Okay,
Here's the deal. I have been dating this girl exclusively for 15 months and she is incredible. I have never experienced a woman like this before - best friend material also. We also started a business together, which is just getting off the ground.
She has told me that because she was divorced and hurt before she never wants to get married again. At first I thought this was great, but I really want to spend the rest of my life with this girl. I think these facts combined to make me feel a little insecure.
Last weekend I heard rumors that she was seeing someone behind my back and I was upset because I have turned down lots of women that I could have gone out with in the past. I immediately felt like I had been betrayed. So without doing enough research I confronted her and asked a bunch of questions and told her what I heard. She was so devastated that I didn't trust her.
She cried for about a day. I then found out through a bunch of sources that the rumors weren't true. Her best friends told me she was completely in love with me and only wanted to be with me.
I apologized and waited for her to calm down. When she did, she became very relaxed and said "I don't want to have a relationship right now with anyone - it's too painful." She did say that she still wants to keep our business going and wants to remain friends, although she doesn't want even a lower level romantic relationship with me. Her best friend says be patient she will come around after she gets grounded and she'll be yours again.
I've never been in this position before. It is so painful. Should I cut and run or is there something I can do to make myself more attractive to her? I can't even imagine being only her friend (especially if she dates anybody else) but I also can't imagine losing her. Help
Here's the deal. I have been dating this girl exclusively for 15 months and she is incredible. I have never experienced a woman like this before - best friend material also. We also started a business together, which is just getting off the ground.
She has told me that because she was divorced and hurt before she never wants to get married again. At first I thought this was great, but I really want to spend the rest of my life with this girl. I think these facts combined to make me feel a little insecure.
Last weekend I heard rumors that she was seeing someone behind my back and I was upset because I have turned down lots of women that I could have gone out with in the past. I immediately felt like I had been betrayed. So without doing enough research I confronted her and asked a bunch of questions and told her what I heard. She was so devastated that I didn't trust her.
She cried for about a day. I then found out through a bunch of sources that the rumors weren't true. Her best friends told me she was completely in love with me and only wanted to be with me.
I apologized and waited for her to calm down. When she did, she became very relaxed and said "I don't want to have a relationship right now with anyone - it's too painful." She did say that she still wants to keep our business going and wants to remain friends, although she doesn't want even a lower level romantic relationship with me. Her best friend says be patient she will come around after she gets grounded and she'll be yours again.
I've never been in this position before. It is so painful. Should I cut and run or is there something I can do to make myself more attractive to her? I can't even imagine being only her friend (especially if she dates anybody else) but I also can't imagine losing her. Help