My Opinion On Cheating

[5string]

I don't have any data to back this up mind you, but I'm of the opinion that women cheat much more than men. Why do I believe this? Opportunity! Men have to work for the poon, whereas women can serve it up on a plate to whomever they wish and will rarely be turned down. Due to their inherent anti slut defense, they'll keep much more quiet about it than men will.

If there has been any studies on this, I'll bet the numbers are skewed as women simply won't admit to their behavior.

Whatya think? You agree or disagree with my thinking?

 

[DonGorgon]

Yes... men F when and who the can

women... F when and who they want..

men have to chase and beg and hope and prey and pay for sex

women pick and choose which of the beggers they will F and even have to avoid the men they reject that refuse to give up... when women cheat she is in control of what happens so its easier to keep things hidden cause the man will go along with her rules so he can F her..

but when men cheat the outside women will not be are willing to conform and will often do stuff to sabotage the mans relationship..

 

[perseverance]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...gest-cheats--theyre-just-better-lying-it.html

There you go! Have a read of this, very interesting.

 

[5string]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...gest-cheats--theyre-just-better-lying-it.html

There you go! Have a read of this, very interesting.

Holy sh!t! Maybe I'm on to something here.

 

[EvilAgenda]

Nice link, perseverance. Thank you for that.

but when men cheat the outside women will not be are willing to conform and will often do stuff to sabotage the mans relationship..

Remember seeing it every time on Springer. Be it most of those guys are idiots to begin with, but the message is the same.

It's better to be the one with whom a woman cheats than the one on whom the woman cheats.

More and more this one chord strikes home that relationships are becoming more and more of a joke. Everyone feels attraction to people outside of their relationships every day, that's normal, but VERY few people it seems can resist acting on it.

 

[runner83]

Case in point:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=188675

And I've done similar with a married woman in the past.

ANY woman, given the right circumstances, will cheat.

 

[zekko]

My gut feeling is that it's about even.

It's become fashionable in recent years to say that women cheat more. The title of that linked article says so, but then when you read it, it says 15% of women cheat, compared to 20% of men. Both of those strike me as a little low.

I've never understood why women were better at keeping their affairs secret. They're supposed to run on emotion, not logic, yet when it comes to affairs suddenly they become cool and calculating? How can they not gush about their lovers to their friends? How can their friends keep from gossiping about it? 5string, you said yourself in another current thread that women "can't keep the hole under their noses shut".

I think a main advantage in cheating that they have is men are not as suspicious or snoopy as women. Men are taught not to snoop, because it is "insecure, possessive, and controlling". There's really no stigma on women for snooping - it's almost expected.

I'd say men are more driven to cheat, but like 5string says, women have more opportunity - the temptation is more right in their face, as it were. All they have to do is accept the offer.

 

[handle]

"I don't have any data to back this up..."

"If there has been any studies on this, I'll bet the numbers are skewed as women simply won't admit to their behavior"

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[Iceberg]

I don't have any data to back this up mind you, but I'm of the opinion that women cheat much more than men. Why do I believe this? Opportunity! Men have to work for the poon, whereas women can serve it up on a plate to whomever they wish and will rarely be turned down. Due to their inherent anti slut defense, they'll keep much more quiet about it than men will.

If there has been any studies on this, I'll bet the numbers are skewed as women simply won't admit to their behavior.

Whatya think? You agree or disagree with my thinking?

Nah. I think on this board, people will find reason to tell you that women are the root of all things negative and evil.

Women CAN get sex whenever they want it, but I don't think they pursue sex the same way males do.

"I don't have any data to back this up..."

"If there has been any studies on this, I'll bet the numbers are skewed as women simply won't admit to their behavior"

...

Hah...exactly

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Or, as I heard one girl say to another girl awhile back:

"Remember, it's not "cheating" if you're not in love and don't really have any "feelings" for him anymore."

Which, of course, remains one of the most "chilling" comments I've ever had the displeasure of hearing.

V.U.

 

[perseverance]

Victory Unlimited, chilling indeed! It's enough to make you lose all faith in women.

One of my old work colleagues went on holiday to Greece for a few weeks with her best friend and their parents. Her best friend cheated on her boyfriend with a few guys and when she got home from holiday behaved like nothing happened. They are still together now, I see them holding hands. She paints the picture of being a beautiful, classy woman who is devoted to her boyfriend. Yet when she is on holiday she is all over other men. I feel sorry for the man because he is oblivious to it. Apparently she has cheated on him numerous times since her holiday.

It's a horrible feeling just thinking your girlfriend or wife could be having an affair and you could be none the wiser, because she puts on a mask and is willing to lie to your face. It's cold, callous and calculating. What is also more sickening is the article I posted states that around 15% of children born haven't been fathered by the man who thinks he is the biological parent.

It's a shocking statistic, women who do things like that deserve the worst in life, they really do.

 

[FairShake]

Not really a fair comparison then. Women cheat more because they can. I think it really should be who tries more.

Not that I do, but when I did it was all a matter of downplaying my relationship status. Not a lot of women want to be "the other woman" of a happy relationship. Of an unhappy relationship? Then they're game. :yes:

 

[pdx1138]

Or, as I heard one girl say to another girl awhile back:

"Remember, it's not "cheating" if you're not in love and don't really have any "feelings" for him anymore."

Which, of course, remains one of the most "chilling" comments I've ever had the displeasure of hearing.

V.U.

never heard that one before, but it sure rings true!

 

[5string]

My gut feeling is that it's about even.

It's become fashionable in recent years to say that women cheat more. The title of that linked article says so, but then when you read it, it says 15% of women cheat, compared to 20% of men. Both of those strike me as a little low.

I've never understood why women were better at keeping their affairs secret. They're supposed to run on emotion, not logic, yet when it comes to affairs suddenly they become cool and calculating? How can they not gush about their lovers to their friends? How can their friends keep from gossiping about it? 5string, you said yourself in another current thread that women "can't keep the hole under their noses shut".

I think a main advantage in cheating that they have is men are not as suspicious or snoopy as women. Men are taught not to snoop, because it is "insecure, possessive, and controlling". There's really no stigma on women for snooping - it's almost expected.

I'd say men are more driven to cheat, but like 5string says, women have more opportunity - the temptation is more right in their face, as it were. All they have to do is accept the offer.

You are correct ol buddy. About their past, I know from first hand experience that women reveal little details about things over the course of time. They can't help it. They are much more guarded about who they have slept with however. Men on the other hand are more likely to brag about who they have banged, but have a much easier time keeping the other details of their lives to themselves. As far as women go, I think it boils down to the ASD don't you think? Like I said, women can have it anytime they wish. How cool would it be if we as men could get it whenever we wanted some?

 

[zekko]

As far as women go, I think it boils down to the ASD don't you think?

It's the only thing that makes any sense, as far as explaining why women would be better at hiding affairs.

This is being discussed on another thread around here somewhere. If it becomes known that a woman has too many sex partners, her value as a relationship-worthy woman decreases. So they learn to guard their sexual exploits as secrets.

I don't know if that totally explains why they're so good at hiding cheating though. Maybe they are looking forward to the eventual divorce, and they want to be able to play the role of victim to the hilt. All that would be spoiled if it were known they were cheating.

 

[5string]

It's the only thing that makes any sense, as far as explaining why women would be better at hiding affairs.

This is being discussed on another thread around here somewhere. If it becomes known that a woman has too many sex partners, her value as a relationship-worthy woman decreases. So they learn to guard their sexual exploits as secrets.

I don't know if that totally explains why they're so good at hiding cheating though. Maybe they are looking forward to the eventual divorce, and they want to be able to play the role of victim to the hilt. All that would be spoiled if it were known they were cheating.

I think you are spot on.

 

[perseverance]

Threads like this are turning me into a commitment-phobe. :crackup:

 

[nismo-4]

Judge nismo is scared of getting married!

I used to think marriage was beautiful, but it's more beneficial to the woman. If I ever get married, I'm getting an airtight prenup. I'm not letting a b**ch take half my damn money.

Women lie all the f**kin' time. If she finds a man who is better than you in some way, she'll pursue him. Even women in their 50's and above will lie, cheat, tease, and play games with you.

I had a date with a woman who was 50 a while back, and she was turned off by the fact that I was a working man trying to come up. I work a lot of hours in a week, and she really lost interest in me thinking that I wouldn't have time for her. It's times like these that make me realize that a working man on the come up doesn't get much respect from women unless the guy is a provider or has already made it (millionaire).

Women always look at how a guy looks, both physically and financially. No matter how old they are, they seem to think they're entitled to a super handsome rich man. Why do you think so many women have a child by a man who left them? These same women find sucker men to raise them! If a woman ever wanted sex, she could get it with no problems. If a guy wants it, he's gotta go through hoops and mazes.

For you 5string, it would be kick-ass if we could get sex from women whenever and whereever. But to do that, we'd have to be single, super rich, super famous, and super good looking. Women are really good at hiding cheating and affairs. I do want to get in a relationship, but I know it's tough for a normal working man like me. I have hardly heard of a woman being hurt by rejection. Men chase, women choose. Women control the sex and dating game. They also choose their feelings for a man as well as how far they'll let the man get with them. Women love to use glass ceilings.

I am guilty of thinking that marriage is always good. The fine for my crime is a trip to Harshreality Hills, Wisconsin.

If no further arguments, we'll stand adjouned.

 

[zekko]

I used to think marriage was beautiful, but it's more beneficial to the woman.

That isn't the problem.
The problem is that divorce is more beneficial to the woman.

 

[sstype]

I don't have any data to back this up mind you, but I'm of the opinion that women cheat much more than men. Why do I believe this? Opportunity! Men have to work for the poon, whereas women can serve it up on a plate to whomever they wish and will rarely be turned down. Due to their inherent anti slut defense, they'll keep much more quiet about it than men will.

If there has been any studies on this, I'll bet the numbers are skewed as women simply won't admit to their behavior.

Whatya think? You agree or disagree with my thinking?

Men can easily cheat as well....its called prostitutes and their clients mainly consist of married men. I know women don't have to pay for it, but a married man of middle-class or higher status could easily and discreetly cheat behind his wife if he was so inclined.

Look, unless you marry an obese ugly cow no man wants....the risk of her cheating will always exist. There is really nothing stopping your partner from straying if she was motivated to do so. All you can do is gauge the health of the relationship and how she makes you feel. If she takes care of you, sexually satisfies you, doesn't drag you down and likewise she is happy and content with you......is there really any point in constantly doubting her faithfulness?

In other words, if you find the kind of woman who adds to you life rather than takes away from it, you shouldn't be worried about her cheating if she is investing herself into your success and happiness.

You just have to trust that you are the one she wants at the end of the day. Most women won't cheat if they are happy in a relationship....although it can happen regardless. Its important to establish your expectations at the beginning of the relationship and if she fails to meet them....to decide whether its worth it to continue being with her.

Screen your women guys.