PersistenceIsKey
Don Juan
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So today I pushed myself WAY out of my comfort zone. I went to a party completely uninvited (though I was with a few friends, one of which was invited.) It was hosted at these sorority girls' house. I knew I'd be able to slip by and nobody would kick me out or anything. It was an 90's theme party but I decided to just wear my usual stuff. I had a nice jacket and a dress shirt with nice jeans and sneakers on. (I have my grooming on lock.)
To top things off, 90% of the guys there were in the other top competing fraternity. They constantly talk massive **** about us, and they are kind of beating us this semester in terms of girls. We have a rivalry. They are known as the most sexually aggressive and douchey frat on campus (though hey, they get laid more of course!)
They didn't **** with me or my friends, mostly because we're all tall/big and don't look like chodes. Also, sorority girls threw the party, not them, so they didn't have the authority to kick us out.
Anyways, first thing after stepping in the door (I nearly turned around and left before we knocked) I scanned the crowd looking for somebody. I decided "**** it, I'm going to act like a boss and just try my best, even though the odds are against me".
The first person I noticed was a girl I was tight with at the beginning of last year. The last interaction I had with her was asking her to our formal, and I got rejected (softly, and with an excuse, but it was obvious BS). She also just barely said hello to me last party I saw her at. Despite this, I guess she decided to make things not awkward by greeting me REALLY enthusiastically. She gave me a hug and a huge smile and exclaimed, "I haven't seen you... in like a year!" I shouldn't have, but I brought up how I thought I'd seen her for like two seconds at our bid day party. She just said "uhhhh I dunno" and etc until I just saved it by saying "eh, actually I can't remember."
Her boyfriend was standing behind her like a plant the entire time. She honestly drags him around like a little puppy. He's a skinny, pretty looking kid who never has much to say. The guy is classic AFC, and drives across the country just to spend time with her.
At some point it's just so ridiculous to me that he's standing there not saying a word, so I shake his hand and he finally introduces himself. I don't think I should have done this. He just went back to staying quiet and staring blankly ahead.
Later on after roaming around and going to the kitchen, I grabbed a drink. This same friend was with the hottest new freshman girl so I re-opened. She immediately introduced herself, vibing intense insecurity of course as a new girl to the scene. It was really loud and she couldn't hear what I was saying. Either I didn't say my name or I didn't say it loud enough. I know this because she asked me what my name was after I said nice to meet you. The friend told me she was a new member (which I already knew of course) and I just nodded.
They asked girl's plant boyfriend to take a picture for them, and he complied of course. I shouted, "let's make a more awesome version of the picture where I'm in it". She couldn't hear me, and I repeated it again though with less enthusiasm/confidence. She said, "no, because you're not dressed for the 90s!" This was terrible for me of course, since I just got rejected by her in front of the new girl. (She would have gone with whatever initial girl said).
I just played it cool and said, hmm, what's 80s? And they started giving me examples from what they were wearing. They mentioned cargo shorts, and I said I had long ago tossed out and burned mine, which they thought was funny. Throughout the interaction, I threw around a few things like "oh, so you're not supposed to dress like that every day? (in response to them pointing out guys that were dressed in ridiculous clothing. only funny because I was dressed well.)" I then said, "ok then, what can I do with what I'm wearing right now? Girl tells me to flip my collar (as she's saying this, she reaches and maneuvers it for me) and tuck in my shirt. I comply but it's obvious I don't really give a ****. I shouldn't have jumped through her hoops, but it allowed me to continue the interaction in a reasonable manner.
At this point, this dude barges into my set and completely AMOGS me. He has a super high energy delivery and is wearing a sleeveless shirt which shows off a decent, but not really big/built figure. He sees me as the threat because he smiles and shakes the plant's hand, and then shakes mine without even looking at me. He actually intentionally gets my name wrong and then locks me out. Initial girl automatically responds with enthusiasm saying "what he's wearing is perfect!" and I'm pretty much blown out of the set as she catches up with him. I slowly start body rocking and showing increasing disinterest with my body language and turn around... to my friends... who unfortunately are unintentionally locking me out of their circle. It was just a bad exit/DLV.
Less than ten minutes later I exited the party, not seeing anyone else I could really interact with. The ratio there was ****ing terrible, like literally 5:1. My friends left minutes later.
I figured I'd try to do SOMETHING with the fact that I'd met the new freshman and been introduced by someone she could trust. I never see her on campus so I don't think I'll have a good opportunity to try again in person. I FR'ed her on facebook accompanied with this message:
LOL you've been on my suggested friends constantly for WEEKS, and I was just like... (incorrect pronunciation of name) who is this person??? ITS []! mystery solved
I figured a high energy and light hearted message would be way better than saying something like nice to meet you or w/e.
There's a good chance she'll accept and respond, being an insecure new freshman who doesn't really know anyone. Is this even salvageable?
To top things off, 90% of the guys there were in the other top competing fraternity. They constantly talk massive **** about us, and they are kind of beating us this semester in terms of girls. We have a rivalry. They are known as the most sexually aggressive and douchey frat on campus (though hey, they get laid more of course!)
They didn't **** with me or my friends, mostly because we're all tall/big and don't look like chodes. Also, sorority girls threw the party, not them, so they didn't have the authority to kick us out.
Anyways, first thing after stepping in the door (I nearly turned around and left before we knocked) I scanned the crowd looking for somebody. I decided "**** it, I'm going to act like a boss and just try my best, even though the odds are against me".
The first person I noticed was a girl I was tight with at the beginning of last year. The last interaction I had with her was asking her to our formal, and I got rejected (softly, and with an excuse, but it was obvious BS). She also just barely said hello to me last party I saw her at. Despite this, I guess she decided to make things not awkward by greeting me REALLY enthusiastically. She gave me a hug and a huge smile and exclaimed, "I haven't seen you... in like a year!" I shouldn't have, but I brought up how I thought I'd seen her for like two seconds at our bid day party. She just said "uhhhh I dunno" and etc until I just saved it by saying "eh, actually I can't remember."
Her boyfriend was standing behind her like a plant the entire time. She honestly drags him around like a little puppy. He's a skinny, pretty looking kid who never has much to say. The guy is classic AFC, and drives across the country just to spend time with her.
At some point it's just so ridiculous to me that he's standing there not saying a word, so I shake his hand and he finally introduces himself. I don't think I should have done this. He just went back to staying quiet and staring blankly ahead.
Later on after roaming around and going to the kitchen, I grabbed a drink. This same friend was with the hottest new freshman girl so I re-opened. She immediately introduced herself, vibing intense insecurity of course as a new girl to the scene. It was really loud and she couldn't hear what I was saying. Either I didn't say my name or I didn't say it loud enough. I know this because she asked me what my name was after I said nice to meet you. The friend told me she was a new member (which I already knew of course) and I just nodded.
They asked girl's plant boyfriend to take a picture for them, and he complied of course. I shouted, "let's make a more awesome version of the picture where I'm in it". She couldn't hear me, and I repeated it again though with less enthusiasm/confidence. She said, "no, because you're not dressed for the 90s!" This was terrible for me of course, since I just got rejected by her in front of the new girl. (She would have gone with whatever initial girl said).
I just played it cool and said, hmm, what's 80s? And they started giving me examples from what they were wearing. They mentioned cargo shorts, and I said I had long ago tossed out and burned mine, which they thought was funny. Throughout the interaction, I threw around a few things like "oh, so you're not supposed to dress like that every day? (in response to them pointing out guys that were dressed in ridiculous clothing. only funny because I was dressed well.)" I then said, "ok then, what can I do with what I'm wearing right now? Girl tells me to flip my collar (as she's saying this, she reaches and maneuvers it for me) and tuck in my shirt. I comply but it's obvious I don't really give a ****. I shouldn't have jumped through her hoops, but it allowed me to continue the interaction in a reasonable manner.
At this point, this dude barges into my set and completely AMOGS me. He has a super high energy delivery and is wearing a sleeveless shirt which shows off a decent, but not really big/built figure. He sees me as the threat because he smiles and shakes the plant's hand, and then shakes mine without even looking at me. He actually intentionally gets my name wrong and then locks me out. Initial girl automatically responds with enthusiasm saying "what he's wearing is perfect!" and I'm pretty much blown out of the set as she catches up with him. I slowly start body rocking and showing increasing disinterest with my body language and turn around... to my friends... who unfortunately are unintentionally locking me out of their circle. It was just a bad exit/DLV.
Less than ten minutes later I exited the party, not seeing anyone else I could really interact with. The ratio there was ****ing terrible, like literally 5:1. My friends left minutes later.
I figured I'd try to do SOMETHING with the fact that I'd met the new freshman and been introduced by someone she could trust. I never see her on campus so I don't think I'll have a good opportunity to try again in person. I FR'ed her on facebook accompanied with this message:
LOL you've been on my suggested friends constantly for WEEKS, and I was just like... (incorrect pronunciation of name) who is this person??? ITS []! mystery solved
I figured a high energy and light hearted message would be way better than saying something like nice to meet you or w/e.
There's a good chance she'll accept and respond, being an insecure new freshman who doesn't really know anyone. Is this even salvageable?