Thanks, I'm glad someone got something out of my experiances I've had in the past few weeks.Originally posted by FromNothin2Somethin
These boot camp posts are pretty cool. It seems like a tight way for yall to feed off each other's positives and negatives, and definitely learn somethin along the way.
Rahul, I REALLY like your table moves.
That's EXACTLY what i wanna start doin. Last year at school I was always cool with eating by myself or one of my regular guy friends, but not anymore. My problem is, I usually don't bother eating lunch (or am just not hungry) until my classes are over for the day sometime between 3 and 4 in the afternoon. By then, a lot of the eating area has cleared out and there are plenty of tables free so i feel like i shouldn't bother, or that i don't have a legitimate way to ask a girl if i could sit with her. But I definitely wanna start changing my eating patterns so it makes things easier for me, so it gives me kind of an initial excuse to start doing this.
There's just too many good opportunities here at school to pass up. If I could have the balls to go up and ask if i could sit and eat with a girl it would make my day. Plus, it's kind of an initial date right on the spot!
I would happy to take any advice or suggestions you have about your approaches doing this. I'm sure you can do it all times of the day too Thanks, peace.
The one thing I see flawed in your thinking is that you need a "legitimate way" to sit down at a table with a hot girl. I'm pretty sure (unless your cafeteria is ridiculously busy) that there will always be open tables available. Thing is, you should never hid your sexual desire or your identity as a sexual being. This is total nice guy thinking. The times when I feel the most ballsy and when I feel the greatest boost to my confidence are when the cafeteria is pretty empty and there's a HB (or a few HB's) sitting at table surrounded by empty tables. That's when I walk up, make EC, smile, and say "hey, this seat taken?".
What's really increased the effectiveness of my approaches is being relaxed and casual. Make it seem like this is something you do all the time (and before long it will be something you do all the time). One of my friends who is in a UW fraternity and is probably the most popular guy, and biggest pimp I know gave me this line to remember "Act as if", like in the movie Boiler Room. You don't need to drive a porsche to get the b*tches, all you need to do is "Act as if you drive a porsche".
Anyways, good luck in working on your approaches and breaking out of your shell. I found that once I got started everything seemed to have a snowball effect.
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