No sex in relationship

[BackInTheGame78]

Has anybody been in a committed relationship ...living together with kids and there was no sex?

Nope.

 

[deadmasterx]

Has anybody been in a committed relationship ...living together with kids and there was no sex?

Many things can end up causing that. A few reasons may be:

1) She thinks that sex is something that YOU are getting from her
The thing is, some women may think that sex is something that she gives you and are at "disvantage" if she keeps on doing that. So, to keep you in line or to keep herself from feeling "used", she will whithold her "gift" for you. From my personal experience, this happens because she's manipulative, emotionally distant or is trying to hurt you in some way (sometimes, all of it).

2) She is distancing herself from you
Sex is one of the things that can only happen with a certain emotional-physical connection. It means that if she isn't interested on having it with you, it's probably because she's in the proccess of shutting down emotionally. It means that she no longer sees you as someone she can trust her emotions safely and can't mess with (because there's always need to be a really clear line of what's acceptable and what's not). That usually happens in the months prior to a breakup.

3) She sees you more as a roommate than anything else
It's all a numbers game. If you care too much, if you don't care enough. If you date and compliment too much, or don't do it enough. Many things can lead a woman to turn you into a roommate. If there's no spark in the relationship, if she isn't feeling safe and understood, if you don't do nice things for her, if you lose your cool or try too hard to please her. Many things can lead to that.

For all three cases above, most of them happen for the same reason: women suck at communicating and men suck at understanding. You wife may have given you the signs, but you didn't catch it. She also could have talked to you about that, but she probably didn't. That's a problem you've been carrying "with your bellies" for such a long time that now that it stinks you're caring about that.

Most cases of lack of sex in a relationship are based on lack of communication. Men who do not communicate effectively verbally and non verbally (with their actions) with their partners tend to lose themselves really fast into a relationship.

The questions to ask yourself when you're in such position are:

1) Am I commiting some of the mistakes above? If yes, how can I fix that?

2) Is my wife displaying any kind of emotionally manipulative behavior? If yes, what kind?

3) Considering that this is happening now, the chances of something like this happening in the future are very high. Am I ready and willing to deal with that?

Remember that it's not always on your back the duty of solving problems. If your partner isn't helping you out, she isn't an partner, but an opponent. Ideally, you'd want someone who can team up with you and work hard to make things work, not to make things harder. If your relationship if going south and you're trying to get things fixed but gets no support, the best thing you can do is leave.

 

[deadmasterx]

Doesn't happen if you have an open marriage and other women are attracted to you. The knowledge that you have other options keeps your bed warm.

Not everyone is fond of degeneracy and having your wife kissing you after sucking another mans d- off. Honestly, if you wanna **** other women, why not just staying single? No point in having a wife if you're gonna let her free to f- with anyone she wants, or you f- with anyone you want either. I had girls taking care of me as much as a "wife" could without committing, so if that's the case of keeping a wife, it's pure bull****. Just pure degeneracy and porn addicted mentality.

 

[deadmasterx]

This is actually super weak imo and a massive turnoff to women. If you want such a robotic transaction then get a hooker.

@_sideways_ if you're referring to your own relationship then the best thing to do is hit the gym, make friends, and evolve. Get yourself in such good shape that you feel virile strength in your veins constantly. Network with new people, perhaps in active hobbies where you'll meet fit women. Obviously treat these women as friends but more importantly as a gauge. Keep increasing your skills in these active hobbies, your physique, and keep working on your socializing/networking skills. When you sense that these fit beautiful women are flirting with you and giving you hints at something happening then you know that you've reached a point where you're desirable on the market. Obviously stay faithful but your confidence will continue to grow with all of these encounters. At a certain point you'll start to wonder if your wife values you or is a drag on you. Her behavior through this evolution will speak volumes. Does she complain and try to drag you down or does she also get active and find excuses to get your attention with sex and fun flirty things?

Let your actions speak for themselves, there's no need to confront her about not putting out. Get fit, become marketable, network, and you'll naturally start feeling aversion if she doesn't start working to keep you. An obvious question is do you even feel sexual attraction towards her? If you do then try some teasing once you get to the point of being desirable in the marketplace. If she doesn't want to play ball then you've got a fairly easy decision to make.

That's the whole point. When you're too busy improving yourself and making your dreams come true, your aura will naturally attract the things that you want. If the guy isn't getting anything from his wife because she's disappointed at him for some reason, she will start admiring him again and things will get better. If she's just being a sh!thead he'll find it out and, hopefully, as his life is getting better, he'll get her out of his life. Your state of mind matters A LOT in these cases.

 

[deadmasterx]

Tell us you dont fck without telling us you dont fck.

Your list is exactly why she does this to you lol

Read it again carefully, old man. Take your glasses, you probably needing them.

 

[deadmasterx]

You have done this before if your fcking in the modern world. She not going to tell you. Be smarter then this. Are you a monk?

If you can't recognize the difference of being with random women whos actively sucking ****s while with you and being with an woman that you're INVESTING your money, time, attention and your most valuable resources as man, then I honestly don't expect you to understand.

 

[The Duke]

I turned my dead bedroom into a 5x+ a week bedroom. Just saying.

Start a new topic and share what you have done that made a difference. I think a lot of ltr guys could benefit and appreciate.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Truth is, most people just want cheat codes and they don't want to put in the work. This isn't something that happens with cheat codes, and most are not ready to reinvent themselves unless they recently got zeroed out.

This is why I rarely advise people. They don't want my advice, they want my results without investing in themselves.