Re: Online dating.
I got 7 lays in January all from OLD, including the current girlfriend. Be algorithmic in your approach. Quick rundown of my strategy. As you guys already know, the pictures & profile are more important than anything. This is the game strategy only.
Messaging
The script always looks like this. I was active on 4 apps, did the same pitch every single time.
Me: Hey how are you
Her: Good, u?
Me: I'm well, just got back from the gym. How often do you work out?
Her: <answer>
Me: Oh. What's your name?
Her: <name>. U?
Me: Eyebrollin. Nice to meet you <name>. Let's get to know each other over drinks.
<wait for response>
Easy friendly intro. Nothing cheesy or offensive. No punctuation in the first message, but spelling and grammar remain correct. The gym line is a qualifier I look for so I know where she stands. It's also an open ended question. The answer isn't all that important to the process. The name exchange is just to lengthen the conversation with a "formal" introduction. If she responds that she doesn't drink I'd always follow up with coffee, then tea. What to do on the next response (assuming she responds, some don't which means they're out).
Scenario 1: Compliance.
Her: Sure
Me: What days are you free this week?
Her: <schedule>
Me: Ok, let's meet at <location> at <time>. Does that work for you?
Her: Yes sounds good.
Me: Great, I'll see you there. <phone number> if you need to reach me
Her: ok <phone number>
It usually goes smoothly like this. If she gives you exact days, choose one and make it work. If she gives you an open schedule answer like "any day after 6," give her two days of options (i.e. Monday at 7 or Wed at 9) and ask which one works better for her. She'll choose.
At this point the date is set up. I don't call or text to verify.
You should already know where you stand if she flakes. If she texts you beforehand, 90% of the time it is to see if you still plan on showing up (and now you have her number if she didn't leave it in a message).
Scenario 2: Non Compliance
Her: I'd prefer to chat more before meeting
Me: Sure we can talk, what is your phone number?
In this scenario, she will give you the number which you will send a "ping" text with your number, then call her on the phone for 5-10 minutes to ask her out. But what if she doesn't?
Her: I need to know more about you before I give you my number.
Me: What would you like to know about me?
I got a few of these. Believe it or not this will build rapport since it forces her to inquire about you. After you answer a few of her questions, go back to asking for her phone number so you can call her up and ask her on the date. Don't ask for the date a second time on the app. Don't think you're out if you get to this phase.
The strategy is get to the point of making the date as soon as possible, by establishing frame. If they don't play ball with this template their interest level just isn't high enough or they are just too rigid to waste time on. They will put up blockades on every advance you make. There is no need for elaborate questions or witty text game. The direct approach works with women, especially if you mass message as many women as possible.
Remember, if a woman stops answering your messages she is not interested.
If she answers, she has some interest, even if it isn't where it needs to be at that point in time.
