My wife rejecting my new ways...

[BeyondCharm]

That's your opinion. And that's fine for you to feel that way. I feel it's unhealthy to live inside the frame of it being morally wrong to exchange playfully charged banter with a woman i may or may not be attracted to (because trust me - i am unattracted to MOST of the women who i "flirt" with).

And guys, this is only the first step im taking in improving my marriage, sex life, and self. This was the easiest to implement and only took me getting over some social fears.

There will be more, and they will include ways that legitimately build up the relationship.

OP,

I support and agree with the direction your going becuase I see you as a man who is doing what he wants, living FREELY and enjoying the freedom of life. You are not playing by anyones textbook and you're having more fun than you've had in years, and that is why I told these naysayers that they are simply brainwashed by media-pop culture which tells them the guy must be this "stay at home guy that never interactis with hot women"... that's all bs. You can have tons of hot women in your social circles, it's clearly not the same as going over to their houses after pilates for tea.. that would be crossing a line because you've taken your interactions with them to become private encounters and dates..

I've been on both sides of the street, the "goodie goodie man" that tries to always fit in those tight jeans that the woman calls "mature, respectful, gentlemen, etc" and that this lady in this thread describes as "mutual respect" and all that... and i've been on the side of flirting with women, enjoying the sights and company in public avenues with other women etc... guess what? I enjoy the second one more, and it actually caused me to be less needy and co-dependent in my personal relationship with an LTR...

Needsless to say, a lot of peoples "morals" are clouding their vision.. you are obviously finding success and enjoying your life and I encourage you to continue to do what you are doing, since it is obviously working.

 

[jafyk]

You're a married man. It's not healthy in a marriage. You're admitting that you're actively seeking connections with other women.



I think self improvement, and self realization are extremely important. And we need to pay attention and focus on that in our lives whether we're in a relationship or not.

While there is an increase in sexual activity , I dont know if we can jump into the assumption that your bond and intimacy has actually improved, strengthened and deepened.
So you may be getting more sex, but how are her relational needs being addressed? What if what she needs is more than sex?

Tread carefully. I dont think you understand what kind of dynamic you've introduced here.
Good luck.

Dang! Did you even read the last 2 things he wrote. I do agree that a little flirting not intended for anything more is ok. It creates for a good environment. He's taken his wife's wishes into consideration and found something they can both do together happily. Seems you are not for marriage but don't discourage those trying to make their work.

 

[Nutz]

fastseduction is how you search MASF:

http://www.google.com/search?q=site:fastseduction.com+"frame+control"

You can do the same with sosuave:

http://www.google.com/search?q=site:sosuave.com+"frame+control"


BE WARNED: You WILL BE HIT with tons of information. Probably too much to digest at once.

In all my years of being an IT guy I never knew you could do that! Big thanks dude!

 

[RMM]

In all my years of being an IT guy I never knew you could do that! Big thanks dude!

Another useful one is "inurl:something", will filter and give you all links that contain the word "something" in the URL. I use it often to filter by countries (like inurl:.nz for New Zealand, for example).