need advice from the masters of getting woman.

[Murk]

Well I don't know how things were left, if she reaches out to you of course reply with the idea of getting her either on a drinking date or over to your house or back over to her house.

I don't think we should right this girl off as you have no other options at the moment and I think there is a chance you can get with her still. Just dial it back a bit to how you were before, let her think she may have blown it by not letting you bang (when it was actually you that prob blew it being so drunk). She may just be stringing you along for attention which is why I'm saying not to fall into that trap.

 

[Ryan Adams]

things were left off with her dropping me off at my house and we kissed before I got out. she then went back home and immediately looked for my hat. found it and I made a funny remark about how she's probably wearing it. I then invited her out to this bar. and I mean we got 2 hrs of sleep the night before and she had to work so she was like I'm dead I need sleep. and thats how it was left off. I still have not got my hat. another guy was hitting on her at the bar and he was like dude she likes you and left her alone. do I'm pretty sure she's digging me.

 

[Murk]

Does she live alone or w/o her parents?

You have a reason to go back to hers for your hat, you need to turn that into an opportunity for sex, you will do this by making sure nobody else is home, it's night time, possibly alcohol involved. Maybe wait til the weekend for your hat in necessary, so don't initiate contact until Thursday. that's how I would play this situation anyway. Chances are she's going to reach out before then anyway, just leave her alone for now it's only Monday.

 

[Ryan Adams]

pretty sure she's not super high moral but she definitely isn't a slvt so I'm sure she has a decent amount of respect for herself

 

[Ryan Adams]

Does she live alone or w/o her parents?

You have a reason to go back to hers for your hat, you need to turn that into an opportunity for sex, you will do this by making sure nobody else is home, it's night time, possibly alcohol involved. Maybe wait til the weekend for your hat in necessary, so don't initiate contact until Thursday. that's how I would play this situation anyway. Chances are she's going to reach out before then anyway, just leave her alone for now it's only Monday.

she shares an apartment with her friend. i was thinking mention the hat. then try to see if she wants to watch a movie at her place or something? if she reaches out before that should I put off getting it till fri?

 

[Murk]

Well if you think she would be up for doing something mid week then use the hat before then, ideally though you want to ignore the hat if she reaches out, let her bring it up "oh I have your hat" "oh cool, I'll swing by friday night/saturday to grab it" - don't ask, tell her you will, as simple as that, she's hardly going to say no to that unless she's playing games/doesn't like you. If she rejects that, get the hat and hard NC her.

 

[Ryan Adams]

Will do, I wass gonna use Valentine's day as an excuse to take her out but nah i got something going on that day anyway. but yeah good idea I'll just nc until thur or Fri and swing by and grab it then then bring up something about a movie etc etc

 

[derby1]

why are you going no contact with a girl whos showing you interest, shes even dropped you off home

you go low contact .....

4-5 texts here and there perhaps miss a day where you dont initiate, Strictly stick to this 4-5 text rule
****y and funny "tell her your not bothered about her buying you flowers for Valentines day, a dime bar cheesecake will do and a few beers"

you should be confirming a meet up within a few texts, aint got time to Fck about text tampon

then you get this woman on your own isolate and escalate

do not drink before you see her, youll ruin everything

 

[Ryan Adams]

well I haven't talked to her since sat night. should I shoot her a text about my hat? or wait a day or so? this is where I mess up I either text to much or don't text at all and she thinks I'm not interested.

 

[derby1]

no dont mention your hat dont even mention it till ya with her in person

strike up a convo with her

 

[Ryan Adams]

now or later? the last time we talked and i was the who who had the last words... not sure if this matters? she mentioned she was tired etc etc and I said jokingly I think you miss me in your bed.

well im kinda gonna have to mention the hat because it's the only reason I'd be going over there to pick it up lol

 

[derby1]

no your gonna get this woman on a date

you dont use your hat as a reason to bang thats like these orbiters on social media offering to fix her car,etc

she will see right through this creepy tactic

be straight up with her " you good (name)? fancy coming for a drink with me on Saturday?

 

[Ryan Adams]

and if she declines?

 

[Ryan Adams]

so this is so fvkin pathetic but I'm sitting here thinking of what to say to her to strike up a convo.

 

[derby1]

exactly what i put about 4 messages back, you already know this woman

 

[Ryan Adams]

exactly what i put about 4 messages back, you already know this woman

thing is like I said a few pages back I asked her and she said idk I have to get back with you I'm just busy during the week I don't ever go out during the week. then sat morning when she was driving me home I mentioned it and she once again said idk I never go out during the week.... so it's confusing but then when we got home she literally searched the whole house for my hat so she's doing all of these thi ngs for me but keeps putting off me taking her out... I just don't want a come to strong and ask aaaagain. but every weekend doesn't matter what bar im at she will meet me there..

 

[derby1]

through the week.... I said the weekend? the only thing thats confusing matters is your mind is spinning which isnt good you will set yourself up for fail...

you believe this woman to be the prize and you not the prize....

send her this "Ive been thinking... dont buy me flowers they emasculate me....Get me some cake and beer for valentines day ok! "

 

[Ryan Adams]

I know man happens to me everytime... thats my problem... I will say this i will update in a few

 

[Murk]

Don’t message her it’s monday, go about your business for a few days jeez

 

[Ryan Adams]

I'm getting conflicting information lol