Never ever EVER EVER settle for having JUST ONE girlfriend

[ChrizZ]

Ok, now here's the REALITY FACTOR:

Most girls will NOT be cool with this arrangement.
If you really like a girl and you refuse her requests for exclusivity, she will eventually look elsewhere, if she has a shred of dignity. If she finds out that you are sleeping with other girls while she has been pushing for exclusivity (and she WILL find out), she is going to resent you. This is NOT a healthy model for any relationship.

If you want to keep a girl around, you're gonna have to commit eventually. Sorry. Girls aren't cool with loaning out their boyfriends to other girls.

Monogamy is not a feminist social convention. It existed LONG before feminism. Matter of fact, it was a central concept in one of the LEAST feminist documents ever--The Bible!

There is nothing AFC about having a girlfriend. Spinning plates isn't designed to prevent you from actually having feelings for a girl--its purpose is to place you in the position of having options so you don't get involved in an LTR for the wrong reasons.

That's why you always tell them the truth, but not the whole truth. Never tell them that you are dating other girls.

They never believe the truth anyways.

When you flake on her and she asks "where have you been?" you tell her: "I was hanging out with my other girlfriend *smile*"

She won't believe you anyways and think you were just joking.

That way you are honest with them and can sleep with a clean conscience.

Furthermore it's a bad idea to let them know about each other.

Imagine Christmas is coming up and all of them want to hang it out with you, but you can only pick one of the girls. The other ones know that and will be pissed and break up with you.

So never lie to them, but never seriously tell them you are dating other girls either.

 

[Kev07]

yea so tell her what she wants to hear and play on

are most of u SO chumpish that u cant see the point of my advice?????

hi skip

 

[young_gun]

I partially agree with skip on this one.

I don't think there's anything wrong with dating more than one woman at a time, but an EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIP is just that, exclusive. There's nothing wrong with being in an exclusive relationship. It's healthy and normal. As long as you have your sh*t together, I think it's perfectly fine to grow together with someone. I DON'T think that guys should get into an exclusive relationship without a clear understanding of who they are and what they want, though. So in that aspect, I agree with skip.

 

[SmoothTalker]

Yeah whoever said exclusive relationships are the feminist agenda, learn some (very basic) history.

How old is feminism?

How old is marriage?

Okay we're not talking marriage, but it's similar in some ways. Hell dating somebody exclusively is still more freedom then most people had a few centuries ago when a lot of marriages were just pre-arranged with someone you've never met, etc.

There are benefits to exclusive relationships, and when somebody that's just recently had their heart broken can still say that honestly, you should know you're missing out.

You'll never get hurt your way, but you'll never get all the good parts either - there is more to life then sex.

 

[Scars]

I agree, for the most part. But I'm sure your little girlie wont.

I just try and keep them from finding out about each other. Because once they do.. the ***** flow stops.

 

[Smack]

This is one of the silliest threads I've seen here. It's kind of like what one would hear from a 19 year old seldom laid who got cheated on.

were my points missed or something?

dating only ONE gf will result in attachment, one-itis, obsession, heartbreak, and depression.........keep in mind my initial point, i said that for aspiring don juans (meaning inexperienced guys) it is the WORST thing ever to commit to just one girl at an early age and be dumb enough to expect the relationship to not end eventually

Are you seriously this emotionally weak that you'd become an AFC all over again (not that you're not currently one - it sounds like it) if you decided to commit to one girl? Do you honestly think that people go into every committed relationship believing that this will last forever?

Christ sake. No wonder this thread exists!

get the feminist programming out of your head.......your natural side says to be plentiful with women.........and society says ONLY ONE ONLY ONE IS ALLOWED!!! EVEN IF U ARE 18 AND A VIRGIN, YOU CAN STILL ONLY HAVE 1 GF CUZ FEMINISM SAYS SO, DONT FOLLOW YOUR BALLS, FOLLOW OUR COMMAND!!! - **** SOCIETY, dont you guys see it??? the matrix.......its telling you you NEED only 1 gf at one time, otherwise its WRONG

It has nothing to do with feminist programming; men committing themselves to one girl at a time has been around even in times before women were considered as people.

but im here to tell you that it is RIGHT to have multiple gf's, it will protect your heart, it will give you power, it will make you feel like a MAN

To be honest, you sound so emotionally immature and weak, so needy and insecure, that I don't think female contact would be a good thing for you. The fact that your validation comes from having many women at once (which we have to take your word for) backs up my point.

do i have to start naming names here of guys who have JUST a gf and who are currently having issues? if these guys were dating multiple girls instead of 1 gf, there would be NO issues

The problem is they - like you, it seems - are emotionally weak and needy. Once you grow up a bit, you'll see things differently.

MrRuckus
Fela Kuti
any other newbie who comes on here saying "ughhh my gf is acting weird"

do you people understand that if you date multiple women at all times, then you will NOT CARE if a gf is acting up, your heart is protected

and get this fact into your head: 99.99% OF ALL RELATIONSHIPS END (the one that doesnt end is when you meet your soulmate, and in 2008 in America, that does not happen when you are inexperienced and 21 and decide to make some random slut your gf)

ughhhhhhhhh

In summary: you seem totally inexperienced in that you require having more than one woman for validation; seem to actually think people go into every relationship thinking this will last forever; believe in soulmates; seem emotionally fragile.

I also heard never to take a man seriously who cannot form congruent paragraphs.

 

[positivity_injection]

This is one of the silliest threads I've seen here. It's kind of like what one would hear from a 19 year old seldom laid who got cheated on.



Are you seriously this emotionally weak that you'd become an AFC all over again (not that you're not currently one - it sounds like it) if you decided to commit to one girl? Do you honestly think that people go into every committed relationship believing that this will last forever?

Christ sake. No wonder this thread exists!



It has nothing to do with feminist programming; men committing themselves to one girl at a time has been around even in times before women were considered as people.



To be honest, you sound so emotionally immature and weak, so needy and insecure, that I don't think female contact would be a good thing for you. The fact that your validation comes from having many women at once (which we have to take your word for) backs up my point.



The problem is they - like you, it seems - are emotionally weak and needy. Once you grow up a bit, you'll see things differently.



In summary: you seem totally inexperienced in that you require having more than one woman for validation; seem to actually think people go into every relationship thinking this will last forever; believe in soulmates; seem emotionally fragile.

I also heard never to take a man seriously who cannot form congruent paragraphs.

again my message is missed - it wont last, so why pretend that it will? why have just A gf and never see other girls? whats the point? its AFC PROGRAMMED THINKING

congruent paragraphs? sorry dude im not a nerd who worries about things like that

 

[Faded Image]

hi skip

You know what, that's the same thing I was thinking.

This guy feels the need to get as many girls as possible in order to protect his heart. If that's not AFC, I don't know what is.

 

[Nighthawk]

What never ever EVER EVER?

Stupid thread and no point discussing it with Skip because he doesn't listen.

 

[Smack]

again my message is missed - it wont last, so why pretend that it will? why have just A gf and never see other girls? whats the point? its AFC PROGRAMMED THINKING

No one is saying it will last for ever. And some of us are happier with a girl friend that we like. I don't see why anyone has a problem with this. But then you are so desperately trying to not be AFC that you totally are.

congruent paragraphs? sorry dude im not a nerd who worries about things like that

Evidently, you're also not someone who worries about facts and logic either seeing as you repeat the same few erroneous statements over and over.

 

[DonGorgon]

Did'nt even read on, the thread title say's it all.

To be TRULY HAPPY...you NEED to love 1 girl...i've been with many girls and i'm really unhappy...go figure

Not really cause even with one girl to love you will eventually be unhappy again... Happiness a a temporary mental emotional state, its dynamic and requires constant rearranging of stimuli to be maintained

 

[Faded Image]

Skip aka Pvssyeater aka Skiptomylou781 aka positivity_injection aka dumba$$

 

[positivity_injection]

Skip aka Pvssyeater aka Skiptomylou781 aka positivity_injection aka dumba$$

ok dumbazz i was never pvssyeater, why are u so idiotic? all you can do is hate on a player, what kind of nerdy shyt does that make u? this thread has ADVICE, and if u dont follow it, u'll also be feeling the pain when your beloved gf starts pulling shyt on u (as been proven by many many threads on here)

 

[SmoothTalker]

but im here to tell you that it is RIGHT to have multiple gf's, it will protect your heart, it will give you power, it will make you feel like a MAN

Haha, probably also give you a couple of STD's man.

Or are you so ****ing pimp that none of the many girls you barely have time for would ever sleep around. :crazy:

 

[positivity_injection]

Haha, probably also give you a couple of STD's man.

Or are you so ****ing pimp that none of the many girls you barely have time for would ever sleep around. :crazy:

chump, i have all the time i need, everyone is satisfied except for your hating virgin ass

 

[SmoothTalker]

Yeah, virgin... whatever pal, I'm not going to argue about that on the internet.

But maybe you do have tons of time because you're life's **** and you have nothing to do. Most people going somewhere in life tend to be busy.

When I was dating my last girlfriend it was a struggle to find 2 days per week to see her most of the time.

Of course if you sit in your parents basement all day like you probably do, time isn't much of an issue.

You just need to grow up man. Fine whatever, you get lots of *****. Good for you, have a cookie.

Now tell me, what else do you have going for you in life?

 

[Connect4]

Everyone lives there own lives... Just let them be.. Know yourself and know what you want in a relationship. You don't have to attack others just because they live a certain way, and vice versa.

To you it may be pathetic or wrong, but to others, it's good advice.

I think Positivity has some good advice for Players, because he has experience with that. He is looking out for THEM. Respect that.

Those who are looking for something different such as a LTR is obviously going to think otherwise.. Go look for advice that brings VALUE to YOU, and quit wasting energy to try to bring others down and convert them to your views...
It's pointless. If they Truly want to change, they will do it on there own.

PEACE out

 

[ima str8 up pimp]

chump, i have all the time i need, everyone is satisfied except for your hating virgin ass

don't be offended guy, I think he's playing around... you're like me... succeed real well but still insecure...

I think we have more potential still guy... lets do this?

 

[ima str8 up pimp]

Yeah, virgin... whatever pal, I'm not going to argue about that on the internet.

But maybe you do have tons of time because you're life's **** and you have nothing to do. Most people going somewhere in life tend to be busy.

When I was dating my last girlfriend it was a struggle to find 2 days per week to see her most of the time.

Of course if you sit in your parents basement all day like you probably do, time isn't much of an issue.

You just need to grow up man. Fine whatever, you get lots of *****. Good for you, have a cookie.

Now tell me, what else do you have going for you in life?

you're contradicting yourself.

 

[Smack]

because he has experience with that

We have absolutely no evidence of this. In fact, his attitude suggests the opposite - that he is a frustrated virgin that even the most hippopotamus like girls reject, or he was in a long term monogamous relationship and got cheated on or dumped.