I'm not a religious person. I'm not a believer in fate or luck or superstition, and I don't believe that positive thinking has any magical powers.
However, I have enough experience to prove that positive thinking does produce positive results and negative thinking produces negative results.
When you're in a negative frame of mind, your mind releases chemicals into your body and your whole physiology will begin to reflect how you're feeling. Your expression, enthusiasm, attitude and interaction with others is highly determined by how you feel.
You can try all the PUA trickery you can think of to mask your insecurities, cynicism and resentment towards the world, but there is only so much you can control consciously. You may be able to consciously master conversation, but trying to regulate your breathing, expression, tone of voice, posture and composure at the same time is one hell of a challenge and sooner or later you're going to slip back into habit.
Another, very important, thing about negative thinking is that it inspires negative and destructive actions. Let's say you're dating or in a relationship with a woman and one day she starts to seem a bit distant and not her usual self. If you get into thinking negatively about her behaviour, taking it to mean she's losing interest in you, she's seeing another guy or looking to branch swing and so on, you're likely to make yourself insecure and paranoid and take destructive actions based on this line of thinking.
I've seen so many guys here (and I'm one of them) who talk about "calling her out" or confronting her about her disrespectful behaviour, or playing mindgames to increase interest or doing something to make her jealous...or just "nexting" her or pre-emptively dumping her.
And yet, for all you know, she might have family problems, work stress, illness or any other worries that are totally unrelated to you. She might be trying to avoid dumping her problems on you and have good intentions at heart.
By jumping to negative conclusions and taking action, you show yourself to be paranoid, insecure and stand a high chance or ruining a perfectly good thing with a genuinely good person.
Unfortunately, this forum is full of negative advice and inspires so much paranoid thinking that it's no wonder so many guys are struggling with women and keep returning to this forum.
You also have to ask yourself, if you're harbouring bitter feelings and distrust towards women, how can you genuinely engage in enjoyable conversation and fun interactions with them? And why would you want to?
Most times, negative thinking can become a self fulfilling prophecy. Let's just say you suspect your girlfriend of losing interest. This may be entirely false, and yet the more you project your insecurity, the less attractive she will find you. The more negative and suspicious you act, the less she's going to enjoy your company. And then one day she actually does lose interest and you convinced yourself your suspicions were right all along.
Worse still, because this happened with one girl, maybe two, you start to project that negativity onto all women you date and interact with, and each of these women see you as insecure and negative...and they too reject you. And now you're locked in this self-perpetuating cycle and you don't even realise that you are the one causing this to happen.
But this doesn't just apply to women. It applies to everything and can ruin your life! You think negatively, you feel negatively. It can make you perceive the world as a horrible place, perceive people at their worst, cause you to live in fear, drive people away, cause you to overreact and create a stream of problems for yourself, and it can make you physically ill.
People are so afraid to think positively, especially guys here who have been hurt, betrayed and continue to hold onto bitterness. They are so worried about being made a fool of, they are always prepared for the worst and are always ready to protect their wounded egos and pride.
But while negative thinking causes negative feelings and negative consequences, positive thinking can have the exact opposite effect. When you think and feel positive, you're more magnetic, charismatic, sociable and more enjoyable to be with. You are more understanding and tolerant of other people's problems and behaviour, you feel confident, inspired to take control and achieve your goals, you respect yourself more and life is just so much better.
And let's just say the woman you're dating is losing interest or is a low quality person and is looking to get with another guy...will it really help you in any way to confront her and flip out at her? Wouldn't it be better if you could just be grateful for being out of the situation? If you could just walk away and get on enjoying your life and thinking positive?
There are a lot of things in life we have no control over, but if we can master our thinking, we can control our perception and that in itself will bring great things into your life.
However, I have enough experience to prove that positive thinking does produce positive results and negative thinking produces negative results.
When you're in a negative frame of mind, your mind releases chemicals into your body and your whole physiology will begin to reflect how you're feeling. Your expression, enthusiasm, attitude and interaction with others is highly determined by how you feel.
You can try all the PUA trickery you can think of to mask your insecurities, cynicism and resentment towards the world, but there is only so much you can control consciously. You may be able to consciously master conversation, but trying to regulate your breathing, expression, tone of voice, posture and composure at the same time is one hell of a challenge and sooner or later you're going to slip back into habit.
Another, very important, thing about negative thinking is that it inspires negative and destructive actions. Let's say you're dating or in a relationship with a woman and one day she starts to seem a bit distant and not her usual self. If you get into thinking negatively about her behaviour, taking it to mean she's losing interest in you, she's seeing another guy or looking to branch swing and so on, you're likely to make yourself insecure and paranoid and take destructive actions based on this line of thinking.
I've seen so many guys here (and I'm one of them) who talk about "calling her out" or confronting her about her disrespectful behaviour, or playing mindgames to increase interest or doing something to make her jealous...or just "nexting" her or pre-emptively dumping her.
And yet, for all you know, she might have family problems, work stress, illness or any other worries that are totally unrelated to you. She might be trying to avoid dumping her problems on you and have good intentions at heart.
By jumping to negative conclusions and taking action, you show yourself to be paranoid, insecure and stand a high chance or ruining a perfectly good thing with a genuinely good person.
Unfortunately, this forum is full of negative advice and inspires so much paranoid thinking that it's no wonder so many guys are struggling with women and keep returning to this forum.
You also have to ask yourself, if you're harbouring bitter feelings and distrust towards women, how can you genuinely engage in enjoyable conversation and fun interactions with them? And why would you want to?
Most times, negative thinking can become a self fulfilling prophecy. Let's just say you suspect your girlfriend of losing interest. This may be entirely false, and yet the more you project your insecurity, the less attractive she will find you. The more negative and suspicious you act, the less she's going to enjoy your company. And then one day she actually does lose interest and you convinced yourself your suspicions were right all along.
Worse still, because this happened with one girl, maybe two, you start to project that negativity onto all women you date and interact with, and each of these women see you as insecure and negative...and they too reject you. And now you're locked in this self-perpetuating cycle and you don't even realise that you are the one causing this to happen.
But this doesn't just apply to women. It applies to everything and can ruin your life! You think negatively, you feel negatively. It can make you perceive the world as a horrible place, perceive people at their worst, cause you to live in fear, drive people away, cause you to overreact and create a stream of problems for yourself, and it can make you physically ill.
People are so afraid to think positively, especially guys here who have been hurt, betrayed and continue to hold onto bitterness. They are so worried about being made a fool of, they are always prepared for the worst and are always ready to protect their wounded egos and pride.
But while negative thinking causes negative feelings and negative consequences, positive thinking can have the exact opposite effect. When you think and feel positive, you're more magnetic, charismatic, sociable and more enjoyable to be with. You are more understanding and tolerant of other people's problems and behaviour, you feel confident, inspired to take control and achieve your goals, you respect yourself more and life is just so much better.
And let's just say the woman you're dating is losing interest or is a low quality person and is looking to get with another guy...will it really help you in any way to confront her and flip out at her? Wouldn't it be better if you could just be grateful for being out of the situation? If you could just walk away and get on enjoying your life and thinking positive?
There are a lot of things in life we have no control over, but if we can master our thinking, we can control our perception and that in itself will bring great things into your life.
