.

 

[electron]

haha you're prolly right.....


Although I really wanted to at least go on a date with her......is ther ANY chance whatsoever? I need a good DJ technique now more than ever!

 

[sAxyguy83]

Your only chance is to follow BobbDobbs' advice and lie your a$$ off. There's just one small problem with this - the more you lie and cheat, the harder it is to keep it all together, and eventually it usually blows up in your face, and every lie comes back to bite you in the a$$. If you think you can keep it up, lots o' luck, but you've got a better chance of accidentally running Saddam Hussein over with your car...

 

[Julian]

**** that man, you have a very unlikely coincidence here. This is scandle so just play along...

Alright you must talk to your friend and you have to make sure his facts are your facts.

You can date both women at the same time, it this easy.

So tell your freind to tell his gf that you and this natalie girl are actually COUSINS. So now they go along with it and she will see it as purely innocent. Now Lindsey will question why you didnt come and say hi, heres what you say to that. "Sorry i didnt come over, i thought you were on the date with <insert name of random guy that was there> because i heard he liked you or something. And if she asks about Natalie, just say shes a cousin.

Well now you have alibies and can juggle Lindsey and Natalie. banging them both ferociously.

 

[electron]

Julian, I like your logic....haha I was gonna say she was a co worker but cousin sounds good, also your tip to say that I thought she was with one of the guys could work too Im gonna try that angle.

 

[BobbDobbs]

Originally posted by Julian
So tell your freind to tell his gf that you and this natalie girl are actually COUSINS.

Cousins is kinda lame though. Some guy told my sister that, and that was 30 years ago. At least try something plausible.

 

[electron]

I was thinking co worker? Maybe that will work....haha I cant believe the odds of this happening never did I anticipate this...

I do like the "bang them BOTH ferociously" part though...I am definitely for that!

 

[DJ Logic]

Terrible advice on this thread

Lying and cheating is not DJ

it is weak!

You would be surprised how many girls get excited by the fact that you are in high demand.

This is what you do. When she asks you about the other chick, tell her you are not in a serious relationship and are screening girls in hopes of finding the right one. Then go into detail about the qualities you are searching for, and how looks are just superficial, etc etc. It helps if you already have a vivid idea of your ideal mate so you can break it down for tha honey. This gives them hope that they can tame you

Stop worrying what these bytches think about you and just have fun with this.

BTW, this is such a TERRIBLE problem. I am crying for you!

 

[TesuqueRed]

whoah! electron!---stop stop stop stop...! Back it up here! You're going down the wrong path with all this and will only make it all worse.

You immediately presumed you are "caught".
Which presumes you did something wrong.

I see no such thing.

Unless you've left stuff out, you are merely dating. You asked a girl out, made plans, and enjoyed yourself and your friends. Yes, you even enjoyed your date. You are not an established BF/GF here, you are not in a LTR, you are not engaged or married. You are going out on--as of yet--a single night for fun, dancing, eating, drinking, etc.

No crime committed here!

And believe me, each of those 9.0 19yr olds would not hesitate to flirt, give out phone numbers and accept dates with other guys even though they had gone out on a date with you.

So why are the rules different for you? Why are you putting yourself in such constraints---actually, better word here--why are you whipping yourself before anyone else has the chance to try and whip you into obedience--???

Put it another way: why are you creating a problem for yourself before there is one? Don't get me wrong--one or both of them, and even your friends, may try to make this into a problem, but you're already doing the leg-work on that before they've even started. Why?

Were you caught? Yeah, sure. And it took awhile for me not to act guilty when I drove up to an intersection and a cop pulled up behind me--it's just a stupid conditioned response you need to challenge, work through its irrationality, suppress it if you have to, and get past it to seeing it clearly.

Then again, you weren't caught--you were doing nothing wrong, and you simply ran into another girl you're dating. Handle it with class, of course, and you can even introduce them--but don't go being all guilty and then start making up stories.

Stand up to your guilt thoughts yourself and then you can stand up to any attempt by her or your friends to whip you, make you feel guilty or otherwise test you. Don't apologize--you have no reason to. Don't act guilty. Explain only what you need to explain--just the facts:
--I've gone out on a single date with you;
--I go out often with friends, both men and women;
--I am free to date others just as you are;
--and what's between her and me isn't really anyone else's business at the moment;
--and this isn't really open for discussion.
--and I don't owe you an explanation. If we become a couple, then the rules are different and the rules will be decided at that time.

Look them directly in the eye--level stare--speak directly and succinctly, state your position and leave it at that. Don't cave into any manipulation, just restate your position. I wouldn't even argue or explain.

 

[TesuqueRed]

jeezus, I forgot this part, too!

Another point you're about to screw up is that if they can get mad at you, get you feeling guilty and apologize or make up stories, etc. they will have gotten you to wuss out, they will have gotten you to cave.

Girl 1 seeing you with girl 2 is uber-social proof (my apologies to any german speakers out there....) This is huge in your favor! They know you are popular, social, has high value and will have to work hard for you---just standing there with a pert set won't do it this time...

Oh--they'll probably make the tests that much more deadly and serious, they'll use their best stuff here, so expect it and be ready. Don't apologize, don't back down, be clear and be firm. Take the attitude that this is all quite natural and that if they can't handle it like adults, you will need to go out with someone more mature.

Good luck dude--take this oppty and use it!

 

[electron]

TesequeRed, DJ Logic and everyone thanks for all the advice it is really appreciated.....I am SO glad I found this site it is irreplaceable...

BTW Natalie is SO amazing I am gonna need every trick in the book to work this one..... wish me luck, I do have way more confidence than ever before.....but Lyndsey is so hot too and seems realy down to earth and I at least want to try her out so to speak as well.......both these chicks are amazing.

Until a week ago I would never have even approached these chicks ever, now I am doing approaches at the super market (Lyndsey) and scoring her # while she is buying her gorceries.... she is like........here is my # I just broke up with my bf a month ago...she practically wrote the number down the second I asked.

These are girls I wonder have never even thought of trying to talk to let alone # close and date......

 

[die4me]

Yeah, don't act as if you did something wrong. Think of it as a BLESSING. When my girlfriend catches other women flirting with me, she tries twice as hard to please me, so play it all good. I even go out and just hang out alone with a girl and I just tell her to trust me. If I can get away with that with a girlfriend, what can YOU get away with just random dating? Think about it.

 

[electron]

OK I think I will call her tomorrow...I am not going to bring it up unless she does......

BTW... I now what restaurant NOT to take Lyndsey on a date! HAHA

 

[KiInCollege]

Woah woah! Hold on cowboy! You are a DJ. How did you ever get the idea that you are already exclusive with someone?

You are dating. You are not commited. Use this situation to your advantage with Lindsey, instead of thinking of some lame lie.

Men go on dates - with multiple women. It's okay. It's not taboo. You didn't cheat. It's fine if she knows you are dating while getting digits. Unless she is insecure and wants a loser with no social life, she will only be more interested that you are a social man who wanted her number.

Women don't mind competing. Your social value went up when she saw that you are successful with other girls.

How much do you want to bet that the 8 people at that table spoke about you and your date? They make a few small jokes, another girl thought you were a player, one of the men may have said you're a man's man, etc. Give them some credit - their consensus is that they KNOW you were there on a date with a 9, not some co-worker.

You have nothing to be afraid of.

 

[Quick]

Just wanted to chime in and agree with the guys that told you that this isn't a problem. You haven't even went on a date with this girl yet, she doesn't expect you to be exclusive. If it comes up, just make clear the other girl is only a date, not a girlfriend. This is a positive, not a negative. Your demand just went up.

 

[Julian]

Yeah now that i see it from different perspectives, i agree. My advice wasnt as sound as i thought it was when i wrote it ahha. Learn something new everyday!

 

[electron]

Yeah now that i see it from different perspectives, i agree. My advice wasnt as sound as i thought it was when i wrote it ahha. Learn something new everyday!

That's whats great about this site...... is you can learn from others.

 

[BGMan]

Read KiInCollege's post again!

Actually, it's a turn-on to women if they see you with other women, and you're not exclusive. You know, Kitty Kats Kompete.

BGMan