my old plate (not technically a plate) contacted me just now out of the blue

[big weezy]

this girl i tried to pick up around a year ago but had a bf would only reply to me after a few days.. my last 2 texts around halloween and prior were 'do you still have a bf?' vein.. no reply, so i deleted her number.

she texted me few hours ago out of the blue (typical attention seeking type text)
her: how r u?
(couple hours later)
me: Wet. Just got back from playing tennis!
(10mins after)
her: Love tennis

i haven't responded, mainly because this is an attention seeking type msg for her to see if i'm still interested.. at what point do i escalate to make suggestions to meet? i didnt respond cos i have to play harder to get, she may just be wanting me to suggest to meet then go back to how she was before, i should wait for her to make a suggestion to meet right?

1 suspects if she's contacting me like this her bf may be out of the picture or she's branch swinging, given every time i contacted her before she'd ignore me about the bf thing. or plain attention wh0ring ego boost.

 

[big weezy]

do you think i should bother following up her text or just leave it and sweat it out and see if she contacts me to meet?

for some reason i seem to think she's DTF today and lonley.

 

[moon goddess]

I have no advice to give. I just wanna know why do you call them "plates"?

 

[Zerro]

1 suspects if she's contacting me like this her bf may be out of the picture or she's branch swinging, given every time i contacted her before she'd ignore me about the bf thing. or plain attention wh0ring ego boost.

It could be either. I had this chick whom I had flirted with and took for a date only to have nothing come of it, then several months later she contacts me out of the blue. She wasn't too happy to hear that I was dating another girl by then; hey she had her chance already!

 

[Greasy Pig]

Awesome, Danger. Spot on.

But in saying that, the chick's text convo was fvcking lame. Nothing there to really get me excited. It's not as though she's brimming with enthusiasm.
Maybe she's just testing the waters to see how you react initially.

Send Danger's text, and remember, be funny, be mysterious, keep it light and don't come across as needy. She's reached out to you, so there might be some interest there.
Report back!

 

[big weezy]

tbh i dont really want to get together to play tennis with her.. she has a nice face but her body is so so.. how can i turn this into a 'i come round for drinks and sex' type of situation?

should i still follow through with danger's suggestion and change around the 'play' thing into something more exciting?

 

[Greasy Pig]

I think it'll be virtually impossible to achieve that after so long with no contact and not having been intimate with her before.
You're going to have to build some rapport by being ****y and funny.

Talk yourself up, tell her how amazing your life is, how awesome at tennis you are, how you've been seeing a couple of girls but not seriously because you're just too damn busy conquering the world.
If you sense she's receptive, just tell her you'd like to catch up on old times over a few drinks at a bar. From there, you can try to get her back to yours.

 

[big weezy]

I think it'll be virtually impossible to achieve that after so long with no contact and not having been intimate with her before.
You're going to have to build some rapport by being ****y and funny.

Talk yourself up, tell her how amazing your life is, how awesome at tennis you are, how you've been seeing a couple of girls but not seriously because you're just too damn busy conquering the world.
If you sense she's receptive, just tell her you'd like to catch up on old times over a few drinks at a bar. From there, you can try to get her back to yours.

haha.. if i was to send what danger said 'if you like losing, then let's play..' and she sends something back like 'ok when?' and i were to send 'im not talking about playing tennis.. ' is this just not going in the direction i should be?

i feel quite lazy about this one.. i think cos she was never forthcoming from the start.. it's ironic tho, that the 1 from my other thread i seem to bend over backwards for whereas this 1 i couldn't really give a f about cos it seems too much hassle and the pay off isn't as worth it.

 

[Purefilth]

I have no advice to give. I just wanna know why do you call them "plates"?

Ever see a circus/ magic show where they spin plates on sticks?

You can't focus in just one, you have to give them equal attention to keep them spinning.
Keeping several plates helps to prevent the 'oneitis' from kicking in.

Oneitis is a term used when you are giving too much attention to a single plate and have no others spinning. This will render you needy and outcome dependant on every single sign or signal you get.

The idea is to stay indifferent to individuals until they prove they are worth some time and effort to keep around.

Make sense?

 

[BeDJ]

Purefilth,

Although your efforts are appreciated, women do not understand the term "oneitis" you speak of.

 

[Purefilth]

Well I thought that since she is a goddess, maybe she would let me be her friend if I tried to expain it to her - then she would get to know the real me, and then i would shower her with attention, gifts and love to keep her interested and then she would fall madly in love with me and then she would marry me and then, just maybe, she might forget about her options and give me a sympathy fvck?




....... Do you think i should tell her how I feel? :cracukp:

 

[Naughty Ninja]

this girl i tried to pick up around a year ago but had a bf would only reply to me after a few days.. my last 2 texts around halloween and prior were 'do you still have a bf?' vein.. no reply, so i deleted her number.

she texted me few hours ago out of the blue (typical attention seeking type text)
her: how r u?
(couple hours later)
me: Wet. Just got back from playing tennis!
(10mins after)
her: Love tennis

i haven't responded, mainly because this is an attention seeking type msg for her to see if i'm still interested.. at what point do i escalate to make suggestions to meet? i didnt respond cos i have to play harder to get, she may just be wanting me to suggest to meet then go back to how she was before, i should wait for her to make a suggestion to meet right?

1 suspects if she's contacting me like this her bf may be out of the picture or she's branch swinging, given every time i contacted her before she'd ignore me about the bf thing. or plain attention wh0ring ego boost.

I'd reply back:

Loving tennis and actually playing it are two different things. You down to play and get spanked or are you just content with watching from the stands?

See how there's a "conversation" in between the lines?

(You have to read their code and buzz words: "love" tennis. She used "love" as a buzz word so you mirror it right back. It could mean she'd "love" to "play with you right now", it could also mean she "loves" to play "games" and it could also be a test by using "love" to see if she can get you on her hook.

If she goes and wants to play after that type of response from you...She may just want to "play tennis" with you.

You put the ball in her court. Straight and to the point in a humourous way (she can read between the lines and sh1t or get off the pot) In otherwords if not she can take her ball and go home. Game over. Period.

 

[Trump]

my last 2 texts around halloween and prior were 'do you still have a bf?' vein.. no reply, so i deleted her number.

she texted me few hours ago out of the blue
her: how r u?
(couple hours later)
me: Wet. Just got back from playing tennis!
(10mins after)
her: Love tennis

Did you mean vain?

You texted her 2 months ago while she was getting plowed by her bf and didn't care if you were dead or alive.

She texts you 2 months later and you respond in 2 hours? Dude she shows that text to her girlfriend and says "look how fast this guy responds to me, look how much power I have over him without even touching him."

Its rough out there.

 

[big weezy]

Did you mean vain?

You texted her 2 months ago while she was getting plowed by her bf and didn't care if you were dead or alive.

She texts you 2 months later and you respond in 2 hours? Dude she shows that text to her girlfriend and says "look how fast this guy responds to me, look how much power I have over him without even touching him."

Its rough out there.

i think waiting a couple hours is a long time especially compared to replying straight away or after 10mins.

i didnt repsond to her till today so it's been over a day now.

 

[big weezy]

I'd reply back:

Loving tennis and actually playing it are two different things. You down to play and get spanked or are you just content with watching from the stands?

See how there's a "conversation" in between the lines?

(You have to read their code and buzz words: "love" tennis. She used "love" as a buzz word so you mirror it right back. It could mean she'd "love" to "play with you right now", it could also mean she "loves" to play "games" and it could also be a test by using "love" to see if she can get you on her hook.

If she goes and wants to play after that type of response from you...She may just want to "play tennis" with you.

You put the ball in her court. Straight and to the point in a humourous way (she can read between the lines and sh1t or get off the pot) In otherwords if not she can take her ball and go home. Game over. Period.

i sent what danger said originally then what you said:

me: if you love losing, then let's play...

after 50mins her: who said you gonna win

i sent what you said naughtyninja: loving and actually playing are two different things. you ready to play and get spanked or are you just content with watching from the side..

no response yet.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Given that attraction either exist or not and cannot be created, a girl who doesnt even bother to reply to your texts to begin with,shows that she not only doesnt find you attractive but also doesnt respect you.

Therefore her coming back to you out of the blue its the simple sign that what she is looking is not you but the validation and the ego boost that your requests were providing to her.

Its not about you, she is calling to have a confirmation that she still can have you, the same moment you ask her out again will be the same moment in which she gets a ego orgasm and disappear again while enjoying other c0cks now that her mood is better.

She is probably been unable to get someone which she likes and her ego is kinda low so she needs a fix.

I know thats not the answer you wanted to hear but I strongly believe this is the reason...else what exactly changed in this months after she ignored you that would made you from boring to awesome?

Look she didnt even proposed a meeting, she is just toying with you waiting for you to do it only to get her ego fix and ejoy power while disappearing again or rejecting it.

 

[big weezy]

Given that attraction either exist or not and cannot be created, a girl who doesnt even bother to reply to your texts to begin with,shows that she not only doesnt find you attractive but also doesnt respect you.

Therefore her coming back to you out of the blue its the simple sign that what she is looking is not you but the validation and the ego boost that your requests were providing to her.

Its not about you, she is calling to have a confirmation that she still can have you, the same moment you ask her out again will be the same moment in which she gets a ego orgasm and disappear again while enjoying other c0cks now that her mood is better.

She is probably been unable to get someone which she likes and her ego is kinda low so she needs a fix.

I know thats not the answer you wanted to hear but I strongly believe this is the reason...else what exactly changed in this months after she ignored you that would made you from boring to awesome?

Look she didnt even proposed a meeting, she is just toying with you waiting for you to do it only to get her ego fix and ejoy power while disappearing again or rejecting it.

yeah i agree completely, it's what i suspected all along.

doesn't matter anyway i wasn't all that attracted to her.. if she had a better body maybe. so im quite indifferent about this.

she sent back: i been playing it for 5 years.

me: who says i was talking about 'playing' tennis..

no reply.

there's your answer.

 

[Plutoman]

To be honest, I don't know of any girls that would respond to something that direct, that fast, sober, to a guy they've had absolutely no contact with for a long while.

 

[Who Dares Win]

yeah i agree completely, it's what i suspected all along.

doesn't matter anyway i wasn't all that attracted to her.. if she had a better body maybe. so im quite indifferent about this.

she sent back: i been playing it for 5 years.

me: who says i was talking about 'playing' tennis..

no reply.

there's your answer.

That girl is not worth the electricity you are consuming to write about her.

Seriously man, delete her name and delete any message from her so you dont have the temptation to restard, not only for your dignity but for efficiency reasons.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

To be honest, I don't know of any girls that would respond to something that direct, that fast, sober, to a guy they've had absolutely no contact with for a long while.

The reason I gave the OP that suggestion is because he stated he didn't really care and wanted to fvck. He already stated she might be attention seeking so you just have to call them on their BS especially if it's some clown azz chick.

You go direct. Either she bites or she can take off. If she comes back in a few days she may just actually want what he "suggested" after all.

Now if it was a chick who cared about him and him about her it's a different story.

You can't play games with AW's. You call their bluff and BS and don't waste your time.