Odds of Getting Approached by Women

[labyrinth]

I basically never get blatantly hit on by women in clubs and bars but last night a decent looking chick came up to me and started talking and seemed to be giving signs of interest. How often do you all get approached by chicks at bars and clubs? Is it just me or is it rare for women to take the initiative and approach a guy?

 

[Snow Plowman]

I tend to get opened 1-2 times a day when I go out now. I think it has to do with my overall style and thought patterns. I thought it was just luck for me to be getting opened that much, but I then noticed when I don't pay attention to no one, everyone is looking at me and when I look at them they look away quickly as if I just caught them thinking dirty thoughts.

Personally I don't think its cool waiting for chicks to open you because for most people you'll be waiting a LONG time and also because it limits you to only the chicks who open you.

 

[swifTy]

I tend to get opened 1-2 times a day when I go out now. I think it has to do with my overall style and thought patterns. I thought it was just luck for me to be getting opened that much, but I then noticed when I don't pay attention to no one, everyone is looking at me and when I look at them they look away quickly as if I just caught them thinking dirty thoughts.

Personally I don't think its cool waiting for chicks to open you because for most people you'll be waiting a LONG time and also because it limits you to only the chicks who open you.

lucky boy. you must have good image. curious man, how do they open you?

 

[labyrinth]

I have often noticed them look at me and then look away quickly as you mentioned, but I almost never have them come up to me like that. It's happened maybe 4 or 5 times in my life but that's it.

 

[marinetti]

talk to the guy that started that other thread. seems to happen to him all the time.

 

[skirtChaser]

guys here want to roast you because of it, (that says a lot right there) but I get approached all the time in bars.......all the time........all.......the .......time, and its not skanks, girls nowadays have more power, its not uncommon for women to decide they want to meet somebody and introduce themselves, I've noticed some women won't give guys attention that approach them, but the same women will give all kinds of attention to people they approach, it could be a location, I'm on the west coast and people are a little different on the east coast, I don't think its cool for dudes in here to be so upset be they don't get approached. the best dressed man always gets approached.....always, its not about waiting for a chick to approach, most of the time they just come out of nowhere.

 

[frisco]

All the time personally my last 4 GF were girls who approached me or asked me out, number. say if i went to the mall prolly 3-4 times usually its in the stores and thell come up and start talking to me. I don't even expected it sometimes. just peacock buy some cool ****. sunglasses, watches, jackets, hoodies, Shoes. women notice that and you just stay in there awareness, much like a hottie in the same store will stay on your mind, and thell get the urge to approach.

 

[skirtChaser]

yeah and malls too!.....thank you.....just because some men don't get approached doesn't mean you should blame the men that do. take your anger and go see a hair club for men....lol

and I can say that I'm bald (by choice), believe it or not some women go crazy over bald men. not men with thinning hair, I'm talking about shaving your head with a razor . air jordan style.

 

[swifTy]

so how do they open you?

 

[Snow Plowman]

so how do they open you?

Little dumb sh!t...Some examples I can remember...

- Chick with 2 guys are walking, she sees me. I'm waiting to cross the street and she opens me "Hey do you have a light?"

- I'm with my brother and mother, chick walks up to me asking if I work here when she can clearly see I'm not wearing the stores uniform. When she asks, I play like I work here and she bust out laughing. She then asks my mother if she can hit me. (Note - This was a lady who was maybe 28-29)

- I'm walking with my father and this chick with a group of guys comes and opens me with "Me and you need to talk". I claw her in and realize one of the guys that know her is pissed. (I guess he liked her lol) He basically tells me I'm in the wrong area and calls me a homo.

- One day I'm sarging and this real HOT chick is walking in front of me, she is looking so seductive and it was a day when I was out of it PU wise. Like all I wanted to do was go home. Next thing I know she notices me and OPENS me, asking for directions. She even kinos me abit by brushing her arms against me. I'm looking at her all seductive like "I know why you asked that"

- Another day sarging I'm sitting down in front of a store, a 2set rolls by, one of the chicks spots me and says to her friend "I'm not going into the store I'll wait out here". She sits by me, I'm kind of laughing cause I already know this sequence too well. Her friend is arguing with her to go in the store and she basically says to me "Tell her I don't want to go in the store". I had just laughed and ignored her. She assumed I was some AFC because I didn't approach her so she just went in the store. Then she waited outside and was talking for like 10mins with her friend hoping I'd approach.

- Another day this business chick is walking with her business partner. She opens me trying to say she is looking for people to work at her job since she is a asst manager. She's trying to hire more but yet is complimenting me. She stops when she realizes that the guy is right next to her. She basically says "Your dressed real...do you live in the area? I'm a asst manager and I have spots open...What's your #, I'll call you so you have my #." I fuked up because at the time I didn't have a cell so her fancy way of gaming me didn't go too well. Instead she ended up having my # and I KNEW she wasn't going to call. The odds were 100-1 that she'd call. I knew for a fact she wasn't trying to hire me for anything.

- Randomly walking and chick says "hi" to me. It was one of those days I was just pissed off in field at my performance lol.

- My cousin's friend basically wanted me. She seen me at a family get together and her and her little sister were just gaming me. Asking ****loads of questions and wanted to know my life. I didn't have to do Sh!t. Just shut my fuking mouth and just answer there stuff without making it boring. I remember at first it was just the lil sister that was speaking to me and the older one was quiet. For some reason I knew she was attracted though becuase her lil sister was basically DHVing her lol. When we left that day she basically bent over to see if I was looking at her ass and I was of course. Next time she sees me she speaks to me and is asking all this stuff and when my other cousin sits on my lap, the girl goes "Who is that? How do you know her?" lol it caught her off guard because she didn't know it was my cousin, and she wants me but out of no where a girl falls into my laps.

- One time my friends and I were getting on the train and they were trying to tell me not to join the army. Out of no where a 3set 2 girls 1 guy, opens me by saying "Noooo, don't go to the army". I then joke that they can be my medics.

- One time in wendy's I bought 1 order of nuggets. The chick spends 5mins saying "You sure that's all you want". I guess she wanted me to order her # too. After that day everytime she seen me it was the same exact question.

- A chick opens me by saying she used to go to my old High school as she seen me walking with a gym bag that has my school name on it. My friend kept saying go game her but I didn't want too. She had a nice ass but she was more of a GILF instead of a MILF to me. She looked like she could be hitting 40-50, but nonetheless on a lonely night I would've called her over and fuk her old ass.

- At a party chick turns around and points at me, because the song was saying something about find a man you want and point him out or something like that. She was dancing all seductive.

Overall most of the ways I get opened its obvious they are attracted. Some are better at hiding there intention, but now that I have the mindset that even if a chick looks at me she wants the dik, its pretty hard for them to get all sneaky with the intentions. So longs a chick is standing next to me, then I assume she is attracted now.

As to how this all started I'm not sure if its from my rewiring of my Identity or from my style or a mixture of both. But all I know back when I first started learning this or even before that I never actually been approached. Even if I got AIs from chicks I would NEVER get approached. Now I get countless AIs and actually get approached just about everytime I go out. Also when I open sets I never really get any harsh blowouts nor any nasty sets. (Which sucks because I really liked sets that started off very *****y)

 

[War Against Betaism]

No women has ever approached me in the club, however, there have been plenty of times when girls have tried creating opportunities for me to approach them. It's so obvious.

 

[cant think of a user name]

I have often noticed them look at me and then look away quickly as you mentioned, but I almost never have them come up to me like that. It's happened maybe 4 or 5 times in my life but that's it.

Have you ever sort of just ignored them, so they look away, and then later on they look back really quickly to try to see if they can catch you looking in their direction?

 

[Nouse4one]

depends

If you put your self in the position to be hit on, its endless. ( try going to a tanning salon for a week with out geting hit on ) But generaly the quality of the women that hit on men are that of a homeless shelter.

 

[skirtChaser]

sounds like you live on the wrong side of town, I don't live close to any homelss shelters

 

[Snow Plowman]

Have you ever sort of just ignored them, so they look away, and then later on they look back really quickly to try to see if they can catch you looking in their direction?

I've tested this out extensively and its how I found out that alot of chicks are looking at me. I think its because sometimes I forget to smile and I go back to my old ways of looking dead serious lol.

lol
sounds a bit fantastical, all of these approaches out of thin air, from being total strangers they must be making that mental decision based on your looks

i am curious as to your physical appearance...tall? smart? muscular?

I'm about 6ft and SKINNY, am I really good looking? I don't know. I've had guys say I'm a pretty good looking guy but back then I seriously could see what part of me was good looking and if I was good looking how come I wasn't getting any chicks. Don't get me wrong there were a few chicks who liked me but they were all unattractive.

In the case now its majority of the chicks who are attracted and the ones who've opened me ranged from ok to attractive. The hottest chick who ever approached me was a 9 who before realizing it was her, first time I ever saw her was when I lift my head up and realize a SEXY woman just walked by. I couldn't help but play that back in my head and then I realized "Fuk that girl was AWESOME, I have to turn around and go after her" At this time though she was atleast a good 2 blocks. When she opened me I realized AFTER that it was her.

What I really think it is that got me like this was because of me rewiring my identity for a good 6 months. Like literally my game went BAD during the transition. But at the end of the day I created a RAW Authentic personality that is unique to me. The chicks can feel the vibe and my sub-communication. One thing I always thought was that every chick loved me because of my Identity and that they were attracted even if they glanced, or stood close by me for too long.

A good example would be, everytime I walk in a new venue I have a ****y ass smirk because I know everyone is looking. It's like "God, I already know you want me its ok". I never make it actually get to my head or associate it as validation because then if chicks don't give me no attention I would end up feeling crappy. So I never attach any of that stuff to who I am. Basically they are just attracted to who I am and want to get to know who I am. It doesn't mean they want to jump on my dik yet, it just means the chicks want to get to know me in hopes of getting my validation. Maybe when they meet me the decide they want to fuk becuase they realize how quick I escalate.

I never get put in the friend zone because I always escalate hardcore from when the first words are exchanged. It's just Who I am.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

I get opened alot, usually by women my age or older, the younger ones are too intimidated by me to open me, they're usually too worried about the wet spot that's developed in their crotch to be able to talk when I'm around.

 

[sexybeast]

Rah, snow plowman you must have something pretty special going on to get appoached so much.

I dont really think its a matter of: Goodlooking guy= Girls always approaching/opening.

Even though girls are more forwards these days they are still scared of rejection. "Female status" and all that crap.

So my guess is: Goodlooking guy= Girls are more intimidated, and think the chances of rejection are higher. So they give of more ioi's. Generally speaking thats how girls communicate interest anyway.

Now this is just my own observation,... I think the goodlooking, pretty boy type will get approached alot more than mr macho, well built kinda of guys because chicks are more comfortable opening that type of guy, for some reason or another.

Make sense? Probably not

I'm the pretty boy type, and do get opened alot in clubs mainly... now a few of my goodlooking, macho, well built mates dont get approached all that much, but they still get pvssy by the truck load.


Bottome line: Who gives a fvck? Dont sit back in the hope girls are going to open you... It's YOUR JOB as a man to do most of the work involved in PU. End of.

 

[Snow Plowman]

are you saying that its possible to convey one's personality before even speaking to a woman...so that she is interested enough to open?

im much rather inclined to think you're good looking, but maybe don't know it

It's all about sub-communication, I don't really focus on my words anymore. I do have a little structure in my head to get from point a to point b but I just use it as a reference.

What I mainly focused on was my identity and changing my thought patterns that way I'd have attractive behavior patterns. Spent a good 6 months on changing my whole identity.

I notice the change outside of PU too, for one my family is always qualifying themselves too me, seriously I hate this, but a man of dominance have to lead so I guess I have to lead my GRANDFATHER. Seriously though this was probably the weirdest thing because in my head I'd be thinking "Stop Qualifying yourself to me" or "God they want me to lead again". I litterally have to choose where we eat, what we do, etc. I guess thats what happens when your taking on a higher status.

Rah, snow plowman you must have something pretty special going on to get appoached so much.

I dont really think its a matter of: Goodlooking guy= Girls always approaching/opening.

Even though girls are more forwards these days they are still scared of rejection. "Female status" and all that crap.

So my guess is: Goodlooking guy= Girls are more intimidated, and think the chances of rejection are higher. So they give of more ioi's. Generally speaking thats how girls communicate interest anyway.

Now this is just my own observation,... I think the goodlooking, pretty boy type will get approached alot more than mr macho, well built kinda of guys because chicks are more comfortable opening that type of guy, for some reason or another.

Make sense? Probably not

I'm the pretty boy type, and do get opened alot in clubs mainly... now a few of my goodlooking, macho, well built mates dont get approached all that much, but they still get pvssy by the truck load.


Bottome line: Who gives a fvck? Dont sit back in the hope girls are going to open you... It's YOUR JOB as a man to do most of the work involved in PU. End of.

Yea, I haven't capitalized on this since I was noticing this through my process of changing my whole identity. The change actually made my game HORRIBLE, but long term though I know my game is going to sky rocket because I'm already getting opened and most of the stuff I've implemented have caused me to be more effective when it comes to gaming.

Also about the pretty boy type, I think my style really has something to do with it. One thing for sure is I know I convey alot of sexuality with my cloth, I stand out, and I'm pretty dominant. So right off the bat the chicks know I'm a cool guy. MANY guys have cracked on my style calling me gay, when I'm far from it. Seriously if your well groomed guys just assume your gay lol.

Really I just think its the whole Identity change so I sub-communicate a whole different thing.

 

[DJVladdy]

As for me, i dont recall girls just approach me and try to game me. That's our job.
In the past year from what i recall some thigns were:

-standing in line before a club a girl was trying to talk to me and initiating conversations. But her bf was hugging her "extra hard" lol so i did not get much into the convo.

-my chem lab teacher was making sexual innuendo to me

-in a club girl touched my ass to grind on me

- last week i was just walking on the sidewalk with my usual confident walk, good posture, and strong eyes (my usual "i know what im doing" look); I walk by a grp of girls one of them follows me with her eyes and says hi.

-im a pharmacy tech, sometimes cashier. Girl customers on more than one occasion looked at me with this "i wanna devour you" look. Lol this one brazillian chick, OBVIOUS IOIs... asked me to explain what drug was inside teh bag. So i just ripped off the label that was stapled to the bag, my usual mannerisms lol. When i did that she let out a moan lol as if i pulled her hair back (as if to say "mmm you are like an animal") i enjoyed that little interaction.

-As i was walking into my college dorm, these 2 chicks chlling on the stairs into'ed themselves to me and we talked for a little.

-At a party this girl, though chubby sat next to me... i know she liked to sing so i say u should try out for american idol...-shes like no, but theres sometihng else you might wanna try out with me haha

.........
just off the top of my head
Hmm, on the other hand... maybe girls DO approach lol, never thought of it that way.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Also about the pretty boy type, I think my style really has something to do with it. One thing for sure is I know I convey alot of sexuality with my cloth, I stand out, and I'm pretty dominant. So right off the bat the chicks know I'm a cool guy. MANY guys have cracked on my style calling me gay, when I'm far from it. Seriously if your well groomed guys just assume your gay lol.

All you younger DJs, you are going to have to develop a thick skin when it comes to other guys calling you gay. It comes with the territory, especially if you are above average in looks and dress well.

Other guys get jealous and this is their way of trying to cut you down. Believe it or not, girls will also do this to you if they feel you aren't paying them enough attention or being too aloof.

When you get this, simply tell the person doing the accusing, "You like me don't you? I cant tell, you really like me."

That usually shuts both guys and women down if they start trying to bust on you.