Ok, now I need a ton of advice so let me begin. Ok so I called Lin earlier today she wasnt there, but I tried calling again, so her friend on her phone calls me back and says "this is her friend so so Lin just wanted me to tell you I dont have to call her all the time" I asked her if shes mad at me and her friend said she really isnt that mad. So I said ok and told her to have Lin call me back.
Mistake #1: You involved her friends. NEVER, EVER, EVER involve a woman's friends into your pursuit of her. They will do nothing but bring you down no matter how loyal they seem to be. What you should have done was say "OK, nevermind then" and hung up as soon as she said it wasn't Lin. Keep a woman's friends OUT of your business. Always.
They were all drinking in the background joking around and such. SO anyways Lindsay calls me back a couple minutes later. She actually called me this time. She said how I was doing and such I said fine and all. She told me I called her 3 times today which is not true. I only called her once. You know women tend to make things bigger then it sounds lol Anyways she was honest with me this time. She told me Im a nice guy and all, but she doesnt want to be boyfriend girlfriend. She said that she likes me as a friend of hers and all but she doesnt want to be bf, gf with me.
When women say they just want to be friends, they really just mean minor aquaintances - that means she has reduced you to somebody that she's just going to say "hey" to when she happens to occasionally run into you but nothing more. Trust me on this.
She told me shes not my type and Im the total opposite of her. I asked her why she says that and she said cause shes into sports. Btw Ive told her before I LOVE hockey which you can tell by my avatar. Since shes a soccer gal I assume she means boys that play sports.
She basically said she'll only date jocks.
I told her what I thought about her and that shes a pretty girl and I like her personality and all. I asked her if she could just be honest with me and upfront about why she doesnt like me in that way and she just said I wouldnt like her and that Im the total opposite.
Mistake #2: NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER ask a woman WHY she isn't interested in you! You shouldn't CARE about why a woman isn't interested in you. You are treating her as if HER opinon of you is more important than your own
So by being friends does that mean maybe sometime in the future she would go out with me if I can somehow make the friendship closer?
I personally would not waste my time. Chances are extremely slim that that would happen anyway. Just take a deep breath and move on. I know it's painful, but that doesn't mean that it doesn't need to be done.
I read on alot of sites that being friends first is good.
...but what these sites DON'T tell you is that she can't have rejected you first.
So should I give her friend a call?
Absolutely positively NOT until you have talked to her personally and gotten to know her and she GAVE you her number HERSELF. STOP trying to get girls through thier friends....it just doesn't work....period.
She said she wasnt mad but calling her up at school said was creeping her out a bit.
I asked her why when I only called her a few times the past month. She said she doesnt really know why, but said I smotherd her at work, and by calling her and she felt pressures she said at work it was borderline harassment almost.
It sounds to me like this girl would prefer to have nothing to do with you at all. I know it really hurts to say that but I'm afraid it's true. Don't worry, it's happened to me before, too. I personally wouldn't waste my time.
Look, I would just do everything I can to remove this girl from my life.
I know she's pretty and I know she's a nice kid, but she's doing you more harm than good. There's no way in hell a friendship can be formed off of what has gone down. You still have feelings for her, and she sees you as a stalker who's "creeped her out". I tell you the truth - anytime a woman EVER says you've "creeped her out", or "freaked her out" because of your attention toward her, she has little to no respect for you.
And unfortunetely this girl's respect for you has completely gone down the drain, I'm afraid. I would completely remove myself from her. I wouldn't call her, talk to her, IM her....and if I see her around I would just completely not say anything at ALL and BLOW HER OFF COMPLETELY - at least until all this blows over - which will be a looong time, unfortunately.
If you want to see what her friend is like, DO IT WITHOUT LINDSAY'S HELP. So do NOT call this girl until SHE HAS GIVEN YOU HER DIGITS HERSELF.
Good Luck out there, I know women are viscious.
