need some advice on this.

[Dr.Suave]

I can't recall seeing a female come to SoSuave looking to seduce other females.

I have a feeling It wont be long before that happens

 

[BeExcellent]

To respond briefly to @Money & Muscle about dynamics.

If a woman is desirable enough a man will show interest and the woman does not need to chase him at all. She needs to respond and show interest back but she does not need to chase or initiate.

There can be exceptions because relationships happen between individuals but highly desirable women do not need to chase. Perhaps your wife chased you some, I don’t know, but highly desirable women don’t need to do that.

I don’t. My husband showed interest in me, I responded positively, he asked me out, I responded positively etc. I’m a desirable woman (avatar is me in my 50s, unretouched photo, so no filters). My husband is very handsome & would be considered a Chad by some. He’s also a bit younger. He picked me; he pursued me.

This girl needs to give herself time to heal. There are men out there who like her & show interest in her. If she doesn’t like those guys? She has 3 options. 1. Is raise her own value to a point where she appeals to the men she finds desirable (we don’t know what she looks like but keeping looks and fitness on point is very very important)

2. Is accept that there are men who are interested in her and be patient & choose a romantic partner from this group only.

3. Is not to date at all.

There is of course a 4th option but that over time lowers value & that is to chase men and have sex with desirable men as you please, but as she is already seeing this leads to hurt and being discarded, which will harden her heart and damage her psyche. Women who do this become hardened and become w h o r e s and end up unwanted an alone because they think they can f u c k their way into a relationship with a Chad, who is just using them until someone Chad actually wants comes along.

That is what has happened here to our OP.

Increase your desirability in a healthy way and then choose the best man who wants you. Ideally that is a man you also have desire for. In time you will heal. Learn the lesson well here & good luck.

 

[Dr.Suave]

they think they can f u c k their way into a relationship with a Chad, who is just using them until someone Chad actually wants comes along.

That is what has happened here to our OP.

Basically what I been saying but you said it in a nicer way

 

[Dr.Suave]

He can't commit to a woman, he literally told me that straight up

You cant say he didnt warn you...

I think sometimes I come off as trying too hard to impress him, and he can pick up on that. Another example is that he talked about his favorite rapper, and I said that was my favorite too even though I never heard of him. Anyways, he found out that was a lie because he asked me what my favorite song was by that rapper and I drew a blank.

Rookie mistake. We all been there. You live and you learn.

 

[member162951]

I think sometimes I come off as trying too hard to impress him, and he can pick up on that. Another example is that he talked about his favorite rapper, and I said that was my favorite too even though I never heard of him. Anyways, he found out that was a lie because he asked me what my favorite song was by that rapper and I drew a blank.

Bolded, exactly. Also known as "working hard for a guy" see my response to @Glassguy on your other thread. .

It didn't work because he will end up not valuing you and losing interest as happened here. .

It's sad because you probably could have had him had you not been so desperate for him and behaving as such.

Lesson learned hopefully.

 

[bat soup]

Since started dating, I've recently been dangerously infatuated with someone and was wondering if anyone else is going through this and any advice would help. I feel like all the time all I can think about is that particular person and it really pains me because at first they seemed to be really interested, they told me they liked me, but now I think I'm getting slow ghosted and left on read. I was planning to send this text message: "Hey, I have to ask if everythings ok? I really enjoyed hanging out with you. You're such a cool person and I'd be down to see you again. Ik you've been busy and so sorry for bothering you...just lmk if you're interested still." The thing is, this person I feel like I've connected with them in a way that I haven't with anyone yet. I've met a lot of cool people at university and everything but I feel like no one compares. Idk what I'll do if they actually end up ghosting or blocking me and I can't seem to get them out of my head. I've been trying to prioritize self care and other habits and seeing other people, but everytime I'm with someone else I can only think of that person. Please, any advice would be appreciated.

Agree, don't send her a desperate emotional message. If you do that she'll either ignore you or pull away even more.

It's better to stay calm and just try to move things forward by meeting up and escalating as much as you can.