Originally posted by cinephile
What is interesting to think about, though, if that is true, is maybe the failure of some people with women has more to do more with their general personality type than any kind of application of DJ skills? Think about it, if you are somebody with one of the rarer personality types, I would think that most individuals would be turned off or confused by you?
I think there's definitely some merit to this, but I also think it's important to not allow oneself to become a victim of their own differences and start blaming external forces for their difficulty with women. My feeling is that the best way to handle being one of the minority personality types (and I'm one of them) is to study some of the differences and see how to bridge the gap.
Also, it helps tremendously to become very familiar with the description of your OWN type. The more you understand yourself, the more likely you'll understand how others perceive your behavior.
I do believe that certain personality types are more naturally "DJ-inclined" than others. The rest of us have to fail, practice, and learn how to develop those latent abilities.
For example--one INFP trait (which is my type) is the tendency to be exceptionally hard on themselves, and never take enough credit for a job well-done. This would CLEARLY be construed as a lack of confidence to an outside observer, but it's actually not the case--it's the perfectionist in us, wanting to improve even MORE. However, knowing that people will perceive things a certain way regardless of what the INTENT is, it's been valuable for me to NOT express verbally if I'm unsatisfied with something I've done--especially if I've gotten positive feedback.
Become familiar with your typeologies weaknesses, and work to minimize them. It's a simple but effective way to level the playing field a bit.