When I think of a woman in her late 40’s who goes to bars to watch bands by herself, I have the mental image of a grizzled biker chick who has seen more d!ck than a urologist. That’s not a wife. At best, that’s a female companion. A wife should be at home raising kids. That is the only logical reason for marrying a woman. If a woman doesn’t want kids or is too old to have kids, there is absolutely no excuse for marrying her. Doing so can only end in heartbreak.
According to you, women 35+ (generally the age when it's not advisable to have kids) are not marriage worthy. This makes sense to me.
One time, I asked one of my friends in the first 1-2 years of his marriage why he bothered to get married. His wife was 29 when they married and they had been living together when he proposed. The entire reason why they got married was for the purposes of having children. They have since had children, as it is one of the recent pregnancies I've discussed in....
Yesterday, I was on my Instagram and saw a pregnancy announcement from an acquaintance's wife in my social circle. I don't particularly like her. I find it annoying to be around her the 1-2 times a year I ever randomly see her in person. Right now, there are 3 women from my local area social...
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It's common for people to get married for babies. One of the big risks in having babies with the women of this era is the risk of divorce/breakup. In this era, if you have 1 or more babies with woman, the most likely outcome is that she won't be your romantic partner when your first child turns 18.
There are plenty of women in their 40s who go out to bars seeking new penis. The "grizzled biker chick" image makes a lot of sense for women going out and seeing local bands by themselves. However, there are other types of 40 something women who go to other types of venues seeking penis. There are 40 something women at upscale lounges in bigger cities on the prowl. Those women tend to look more like "Real Housewives of X City" than "grizzled biker chick". The "Real Housewives" type divorcee chick at a lounge is usually wearing an expensive dress, has an expensive purse, and has had 1 or more plastic surgeries.
Just be thankful you didn't have any children with this woman and you can gladly move on with your life without additional baggage.
It's always good not to have children in a relationship because when things go wrong, it's much easier to move on. Co-parenting for 10+ years until children turn 18 is a pain. However, the co-parenting doesn't end when the children turn 18. The co-parenting is lifelong. After the children turn 18, there are still family events that involve tolerating an ex-wife. It's a common thing to be a 55-60 year old guy, have an ex-wife/ex baby mama, and still have to interact with the ex in instances related to adult, 20-something children.
There’s no way she comes out of this better than you,she’s a soon to be divorced woman in her 40s.She surely contemplated this for a while,and ultimately why she’s doing it doesn’t matter.
Geography is relevant.
@logicallefty is in a less populated area where the largest city in the area has a population of slightly over 100,000 and the nearest major city isn't that close. This are not areas that overflowing with singles.
I live in a major city in one of the 10 most populated US metro areas. If a 40 something woman gets divorced in my area, she has no shortage of options. Men are quite thirsty in my area. There are enough beta males in their 40s-50s in my area to give a woman a fantasy marriage and even some alpha/sigma type will get into a committed, non-marital relationship with her if she's 40 something, somewhat attractive, and childless.
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@logicallefty story would not happen in more populated area as they are happening in his less populated area. The shelf life of goodness of monogamous relationships is true regardless of population size. In less populated areas, women tend to stay in mediocre to subpar relationships longer because there are fewer options if they decide to leave. In a Top 10 metro area like mine, women don't tend to tolerate mediocrity for long.
In the celebrity world, 40 year old Charissa Thompson exited a marriage of less than 2 years with a rich sports agent and soon found a rich businessman boyfriend (possible monkey branch). She lives in a Top 10 US metro area.
Charissa Thompson is a media personality. She has worked for ESPN and currently works for Fox Sports. She previously co-hosted the syndicated entertainment show Extra. This is Charissa. It's amazing that she has had a hot mess of a relationship history and no kids. In a previous era, this is...
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