Originally posted by midwestguy
Ok, now I need a ton of advice so let me begin. Ok so I called Lin earlier today she wasnt there, but I tried calling again, so her friend on her phone calls me back and says "this is her friend so so Lin just wanted me to tell you I dont have to call her all the time" I asked her if shes mad at me and her friend said she really isnt that mad. So I said ok and told her to have Lin call me back. They were all drinking in the background joking around and such. SO anyways Lindsay calls me back a couple minutes later. She actually called me this time. She said how I was doing and such I said fine and all. She told me I called her 3 times today which is not true. I only called her once. You know women tend to make things bigger then it sounds lol Anyways she was honest with me this time. She told me Im a nice guy and all, but she doesnt want to be boyfriend girlfriend. She said that she likes me as a friend of hers and all but she doesnt want to be bf, gf with me. She told me shes not my type and Im the total opposite of her. I asked her why she says that and she said cause shes into sports. Btw Ive told her before I LOVE hockey which you can tell by my avatar. Since shes a soccer gal I assume she means boys that play sports. I told her what I thought about her and that shes a pretty girl and I like her personality and all. I asked her if she could just be honest with me and upfront about why she doesnt like me in that way and she just said I wouldnt like her and that Im the total opposite. She said that we can talk at work and still be friends, but I asked her if she wanted to go hang out and she considers it dating and shes not really looking for that. So she calls me back a few mins later to chat a little more and she told me one of her college soccer friends who goes to another college now likes me and thinks Im cute guy, but us shy to talk to me and she said I should give her a call and talk to her cause she said she would be more my type so she gave me her number. She told me I should find myself another girl. So heres the question. I know alot of people post similar stuff on here about how women tell a guy they just want to be friends. I mean by friends that kinda hurts cause heres a single, pretty looking gal who says we can be friends and such, but we cant be romantic. This is almost more painful then getting flat out rejected and that women slapping you in the face cause shes so close yet so far. So by being friends does that mean maybe sometime in the future she would go out with me if I can somehow make the friendship closer? I read on alot of sites that being friends wfirst is good. So should I give her friend a call? Her friend is cute and all, but I think Lin is prettier. her friend is a nice person too and very polite young lady. Im glad she threw it all out at me tonight and was honest with me. She said she wasnt mad but calling her up at school said was creeping her out a bit. I asked her why when I only called her a few times the past month. She said she doesnt really know why, but said I smotherd her at work, and by calling her and she felt pressures she said at work it was borderline harassment almost. Why didnt she tell me all this before face to face? Could it be cause she didnt want to hurt my feelings? Cause even tonight when I asked her to be honest to me she hesitated a little. Also her friend that likes me even told Lindsay that Im a nice guy and she could give me a shot. Is it nice on Lindsays part that she told me about her friend? If her friend likes me should I give her a call then? I mean I feel sad right now, but at the same time glad I got a upfront awnser. Im just puzzled why she said shes not my type and Im not hers? People say Im a nice guy yet I have no luck,.
Shes away for college right now couple hours north so I wont see her at work till the summer at least.