My friend just randomly texted me what do

[SoSly]

So this girl I was trying to get and I had total oneitis for but she thought of us as really good friends , so I cut contact with just a few "hey , hows it going" and short 5 minute convos for the next month, now she out of the blue texts me yesterday and asks how I'm doing blah blah , some fun flirting.

Then today after talking to me like twice in the past month she says over TEXT
"just to clear the air , I dont like you like that"

I havent texted back yet

Now I dont know what to do , I KNOW I can't be friends and Im not into the having a "girl" friend so I dont want that....

So either I just play it off cool "okay so whats your point " or just be like "well then , there is no reason to talk anymore".

Any other ideas ? She is a girl that seems to think she runs **** , so I wanna say something that will bring her back down to earth and let her know she isn't on a pedestal and I dont give a ****

 

[crazyboy]

Just be like okay i figure that much so what your point. or you can straight up ignore her and move on.

 

[pdx1138]

ignore

 

[Voice]

"Like what? You know you're like a sister to me"
"Yeah sorry, I really don't get that vibe with you either"
"I actually consider you one of the guys"
on and on...

or ignore the text and keep on with the flirting like you never heard it.

 

[HariPoter13]

Don't respond. Ignoring her is the best thing you can do. If you show her that you're butthurt, she wins; it makes her ego bigger. If you want to bring her down, ignore her; ignore her every single time, even in person. She doesn't exist.

 

[SoSly]

Should I not say anything at all , not even ask why? Are you sure ignoring is the best?

 

[joverby]

I would ignore, personally. Like others said any other response will more than likely just inflat her ego.

Vice probably had the best responses. She would see right through those even. You really dont' have much to gain by replying.

 

[Scars]

Sounds like she's insecure and trying to protect her sense of self. A girl doesn't just randomly say that out of the blue unless you gave her reason to believe you still like her, however if what you say is true (her doing all the initiating, and only talking to her a couple times a month), it sounds to me like she is trying to preserve her ego and self-entitlement by instantly assuming you still want her, and then REMINDING you of it. This girl is simply looking to get an emotional reaction out of you, she wants to make sure she still has your balls in a vice and can come and go using you as validation as she pleases.

..and how do you deal with attention wh0res boys? That's right, you ignore them.

-Scars

 

[yuppaz]

I'd go with one of voices responses, because a NC does show your butt-hurt over it. I'd then not hang with the girl because she doesn't sound like a very cool chick to be using you to validate her ego (which she really is).

 

[SoSly]

I'd go with one of voices responses, because a NC does show your butt-hurt over it. I'd then not hang with the girl because she doesn't sound like a very cool chick to be using you to validate her ego (which she really is).

Thats the one thing I'm weary about... if I dont reply doesn't that kinda show I'm like mad or sad about it , and I still care but just dont know what to say?

 

[TheAsianLoverReturns]

The opposite of love is indifference, not hate.

Ignore the b*tch and focus on getting more women. There's no reason why you should be focusing on ONE b*tch.

 

[WhitePimp]

This girl has you doing exactly what she wants you to do, which is start playing into her stupid game/drama. Don't. She's only using you to boost her ego. Who cares if you look 'butthurt'? Don't respond, she no longer exists.

 

[SoSly]

This girl has you doing exactly what she wants you to do, which is start playing into her stupid game/drama. Don't. She's only using you to boost her ego. Who cares if you look 'butthurt'? Don't respond, she no longer exists.

Okay , didn't respond , deleted her number off my phone . I still have her on FB , but I wont talk to her and if she does Ill just ignore her.

 

[f283000]

Okay , didn't respond , deleted her number off my phone . I still have her on FB , but I wont talk to her and if she does Ill just ignore her.

You did the right thing. There's 2 things that hurt a woman like nothing else in this world

1. You ignoring them
2. Seeing you happy without her/seeing you with other women

I know it's going to be really hard but you can't allow yourself to fall for her trap. She set it out for you already and you dodged this one. She will try again. You need to delete her from your life (delete her facebook as well).

I have no idea why you keep a woman on your facebook who just tried to hurt you. What she did was not nice at all. She is trying to play mindgames with you. Is that the type of negative people you keep in your life?

Trust me on this she is going to text you again out of the blue to keep her ego boosting mind games with you. Don't do this for us do this for yourself ignore this b|atch.

 

[SoSly]

You did the right thing. There's 2 things that hurt a woman like nothing else in this world

1. You ignoring them
2. Seeing you happy without her/seeing you with other women

I know it's going to be really hard but you can't allow yourself to fall for her trap. She set it out for you already and you dodged this one. She will try again. You need to delete her from your life (delete her facebook as well).

I have no idea why you keep a woman on your facebook who just tried to hurt you. What she did was not nice at all. She is trying to play mindgames with you. Is that the type of negative people you keep in your life?

Trust me on this she is going to text you again out of the blue to keep her ego boosting mind games with you. Don't do this for us do this for yourself ignore this b|atch.

Okay , I deleted her off facebook , I didn't mention she has a boyfriend now and I have him on facebook too , I dont hate him , Im not his friend at all though , so I guess I should delete him too?

 

[d!ckmojo]

Once again I disagree. She says she doesn't "like him like that", but don't accept her words at face value. Else why did she feel compelled to text him that? In my opinion, it could be because deep down she actually does feel attraction for the OP, but to rationalise those feelings away and keep her power over him she has to articulate this ackward statement.

But the key here is that she's actually now done something sooo ackward she's left herself wide open and vulnerable to a vicious, ball-busting playful neg about it. Voice is 100% correct~ infact I would say you should have gone even further and been like "Phew~ its such a relief just to find a chick who's happy to be friends ^^ most girls like you just want to use me for sex, but I have feelings too you kno".. etc, really lay it on thick.

You kids these days take it too srsly. All girls are dtf if you treat them the right way i.e. laid-backed, chilled, don't giv a phuck, take it or leave it. Never get emotional or be like "urgh I'm deleting your number". What a childish thing to do. Treat it like fun, that's why is called "game".

 

[SoSly]

Once again I disagree. She says she doesn't "like him like that", but don't accept her words at face value. Else why did she feel compelled to text him that? In my opinion, it could be because deep down she actually does feel attraction for the OP, but to rationalise those feelings away and keep her power over him she has to articulate this ackward statement.

But the key here is that she's actually now done something sooo ackward she's left herself wide open and vulnerable to a vicious, ball-busting playful neg about it. Voice is 100% correct~ infact I would say you should have gone even further and been like "Phew~ its such a relief just to find a chick who's happy to be friends ^^ most girls like you just want to use me for sex, but I have feelings too you kno".. etc, really lay it on thick.

You kids these days take it too srsly. All girls are dtf if you treat them the right way i.e. laid-backed, chilled, don't giv a phuck, take it or leave it. Never get emotional or be like "urgh I'm deleting your number". What a childish thing to do. Treat it like fun, that's why is called "game".

She has a boyfriend though... THE STRANGE THING IS THOUGH , when we were hanging out a few months ago she gave me EXTREME IOIs , said I looked good in what I was wearing like every week , went out of her way to even say it to me over facebook after school , said I had a good looking body , asked me what I thought we would be like together, and said she gets jealous when I talk to people.... I know women's feelings can change in an instant.

 

[d!ckmojo]

Further to my point about why she even send that text in the first place, have you considered its because your flirting made her feel attraction?

She may not want to feel attraction for you, she may think she's better than you or whatever, but attraction isn't a choice, its a physiological and psychological response to a specific set of behaviours and traits. So she may have sent that text to you because your DJ skills are improving and starting to affect her and she doesn't like it.

Well screw that, keep doing what you're doing. You got nothing to lose, right?

 

[tidus0717]

Signs are clear - she wants it. Funny because you haven't given her a damn thing, and that will drive her absolutely crazy! I like it. As long as you don't give her any validation and keep it laid-back and fun, the ball's in your court.

 

[d!ckmojo]

She has a boyfriend though... THE STRANGE THING IS THOUGH , when we were hanging out a few months ago she gave me EXTREME IOIs , said I looked good in what I was wearing like every week , went out of her way to even say it to me over facebook after school , said I had a good looking body , asked me what I thought we would be like together, and said she gets jealous when I talk to people.... I know women's feelings can change in an instant.

It sounds to me like she is attacted to you, but more attracted to some other guy whom she has labelled "boyfriend". But don't be intimidated, its just a label, in reality she is just a person and you are just a person and another guy is just a person and whomever gets labelled whatever is entirely up to the people involved in the situation.

Obviously the best thing to do is to acquire other lovers, and exacerbate her jealousy, but that goes without saying. Other than that, I'd keep playing with her and teasing her and communicating with her, albeit aloof-like and laid-back, which it sounds like you've been doing for the last month anyway, which is possibly why she her interest in you has piqued lately.