Note left on car

[Legend]

Alright,

Classes started up again this past week.

Going back to last semester; me and this chick were dating and hanging out a lot. It was really fun, but it ended pretty bad in the beginning of the summer. I broke it off because she sorta fooled around with another dude. I found that unforgiveable and moved on.

As of now i am not hurting to get any girls, actually i am relaly busy with classes again and lifting pretty hard and just trying to pay my bills.

I would'nt mind getting back in this girls pants and using her for what i need, but i mean she hurt me bad. If i call her i'll look like a chump....

She called me a couple of times over the summer, i never called her back and never answered her calls. I ignored her and had an awesome summer without her in my life.

The note was left on my pathfinder that said.....hey stranger give me a call with her new number.

I did'nt call her back and probably wont...

What should i do....should i try to start thing up with her, or not even bother? Even if i dated her again i would still date other girls also.

I just have no clue why she would leave a note on my truck after she knows things between me and her are over. I put a lot into and got little back.

I cut my losses with her and moved on.....do i just throw away the napkin with her number on it or should i call just to see how shes been?

i'm not hung up on this girl...i think i could do better, but she is cute and i use to adore her.

What do i do?!??!?!

Thanks for any help

 

[learningtopimp]

DON"T go back. She cheated on you and disrespected you. You can do much better and you should just pursue some new bytches. For cheating, don't let it go....I never cheated on my girl and I expect the same. But I have been cheated on, and you can't take that bull****, just walk away.

 

[MoAF]

**** her

 

[MoAF]

literally, not figuratively

 

[violator]

Very simple. You are a challenge to her so she is making the effort to pull you in. With many women, especially the hot ones, it is an ego thing. They validate their whole existence on their ability to attract and control men. She cheated on you once so she is capable of doing it again.

But, why next her? Sure she is not LTR material, but she can be useful as social proof or as a fyck buddy if you play your cards right.

Apprently your pride is getting in the way. I have been in the same position. But, I have learned that if you want to get laid, you sometimes have to let go of your pride and become emotionally detached. Have her as a backup as you search for someone more suitable for a LTR.

 

[Legend]

To tell you the truth i dont even think i could get her to fvck every again....

she really got into my head, really bad and thinks she is to good for me. She actually would bring me down

 

[Legend]

bump...i need some input on what you other dudes would do.

 

[jakethasnake]

You know what? I would call her, and tell her to shut up for a few minutes and let you speak. Then when she shuts her clam, tell her EVERYTHING you just told us on this thread. Tell her WHY she's good for nothing, WHY you can't EVER be with her again. MAKE HER UNDERSTAND. Don't let on that she hurt you; rather give her the impression that you find her too disgusting to touch with a ten-foot pole, and that you even PITY her now for her weak moral fiber.

At this point, she might stammer to make some kind of defense or excuse for her behavior. Whether or not you cut her off and say goodbye/hang out/say 'don't call me again' is up to you.


Btw, I don't understand the deal with some of the DJs insisting that you never talk to a woman who cheated on you again. If she did a messed up thing, she has to understand why. Otherwise her pea-brain will rationalize it somehow so that's SHES free from blame.


But I do agree that it's important to not let her know how angry and hurt you were/are. Just be calm. Tell her all this like you're talking about the weather. Then calmly say goodbye and hang up. Then write her off for good.

 

[TTAG]

c'mon be posi+ive

NEXT!

 

[squirrels]

As long as you're just trying to f--- her and fully understand that she will NEVER be LTR material again, I'd say go for it. If she's not putting out, though, don't keep wasting your time. You don't want to commit any resources to a cheater...that's the main thing. As you said, you're not going to get much back from her, so don't put much forward.

 

[Ser_i]

though I personaly would use her for sex,

if the feeling is realy that strong I suggest you do what Jake said.

it's the only way to either get rid of her, or have her come after you more desperatly

 

[jnallen]

Legend

Don't do it dude. Been there and done that. Don't go back.

With some chicks it is never over. I could tell you so much about this.

I had the same thing happen.

If you go back She would do the same thing and hurt you again. It hurts more everytime trust me on this one.

She hasn't changed and probably never will. She probably doesn't even realize she destroyed your relationship or any trust you have.

I thought the same thing. I will go back and date others to. Doesn't work that way. She would turn up the heat and suck you in again. Then it is all about her.

Legend wrote: "To tell you the truth i dont even think i could get her to fvck every again....

she really got into my head, really bad and thinks she is to good for me. She actually would bring me down"

Exactly. Once she has been with someone else after the LTR it is not the same.

Also you have to hate maniuplative *****es. They think they are all that and take no rsponsibilty for what they do.

You go back you will have some good times and then it would all go back the way it was before.

She would pay you back in spades. I lived it not to long ago.

 

[JohnJones]

For what it's worth, I agree with jakethesnake. Girls are horrible about needing you to like them, approve of them, etc.

If you just blow her off or casually become friends, she'll either think she did nothing wrong or that you were just "jealous."

The same girl who will get furious with green envy if you confess that some other girl is cute will laugh at you for being a typical jealous male.

 

[mystic03]

Legend, you already told us that things ended bad and that she really messed up your head, I suggest that you close this chapter as soon as possible, keeping it open will only do harm to you. Sometimes we have to accept that there is someone one out there that can makes us feel bad, even if you are a DJ. Maybe you still want to find out if it was your fault that she cheated on you, or why she did it, I don't know...... Things happen and maybe for good. You also told us you aren't dating other girls, even if you don't want to admit it you're not completely over her, and you think that going back to her will make you feel better?
If you have something to say to her, do it, otherwise NEXT her, but don't do it with anger it will only make you suffer. Do it knowing that you WILL do better with someone else.
Remember, close this chapter and get on with your life..

good luck

 

[jnallen]

Originally posted by mystic03
NEXT her, but don't do it with anger it will only make you suffer.

Not trying to be cynical.

How will it make him suffer?

 

[mystic03]

Well, for me anger could be a way of suffering. Put it like this..when your angry (of course, it depends how angry you are) you can't concentrate, you probably blame yourself, see most events as negative and most important you are incapable of enjoying life!!!

get my point??


Anger can lead to many bad emotions, it can lead to depresion, etc...

 

[Ridingthelightning]

Be straight forward with her, don't let her think you want anything more than to get in her pants, thats all you can do.
If she doesn't go for that then leave it alone. If you just want ass then just ask for it. If she abliges then cool, if not, you already said yourself you can live without her and you're not hung up on her, so act like it.

RTL

 

[myfriendblu]

You have the same problem that 99 percent of the people on this board have - NOT ENOUGH girls in your life. Do you got 5 or 6 on the backburner? Of course you DON'T. If you did, you wouldn't even bother with this girl or even asking this question. Problem is, you haven't moved on and met several new people.

 

[whofarted77]

simple... go out with her one night... fyck her and IMMEDIATLY leave her. The crueler you are when you leave her the better you will feel about yourself and the situation. (I bet you still think about how she dissed you) In this way, you can have your confidence and become the "winner" in the relationship.

Even if you don't fyck her. Make her like you then cheat on her.

Then again...maybe your not a revengful person spends valuable time plotting diabolical schemes like I am.

 

[WaterTiger]

Legend- This b1tch is nothing but trouble. She played you once, and now she'll do it again if you let her.

Back in my day if a girl did this, the guy would write her name & phone number in the men's bathroom! "Cheating tramp! Call "Jane" at 555-1234"

This way the next guy at least knows what he's getting.