My c0kblocking friend

[Jokerlsk]

Ok, so there's this girl that I've been talking to for a couple weeks. She's a cheerleader and they sell these calender things for five bucks a piece. So when i parked my car she came out and greeted me, and asked if i wanted one. I said, "Maybe." and she said, "Well if it has a picture of me in it if that changes your mind." At that moment in time i was thinking I should of said something like, "Give me your number and i'll think about it." but I didn't because I'm a b!tch and my sister and her were kind of in a fight.......
Anyways, so I felt like a b!tch afterwards, but still hung out with my friends. I kind of just avoided her for the rest of the night to be honest. Yeah, AFC move.

My friend came home with me to spend the night, and apparently at 3AM got on facebook, and looked at it's phone book. He called that chick at 3 ****ing AM behind my back. He said that I wanted to talk to her in a voice mail or something, and then started texting her. I was asleep.... Anyways, I'm not really worried about him because he's a fatass and obnoxious as anything, but he started texting her and **** like an effing creeper, and knowing him, he's probably been trashing me behind my back. He denies it, but why else would he call her at 3am while i was sleeping. i'm not putting him past this. Even if she doesn't like him, he'll still try to ruin ****.

I can't just stop being friends with him because we have some mutual friends, but this is really stupid and petty in my opinion, and i'm not taking her number off of ****ing facebook. I don't want to sound like a *****, but I honestly don't know how to handle this.

 

[Max Power]

drop your friend. He's not your friend. It's not a big deal what he has done, but you shouldn't hang out with people who do not respect you.

 

[Jokerlsk]

I kind of just feel uncertain right now. I like this girl a lot, and i don't want to just have to stop talking to her completely. I mean, this time i feel like i've finally used my DJ skills correctly, but I have a bunch of factors against me.
Idk, it's like i'm finally doing stuff the right way, and things are just ****ed up. It's annoying to be honest.

I just don't have confidence. I'm never fully there. When i talk to anyone. Most everyone likes me, but it's like right when i get to school i lose my mindset completely. Because i'm afraid of what these *****es think of me. How do you shake that? I mean, i've tried to work around it, but there's always a barrier, whether it be my friends, a girls friends, my enemies, anyone. It's just really frustrating, and honestly, it shouldn't be. Why do some of us let society control us

I'm going to figure a way out of this mess

 

[Max Power]

Society doens't control you. Your thoughts do. And your thoughts are negative for the most part.

 

[Jokerlsk]

Well that's why i'm here..
I mean, how do you control your thoughts.

 

[MyTeamSupreme]

you fail for having an obnoxious friend spend the night with you

 

[Killer_Demo]

sounds like u need a new friend

 

[Mr_rogers]

Well that's why i'm here..
I mean, how do you control your thoughts.

By learning how to look at things in a different light. Most of what you've said so far is negative, as an above poster mentioned. Right now it makes sense since you're upset about something, but if you're generally a negative thinker it'll rub off onto other parts of your life. Start trying to see thinks in a positive light. There are a multitude of books on the subject as well, but generally the best advice is to do whatever you can to feel good, 'cause when you're feeling good, that means your thoughts will generally be positive, too.

 

[Jokerlsk]

You guys are right. I'm typically the devil's advocate in my group. The one who doesn't want to get in trouble, the one all of my friends' parents like, etc.
I'm just always so stressed out. Not even by girls. School as a whole is a stressful thing for me. I take really hard classes, and it takes away all of my spare time. So i have all this time to myself up in my room, and I guess stress and negativity build up.

 

[game.r]

In the future, in everything you do demand respect... from girls, guys, priests, family and old ladies.

when you get disrespected... don't sit there wondering what to do about it... act.

This does not mean getting loud, aggressive or confrontational... just simply letting people know you don't appreciate whatever it is they're doing and to put an end to it.

Call them on the behavior right when it happens or shortly thereafter, don't let it slide! This should be your default mode, so you never have to wonder what to do.

 

[happyhandhvmper]

Ok, so there's this girl that I've been talking to for a couple weeks. She's a cheerleader and they sell these calender things for five bucks a piece. So when i parked my car she came out and greeted me, and asked if i wanted one. I said, "Maybe." and she said, "Well if it has a picture of me in it if that changes your mind." At that moment in time i was thinking I should of said something like, "Give me your number and i'll think about it." but I didn't because I'm a b!tch and my sister and her were kind of in a fight.......
Anyways, so I felt like a b!tch afterwards, but still hung out with my friends. I kind of just avoided her for the rest of the night to be honest. Yeah, AFC move.

My friend came home with me to spend the night, and apparently at 3AM got on facebook, and looked at it's phone book. He called that chick at 3 ****ing AM behind my back. He said that I wanted to talk to her in a voice mail or something, and then started texting her. I was asleep.... Anyways, I'm not really worried about him because he's a fatass and obnoxious as anything, but he started texting her and **** like an effing creeper, and knowing him, he's probably been trashing me behind my back. He denies it, but why else would he call her at 3am while i was sleeping. i'm not putting him past this. Even if she doesn't like him, he'll still try to ruin ****.

I can't just stop being friends with him because we have some mutual friends, but this is really stupid and petty in my opinion, and i'm not taking her number off of ****ing facebook. I don't want to sound like a *****, but I honestly don't know how to handle this.

Damn son! You shouldve told little missy that if that calendar had her picture in it then you made up your mind like maybelline!....an didn't want it! It would make the bird laugh about the makeup joke an knock her confidence down that she aint so hot an made you be the Alpha DJ an not Alfalfa!

An fatboy is just a hater who you let get one over on you. Dont worry about what he said. If you got the stones youll man up an talk to her an not hide an hate on him while i secretly think you like havin dude write to her period as you're USING HIM just to get ANY response from her cause you won't do it yourself! Just holla at the chick an shell see how bad other dude is makin himself look plus will see you had the nerve to talk to her! Shes a human! take that pvssy off the pedal an earn yourself a DJ medal baby!! One!

 

[Jokerlsk]

I actually made it clear with him that I don't want to be mentioned at all in any conversation he has with her. I also told him that if they do talk about me, I don't want to know what's being said.

I'll talk to her tomorrow at school

 

[Ziniath]

hey dude, it sounds like you may need to find an activity that will help you alleviate all of the stress and tension your going through right now.

Just changing the way you think will be particularly difficult, since you've been thinking this way for a long time: it's a habit.

I've found meditation to be particularly helpful for me - just taking about 20 mins to sit down, relax my body, and "listen" to my thoughts.

You see, so often you identify with that voice inside your head: you think it's you.

The question is: how do you know that you're thinking?
I know that I'm thinking because I can "hear" the thoughts in my head, meaning that I am not my thoughts, but rather that which "hears" those thoughts.

From that separation comes a kind of peace, for me anyway.

In those moments I could care less about my abnoxious friends and what girls may think of me.

In those moments, nothing can touch that contentment.

Some food for thought anyways.

 

[Jokerlsk]

I play guitar, and i write music, but not many people know that about me.
I guess when i'm writing i am listening to my thoughts, but unlike you i actually believe my thoughts are me. It's like i don't control my thoughts, and my thoughts control me.
Most of my less popular friends think that I'm the most confident person ever, and I usually am. I'm almost always happy, charismatic, funny, out going, etc. People just seem to like who i am, and I guess I have trouble liking myself. This is why I can't get a girl. I don't let myself get one. I think to myself, "I'm not good enough." i put the pvssy on the pedestal. All of these AFC characteristics are what hinder me. I may look like an alpha male to most people, but deep down inside i'm a fvcking AFC.
I need to get a better mindset. I need to actually believe i'm amazing, instead of just telling myself that. If other people like me then I should like myself.

 

[CaptainJ]

I play guitar, and i write music, but not many people know that about me.
I guess when i'm writing i am listening to my thoughts, but unlike you i actually believe my thoughts are me. It's like i don't control my thoughts, and my thoughts control me.
Most of my less popular friends think that I'm the most confident person ever, and I usually am. I'm almost always happy, charismatic, funny, out going, etc. People just seem to like who i am, and I guess I have trouble liking myself. This is why I can't get a girl. I don't let myself get one. I think to myself, "I'm not good enough." i put the pvssy on the pedestal. All of these AFC characteristics are what hinder me. I may look like an alpha male to most people, but deep down inside i'm a fvcking AFC.
I need to get a better mindset. I need to actually believe i'm amazing, instead of just telling myself that. If other people like me then I should like myself.

Underneath what you wrote, i can sense that you are a pretentious emo. Time to drop the emotional crap. Stop writing music about your "thoughts" and stop making such a big deal of every single little thing. It's your teenage hormones that make you feel like this, so you have to shrug them raging hormones off. Feel like the man, stop complaining about things that stress you out. Stop getting stressed!

Also take up weightlifting, every man MUST lift weights. The benefits are endless.

 

[ZenGodMod]

Your friend is not the problem. The problem is you and your using your friend as an escape goat to prevent you from seeing who the real problem is... You!

Yes I am busting your balls. Why? Cause I've seen this millions of times. There is no such thing as a **** block. That's just a term that boys use to avoid looking like failures.

I'm surround by apparent **** blockers all day every day, and its hasn't stopped me from getting what I want.

The girl comes to you to offer a calendar and measures your interest in her by mentioning she is in the calendar. Fear gets to you and you practically reject her. YOU messed up.

The same girl who is chatting with your friend just after you rejected her. Why? Cause likely she is trying to get to know you indirectly and fat buddy realises that and uses YOU as bait. Your an idiot. Your fat buddy got some smarts.

Instead you give him **** and he'll use that as ammo against you.

What next?

There is an old saying "the war is won before the war begin" or something like that.

Get fat buddy to befriend her as that's his intention and her intentions is you thus you'll both bind indirectly, but that's bad show that your not making an effort.

Now get your butt in gear and hustle.

 

[Jokerlsk]

You're right....
I went into that situation without motivation. I knew what to do, i just didn't. I screwed up. That was my fault. I can't make excuses if i want to get better. I pretty much did openly reject her, and i'm gonna have to fix that. Somehow

Homecoming is coming up in like a month. So you're right. I've probably got to hustle

 

[Jokerlsk]

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[Jokerlsk]

Ok, so anyways, today I totally b!tched out again...
She's never alone, and I don't know how to isolate her.
We sit at different tables at lunch and in class.
I didn't talk to her at all today.
I'm such a joke

 

[BAM001]

Ok, so anyways, today I totally b!tched out again...
She's never alone, and I don't know how to isolate her.
We sit at different tables at lunch and in class.
I didn't talk to her at all today.
I'm such a joke

just do it.
motion her over to you,
go say hey to her,
hell, make a giant sign "HEY (NAME) COME HERE" lol idk, do something.
you wont get anywhere by sitting around wondering how to talk to her.