WorldTraveller
Don Juan
I’ve been reading these forums for about a month now, during which I went through the whole DJ Bible (read it in one night). Just le me say that everything that is said here pretty much applies to, I would say, 95% of the western world. I’m from Spain, but went to college in the US where I ended up living for 10 years. I have lived in four countries. I now live in Costa Rica, where I run my own company.
I have to say that I have pretty much no problem approaching girls, even HB9s, and getting their phone numbers, going out on dates and all that stuff, although it is true that many of the posts on this site had invaluable tips which I had never thought of… so many thanks to everybody who posts here.
Now I do need help with one issue… the reason that accidentally brought me to this site while looking for good reading material on the Internet. Here it goes.
After dating dozens of women, good ones, bad ones, hot ones (I’ll be 33 this year) I have finally found what I think it’s THE ONE. I mean, the only one that does not provoke a “run-and-hide” reaction when listening to the word “marriage”. It is probably the first time I meet someone like this gal. She’s a 9, mature, intelligent, funny, kind, sweet, caring, 100% feminine… I’d absolutely love to fall for this one (if I haven’t already)
Now, we have already gone through the different stages of dating: first date, second date (kiss close), thrird, fourth…. Have made love (absolutely out of this word experience by the way.) But a dark cloud got in the way: an ex-boyfriend.
She had already told me at the beginning about her last relationship… a guy who was her roommate, eventually got to become her BF, and had a 2-year relationship with her until he decided to leave this country to go to London for a 3-month assignment, which became a 6-month one; then a move to another assignment in yet another country. Eventually a break up (this is all according to her story)
I never really felt threatened by this ex until the son of a *****, as soon as he found out she was seeing someone else (We had been two weeks into the dating game by then), started calling every day from abroad and sending to her 18 e-mails per day. He even called totally drunk at 4am. She has gone from being happy with me to being confused because she now doesn’t know if she still loves the bastard. Who of course had already made plans to come and visit her here to “try to make things work out”
Now, it got to a point where my gut feeling was giving me such a bad time I just called it off. Called my HB9 and told her that until she made up her mind, I was going to erase myself. She was sad but accepted (bad sign). I went to visit her about two weeks later to see how she was doing and I found out she already knew the date her ex was coming. She told me that didn’t want to hurt my feelings but that she needed to figure out whether she still loves him or not. I told her that I was interested in her BUT that in the meantime I was not going to stay at home like an AFC. I was (and have) to date other people and have fun. I have been trying to be as much of a DJ as I could but I must admit that deep inside I’ve been having a very rough time because the other hotties do not interest me any more (really bad sign)
I know I can’t force her into making up her mind… and she is also very confused and having a hard time dealing with her feelings. When I asked her once: “What do you really want to do about this?” She answered: “What I want is to fall in love with you.”
Now what would you fellow DJs do? Should I next her? Should I just wait a month and call or visit her or should I wait for her to contact me if she’s interested. Please take into account we are not dealing with a little girl here. She’s a 30-year-old successful professional who runs a 200 people company. And she has (of course) like 30 other guys asking her out (although she had chosen me). She is also the ONE I would love to keep.
I wait for you wisdom my friends…
I have to say that I have pretty much no problem approaching girls, even HB9s, and getting their phone numbers, going out on dates and all that stuff, although it is true that many of the posts on this site had invaluable tips which I had never thought of… so many thanks to everybody who posts here.
Now I do need help with one issue… the reason that accidentally brought me to this site while looking for good reading material on the Internet. Here it goes.
After dating dozens of women, good ones, bad ones, hot ones (I’ll be 33 this year) I have finally found what I think it’s THE ONE. I mean, the only one that does not provoke a “run-and-hide” reaction when listening to the word “marriage”. It is probably the first time I meet someone like this gal. She’s a 9, mature, intelligent, funny, kind, sweet, caring, 100% feminine… I’d absolutely love to fall for this one (if I haven’t already)
Now, we have already gone through the different stages of dating: first date, second date (kiss close), thrird, fourth…. Have made love (absolutely out of this word experience by the way.) But a dark cloud got in the way: an ex-boyfriend.
She had already told me at the beginning about her last relationship… a guy who was her roommate, eventually got to become her BF, and had a 2-year relationship with her until he decided to leave this country to go to London for a 3-month assignment, which became a 6-month one; then a move to another assignment in yet another country. Eventually a break up (this is all according to her story)
I never really felt threatened by this ex until the son of a *****, as soon as he found out she was seeing someone else (We had been two weeks into the dating game by then), started calling every day from abroad and sending to her 18 e-mails per day. He even called totally drunk at 4am. She has gone from being happy with me to being confused because she now doesn’t know if she still loves the bastard. Who of course had already made plans to come and visit her here to “try to make things work out”
Now, it got to a point where my gut feeling was giving me such a bad time I just called it off. Called my HB9 and told her that until she made up her mind, I was going to erase myself. She was sad but accepted (bad sign). I went to visit her about two weeks later to see how she was doing and I found out she already knew the date her ex was coming. She told me that didn’t want to hurt my feelings but that she needed to figure out whether she still loves him or not. I told her that I was interested in her BUT that in the meantime I was not going to stay at home like an AFC. I was (and have) to date other people and have fun. I have been trying to be as much of a DJ as I could but I must admit that deep inside I’ve been having a very rough time because the other hotties do not interest me any more (really bad sign)
I know I can’t force her into making up her mind… and she is also very confused and having a hard time dealing with her feelings. When I asked her once: “What do you really want to do about this?” She answered: “What I want is to fall in love with you.”
Now what would you fellow DJs do? Should I next her? Should I just wait a month and call or visit her or should I wait for her to contact me if she’s interested. Please take into account we are not dealing with a little girl here. She’s a 30-year-old successful professional who runs a 200 people company. And she has (of course) like 30 other guys asking her out (although she had chosen me). She is also the ONE I would love to keep.
I wait for you wisdom my friends…