Not confident-checking guys out

[digitalrat]

Originally posted by MysteryWoman
Thanks! I'll just have to be more obvious!
And it really does make a guy whole day if they catch a girl checking them out? If I catch a cute guy checking me out, I am momentarily happy but then I quickly forget about it.

haha
Woman think their the greatest thing. When a girl checks me out I just look at them and smile, but I don't think about it the whole day. I quickly forget about it and put it in my subconcious for the next time I see her.

I might of took "And it really does make a guy whole day if they catch a girl checking them out?" the wrong way.

 

[cestmoi]

Originally posted by Ofus
Sounds like a good addition to my wish list. The title of the book is USS? Is that right? I went to amazon.com and couldn't find it.

Actually unlike any good book I learn about whether it be a novel or non-fiction that goes to my wish list, this one went straight to my shopping cart. And boy did I make a good choice. Not to say that this forum is bad. But in this litlle book (it 1/3 of "how to make anyone fall in love with you) i've learned more in one day than from this forum in months. It's because Leil has really extracted all most important info from all studies, books and i bet she has been visiting sites like this one. And she put it all in one book.

EDIT:

Forgot the link
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1891434071/102-2038511-1424123

EDIT2:

Heh just had a look at your wish list. Yours very much resembles mine without some of the books I have there for academic research. Two which I already ordered and have are the 48 Laws of Power and The Sound Of Your Voice.

The first one is my nr.1 favorite book and I own about 300 books. Although if you do plan to order it, do it together with Machavelli's The Prince. I see you already have The Art of war.

Machiavelli seems to be the major influence on writing the 48 laws of power.

 

[MysteryWoman]

Re: Re: Not confident-checking guys out

Originally posted by vectorz
Smile and wink.. it's foolproof. You should NOT do any approaching. You will immediately lose power and respect. If you've smiled directly AT him with eye contact AND beyond that winked, sheesh.. there's nothing more you should do. If he doesn't approach you after THAT, than he's probably scared ****less.

Interesting, some men don't like to be approached by women and others crave for it. If a model approached you and asked you out, would you lose respect for her?

 

[jakethasnake]

I wouldn't freak.. no fukken way. But understand if you're a model and approach him, the guy might be a bit startled at his good luck. At least momentarily, depending on whether he has his wits together or not.

 

[cestmoi]

In the past 2 days two things occured that got me thinking about this subject more.

One was a girl which rubbed me under the table and winked all the time while we were chatting. This was in a group of college students all seated on a table.

The second one was a girl which slapped my ass (ouch) and winked at me.

The funny thing: I lost for some reason all interest in them. Before this I was actually considering an LTR with the first one and perhaps sex with the second one (she's a certified nimphomaniac). So my interest level was rather high in both of them.


After those two extremely agressive come-ons I lost all interest in them!!!

After this thread i've realized the this has been happening to me for 3 months. I get girls crazy about me, but don't want them.

Tell me guys am I turning into a woman!? Isn't a guy supposed to appreciate come ons from girls? I mean I didn't lose respect in any girl as I said a guy could right here in this thread, I lost all interest. I suddenly didn't find them attractive. Same goes when they stop playing hard to get and submit to me completely. I don't want them anymore.

HAS IT EVER HAPPENED TO ANY OF YOU?

Its as if i've developed a woman character. I only am attracted while they're hard to get and I don't know whether I can get them. I work my magic on them and if (when) they start showing high interest in me I start losing it.

Haven't had a GF or making out since 3 months ago. I've been very sucesfully dating and ending everything after date 1. Didn't proceed further. And its all because of me suddenly losing interest in girls. Damn i hope i'm not turning gay.

 

[Titus]

Walk up to the guy and grab his dyck.
You don't need any more.

 

[MysteryWoman]

Originally posted by cestmoi
In the past 2 days two things occured that got me thinking about this subject more.

One was a girl which rubbed me under the table and winked all the time while we were chatting. This was in a group of college students all seated on a table.

The second one was a girl which slapped my ass (ouch) and winked at me.

The funny thing: I lost for some reason all interest in them. Before this I was actually considering an LTR with the first one and perhaps sex with the second one (she's a certified nimphomaniac). So my interest level was rather high in both of them.


After those two extremely agressive come-ons I lost all interest in them!!!

After this thread i've realized the this has been happening to me for 3 months. I get girls crazy about me, but don't want them.

Tell me guys am I turning into a woman!? Isn't a guy supposed to appreciate come ons from girls? I mean I didn't lose respect in any girl as I said a guy could right here in this thread, I lost all interest. I suddenly didn't find them attractive. Same goes when they stop playing hard to get and submit to me completely. I don't want them anymore.

HAS IT EVER HAPPENED TO ANY OF YOU?

Its as if i've developed a woman character. I only am attracted while they're hard to get and I don't know whether I can get them. I work my magic on them and if (when) they start showing high interest in me I start losing it.

Haven't had a GF or making out since 3 months ago. I've been very sucesfully dating and ending everything after date 1. Didn't proceed further. And its all because of me suddenly losing interest in girls. Damn i hope i'm not turning gay.

And this site aims at getting girls to chase the guys as well, as the other way round. You are now behaving illogical like a woman. You have lost two oppertunities to get laid.

You want what you can't have.

Guys like you justfy it for women who play head games and tease men.

I guess mixed signals turn you on

 

[jakethasnake]

Originally posted by cestmoi


After those two extremely agressive come-ons I lost all interest in them!!!

After this thread i've realized the this has been happening to me for 3 months. I get girls crazy about me, but don't want them.

Tell me guys am I turning into a woman!? Isn't a guy supposed to appreciate come ons from girls? I mean I didn't lose respect in any girl as I said a guy could right here in this thread, I lost all interest. I suddenly didn't find them attractive. Same goes when they stop playing hard to get and submit to me completely. I don't want them anymore.

HAS IT EVER HAPPENED TO ANY OF YOU?

Its as if i've developed a woman character. I only am attracted while they're hard to get and I don't know whether I can get them. I work my magic on them and if (when) they start showing high interest in me I start losing it.

Haven't had a GF or making out since 3 months ago. I've been very sucesfully dating and ending everything after date 1. Didn't proceed further. And its all because of me suddenly losing interest in girls. Damn i hope i'm not turning gay.

No, you're not turning gay. You've developed a Don Juan complex. The original Don Juan de Marco was enraptured in the chase of the woman. He never really loved or cherished his conquests, but it was the CHASE, the act of CONQUEST itself that intoxicated him.

I've often felt the same way, and it made me lose some interest, though not totally. I think I'm coming off the 'pursuit-junkie' phase now, ever so slowly. It IS a very confusing state to be in, I agree. But I wouldn't worry about turning gay. I'll chime in again about this; in the mean time check out what other DJs have to say.

 

[krd]

Originally posted by cestmoi
Its as if i've developed a woman character. I only am attracted while they're hard to get and I don't know whether I can get them. I work my magic on them and if (when) they start showing high interest in me I start losing it.

Haven't had a GF or making out since 3 months ago. I've been very sucesfully dating and ending everything after date 1. Didn't proceed further. And its all because of me suddenly losing interest in girls. Damn i hope i'm not turning gay.

I doubt your turning gay. People say that if you are, you'd never have to ask such questions--you'd already be certain. But I think mystery woman may be right in that you want what you can't have. I think everybody is that way--it's a basic human characteristic. Things become more desireable the harder they are to attain.

I imagine it could also be like eating nothing but your favorite food for two months. Eventually, it doesn't taste as good to you and you get sick of it. Or like a celebrity who constantly has fans come up to them and tell them how great they are. At first, it's very flattering. But atfer a while, they've heard the same thing so many times, and they just want to be left alone.

You're just so used to girls coming on to you that you've become somewhat jaded. That's not a bad place to be in. If you're not so concerned about women, you have the freedom to just relax and focus on what you like to do. I couldn't even comprehend what that's like, because it's never happened to me. Which is probably why I wouldn't mind being approached.

I still don't discourage you, Mystery Woman, from doing it though, I think most men would really like it. Vectorz recommends winking and smiling. Smiling is always good. I don't know about the wink, though; I think that may actually send a different type of signal. Simply going up and talking to him, would actualy be less forward. But it shows that you think of him as someone you wouldn't mind getting to know, yet still keeps him guessing on what terms. Got to let him do some of the work right? (don't tell anyone I said that! )

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Any girl who says "Hi" to me will get my attention. (Especially if she says it loud enough for me to hear). Alternatively, if you want to make things difficult, just strip in front of me. Gets my attention quick.

Did anyone else think of this simple solution?


Alas, I've never met a girl who did something so simple. They always complicate things.

 

[cestmoi]

Thanks guys for stroking my ego lol.

I'm not that great of a seducer that I would have a Don Juan Complex. I don't seduce every girl i meet. It's just that when I do manage to seduce a girl (1 in 15?) it is then that I lose interest.

I have much to progress before

You're just so used to girls coming on to you that you've become somewhat jaded. That's not a bad place to be in. If you're not so concerned about women, you have the freedom to just relax and focus on what you like to do. I couldn't even comprehend what that's like, because it's never happened to me. Which is probably why I wouldn't mind being approached.

Thanks krd. This paragraph truly made my day and made me reconsider what i'm experiencing. I now see it as a blessing instead of a problem. Hell I just realized that since becoming not so concerned with women i've seen tremendous progress in every other area of my life.

And jakethasnake its comforting to know i'm not alone in this. Thanks for the reply, you really cleared a big confusion for me. I was actually unable to study for some time wondering "what the hell's wrong with me".

 

[vectorz]

Re: Re: Re: Not confident-checking guys out

Originally posted by MysteryWoman
Interesting, some men don't like to be approached by women and others crave for it. If a model approached you and asked you out, would you lose respect for her?

I've had beautiful women approach me, and thinking back, yes... i subconsciously put them on a lower scale because the challenge is now gone. Of course we LOVE it when women approach us, we love attention too. However, subconsciously we appreciate the women that we had to work for a lot more.

Why do men find it difficult to make eye contact?

Because breasts don't have eyes.