No results online dating

[Kerpal]

I do not know a single girl and have no way to meet any, so I'm relying on online dating In the past week, I've contacted 12 women. Here were the results:

1. Unread deleted
2. Read no response
3. Read no response
4. Read, sent a few messages back and forth. She seemed interested and added me on facebook. Looked at her profile and she was fat, just put up old/misleading pictures of herself on the dating site.
5. Read no response
6. Sent a few messages back and forth, then stopped responding
7. Read no response
8. Sent a few messages back and forth, then stopped responding
9. Read no response
10. Read no response
11. Read no response
12. Sent a few messages back and forth, then stopped responding

I wrote what I thought was a pretty decent description of myself in my profile, and I have 3 good (at least I think they are) pictures up. One is me by myself, one is me with a few other people at a party, and one is me playing with my friend's dog. When I contact someone I write a good message to them and mention something from their profile that I thought was interesting so they see I'm not just spamming out hundreds of messages.

#6 I thought was actually going well, we had good conversation and I asked if she wanted to meet that weekend, she said she was busy but counter-offered for Monday. I responded what time I was free on Monday, then she just stopped responding and deleted all my messages. Why counter-offer if you're not interested at all

I even did a search for men my age in my area just to see what the competition is like, and I don't really think I'm worse looking than most of them, and my profile is better than most of theirs.

What's the deal here? I read posts on here that some guys are getting decent results with online dating. Am I just not good looking enough? I'm guessing that's the case since the only girl that expressed any interest at all was the fat one.

Even the ones that do respond barely participate in the conversation at all, don't ask me any questions or anything, just talk about themselves for a few sentences.

 

[J. Darko]

You must at least look like a guido with sun glasses and you must take your pics shirtless.

On the serious side: I don't believe in this kind of sht anymore. Try to build up a social circle. Join a students club, get something to drink with the neighbour or something. Just be among people and if there is a girl in the crowd who likes you, she will let you know for sure. None of this pick up stuff, online dating sites or Face Book stuff is going to help you.

Also, it's ironic how a guy who lifts so much weight get's so little luck. Girls don't care about how much you squat, or that you are a quadzilla. Girls just want you to look like this:

http://www.google.nl/imgres?imgurl=...1t:429,r:7,s:38&tx=122&ty=46&biw=1052&bih=488

Even if that means doing dumbbell curls on a bosu ball and taking steroids.

 

[Kerpal]

Been trying to build up a social circle for the past 2 years with no success

I only lift weights because I enjoy it, if I was just training for looks I would have already gotten bored with it and quit by now.

I've been trying to put myself among people as much as possible and have only gotten attention from fat girls, and only occasionally at that.

 

[Tesl]

Can't you link us to your profile direct? I'm curious.

Also, do you actually live in a reasonably big sized city or in the middle of nowhere? I went out on my own last Friday and got 4 numbers, have contacted them all since and all seem willing to meet up further. Even though I'm not super interested in a couple of them, its basically a social circle built already. I recommend you do this.

 

[Kerpal]

No, not going to link to it.

I live in a relatively large city. 350k+ metro area population.

 

[Tesl]

Then go to more bars and approach more people.

Problem solved!

 

[synergy1]

tried the online dating thing very briefly with no luck. Decided to make a fake profile ( its linked on another thread in this forum) and found that attractive women will get a swath of guys sending them messages on a daily basis. Unless you have something differentiating you from everyone else, you won't even get glanced at. Honestly, I wouldn't even know how to differentiate all the slugs that contacted my fake profile...so many losers trying too hard to be winners. Heck! I am not even a chick and can tell all these dudes who are faking trying to be 'awesome'. It can't be hard for them at all...

The social circle thing is the way to go. And don't do it because you want to meet women, do it because you like hanging with your mates. Women are more into guys who are a part of something as opposed to a random dude who is just out on the hunt. Know people, get off the computer chair and put a smile on your face and hit up the clubs and start chatting it up. The towns I pull from lately are smaller than 350k, so you should have zero issues with the right cast.

 

[EFFORT]

Been trying to build up a social circle for the past 2 years with no success

I only lift weights because I enjoy it, if I was just training for looks I would have already gotten bored with it and quit by now.

With the amount of muscle mass you have, if you got down to the 8% bf range you would do very well with online dating.

 

[Kerpal]

I have gynecomastia so there's no point in even bothering because my chest will look like **** regardless of bodyfat. Also even if I didn't it wouldn't make a difference unless I was putting shirtless pics of myself on my profile, are you saying the only way to get responses is to have a really good body and shirtless pictures?

 

[J. Darko]

That sucks man, have you visited a doctor already.

 

[Kerpal]

No, I'm trying to save up the money for the surgery.

Don't want to derail this so if you have any other questions just PM me.

 

[Paintballguy]

I have gynecomastia so there's no point in even bothering because my chest will look like **** regardless of bodyfat. Also even if I didn't it wouldn't make a difference unless I was putting shirtless pics of myself on my profile, are you saying the only way to get responses is to have a really good body and shirtless pictures?

I got gyno too. I'm really thinking about getting the surgery done this winter. The **** sucks ass.

 

[EFFORT]

are you saying the only way to get responses is to have a really good body and shirtless pictures?

Its the most consistent way I've found to get fishing with dynamite types of results. Online dating is a very superficial arena. If your not getting responses/women messaging you now then, your face isn't "hot" enough to compete alone. You can "bluff" the body too by finding someone good with photoshop to make you that type of pic. It'll get you in the door and if you get to the point where your shirt is coming off your good anyways.

 

[S0LID]

Your driving yourself mad. Change your looks, change your act.

 

[Kerpal]

^ Too vague, need more specific advice.

 

[S0LID]

double post will help you now.

 

[S0LID]

Ok...

Firstly you care!

I mean who gives a dam if some bird doesn't respond? It's all a numbers game. The joy of online dating is you're doing things in mass and nothing matters.

I don't know what your saying, I usually glance over their profile and make a comment from that. Like the other day some girl was saying she played hockey so I commented "wow you play hockey... you must be brilliant at it since everyone else who plays is like 12! Had a fun day?".

If she didn't respond whoooo cares. As it happens we met up yest and had a coffee. She's ok, just gonna see how that goes now while I meet other girls. If she suddenly goes distant, it doesnt matter! There's so many options out there.

You need to be thinking carefully about your pictures, if your dp is you holding a fish, in some shorts your dad lent you, what's that say?

You want to dress a bit like zac effron did in 17 again. Plain T, tight jeans, leather jacket, flat plan trainers. Get to the most expensive hairdressers you can find and ask for advise. I don't know why people say "why the hell would someone spend 30 pounds on their hair! I pay 2.50!", yes and that's why you look like an extra out of sex lives of the potatoe men.

Nice simple fresh photos, like your being sold on amazon.

 

[actionjaxson]

you only messaged 12 girls. when i was on POF i copy and pasted the same message to like 50 girls.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

To the O.P. read my thread entitled: Plenty of Fish regarding looks test. You'll realize quickly that if you aren't in the top 5% of looks on a dating site. Most won't give your email the time of day as soon as they see your pictures. It's just a Flakebook "dating" extension for attention seekers and those looking to upgrade to the "10" in looks they "deserve".

 

[Kerpal]

you only messaged 12 girls. when i was on POF i copy and pasted the same message to like 50 girls.

I've probably messaged about 100 girls since I made my account, with similar results. This is all just from last week.