Need Some Advice - Live-In GF Acting Up

[Free_Agent]

Yeah I know, I broke the cardinal rule of cohabitating. I'll learn but here is my current dilemma

gf has been somewhat disrespectful. For example goes away to work conference and tells me she’ll call me back in 5min and then calls back 3 hours later after a few drinks and heading out for more.

I stay quiet and said “when you say something - do it.” It's just disrespectful and common courtesy IMHO.

Been a quiet week. Couple little quarrels I just stay quiet . Been argumentative. I'm not the most stoic person myself and have engaged in some of the arguments.

Plan a cool weekend for her and try to be vague about it and she ups and goes to Philly for the parade with her trashy "best" friends.

She's been silent since getting there and there is a good chance she doesn't communicate the whole trip.

What would people do? Pack her **** and change the locks? Tell her to GTF out? Go away for a week?

Thanks

 

[Bingo-Player]

Shes already checked out and is likely preparing to monkey branch ( if she hasn't already )

I think I would be sending the " I think we need some time apart ) message

 

[BackInTheGame78]

She is trying to force you to break up with her by doing disrespectful things that she thinks will make you do it.

The longer it goes the more disrespectful she will become, almost incredulous and wondering what is wrong with you for accepting this type of behavior from her.

When she loses all respect for you, she will do it herself and then think of you as weak and pathetic because you wouldn't respect yourself and break up with her.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yeah I know, I broke the cardinal rule of cohabitating. I'll learn but here is my current dilemma

gf has been somewhat disrespectful. For example goes away to work conference and tells me she’ll call me back in 5min and then calls back 3 hours later after a few drinks and heading out for more.

I stay quiet and said “when you say something - do it.” It's just disrespectful and common courtesy IMHO.

Been a quiet week. Couple little quarrels I just stay quiet . Been argumentative. I'm not the most stoic person myself and have engaged in some of the arguments.

Plan a cool weekend for her and try to be vague about it and she ups and goes to Philly for the parade with her trashy "best" friends.

She's been silent since getting there and there is a good chance she doesn't communicate the whole trip.

What would people do? Pack her **** and change the locks? Tell her to GTF out? Go away for a week?

Thanks

So you are rewarding her for being disrespectful?

Why? You are training her to behave poorly.

All wrong...you punish disrespectful behavior, you don't reward it, unless you want more of it.

 

[SW15]

Agree with previous posters. This is a bad situation. I hope you are renting with her and that the lease is about to expire.

Not only do you need to break up with her, you also need to take time to change some of your behaviors so that you don't repeat patterns with future women.

 

[Gamisch]

Remember OP; all of us look at this from a helicopter like view, and all of us been there done that (multiple times) .

Imo this is beyond fixing. Right now your best bet is to (silent if needed) plan an escape strategy NOW. You gotta separate from her, get your own place and be done with it NOW.

If you do however decide to be talkative and open, remember that she will adjust. She will cave. But it will be temporary. The worst thing is by the time she act like this again or even doubles down... you'll be too embarrassed to ask for help again.....let that sink in.

Again. You gotta accept that she is a WOMAN and WOMEN operate differently than us. She is openly monkey branching , is has to be open because you guys live together. If you wouldn't live with her she would've done the same but you wouldn't notice it as much.

Long story short; stfu because this is a yes /no situation. It's either 0 or 100 %. You in or you out. If you out, be careful telling her about your plans as she will manipulate you into extending this pain (while getting her cake and eat it too!!!!).

But I put whatever euro/dollar/yen on it that you won't listen.

 

[Clockwerk50]

OP, what are your stats? Do you go to the gym? Do you have friends? Do you have the phone number of a side piece that you have been gaming that you can ask her out if things with your girlfriend fall through?

It looks like she is bored of you, and it is looking for excitement in other areas of her life. You have 2 options, do you want to stay or leave?

1. Stay - https://therationalmale.com/2012/03/27/dread-games/amp/

Dread Game Explained (Red Pill) - All You Need To Know

Discover all you need to know about Dread Game, including what it is, its significance, active versus passive, how to leverage it and more.

chrismillas.com

2. Leave - https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/s/5LBqaHe9DM

Please, Breakup with Me!

The following is an excerpt from the Red Pill Reddit forum I’ve been following recently. I had an emailer ask me to opine about this situation and, for as much as I’d like to brag about…

therationalmale.com

 

[Gamisch]

OP, what are your stats? Do you go to the gym? Do you have friends? Do you have the phone number of a side piece that you have been gaming that you can ask her out if things with your girlfriend fall through?

It looks like she is bored of you, and it is looking for excitement in other areas of her life. You have 2 options, do you want to stay or leave?

1. Stay - https://therationalmale.com/2012/03/27/dread-games/amp/

Dread Game Explained (Red Pill) - All You Need To Know

Discover all you need to know about Dread Game, including what it is, its significance, active versus passive, how to leverage it and more.

chrismillas.com

2. Leave - https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/s/5LBqaHe9DM

Please, Breakup with Me!

The following is an excerpt from the Red Pill Reddit forum I’ve been following recently. I had an emailer ask me to opine about this situation and, for as much as I’d like to brag about…

therationalmale.com

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Cmon

This is beyond fixing.

Dudes don't understand that fixing can be done when you get the very first signs. And silly arguments can be confused with actual monkey branching, I know. That's why we need experience.

But again, imo the rot is too deep to fix it .

 

[Clockwerk50]

Cmon

This is beyond fixing.

Dudes don't understand that fixing can be done when you get the very first signs. And silly arguments can be confused with actual monkey branching, I know. That's why we need experience.

But again, imo the rot is too deep to fix it .

You might be onto something…