My c0kblocking friend

[Igetit!]

Ok, so there's this girl that I've been talking to for a couple weeks.

Alright Jokerisk,you already know what I'm going to ask here.

You said you've been talking to this girl for a few weeks.

Now PLEASE,PLEASE try to answer these questions ACCURATELY.

1:How long have you known this girl?
2: (THIS IS IMPORTANT) How often do you two talk and WHAT DO YOU TALK ABOUT?

I want to you answer all three...ESPECIALLY the "what do you two talk about?" question.

She's a cheerleader and they sell these calender things for five bucks a piece. So when i parked my car she came out and greeted me, and asked if i wanted one. I said, "Maybe." and she said, "Well if it has a picture of me in it if that changes your mind."

MAN...Jokerisk,dude...you really missed an opportunity to bust on her/neg her right here.

She asked you if you want to buy a calendar,you said "maybe",then she said,"Well it has a picture of me in it if that changes your mind".

Man,I would have said,"Oh,it has a picture of you? Well,that does change my mind. I don't want one. (just like happyhandhvmper said)

The look on her face would have been priceless,plus you would have sparked a little attraction in her.

At that moment in time i was thinking I should of said something like, "Give me your number and i'll think about it." but I didn't because I'm a b!tch...

Look man,you need to QUIT DOWNING YOURSELF.

You don't get it,which kind of surprises because you've been here so long.

So you didn't go for her number at THAT ONE MOMENT IN TIME.

Yeah,so?

I challenge you to find one member here (including myself) who hasn't done what you just described here.

And to be honest,I'm glad you didn't. Not with that line,LOL.

You've gotten some pretty useful advice here from BAM001 and ZenGodMod.

You said that you don't know how to isolate her. I know that can be tricky,but first you'll need to answer the questions I asked to see if it's even worth doing now.

You're going to hate hearing me say this man,but I have to be honest with you.

You may be friendzoned with this girl.

The answers you give to the questions I asked will help to determine whether you are or not.

 

[Jokerlsk]

I probably have already been friendzoned, and I'm already over it. I talk to her sometimes. Not ever a lot at a time. I had to go to the computer lab with her to work on a project once. That's probably the most time i've ever spent talking to her. She thinks i'm really funny, and nice, and smart, but a lot of people do. I should of acted the first week. I'm just too conservative. This past week i've barely talked to her. And that's my doing not hers. There's just nothing to talk about with her. What's really funny is that she would usually come and talk to me before the incident with my friend. Since then, this week that is, she's barely talked to me, and so I've barely talked to her.

I'm not really mad at the situation. There are so many other girls i can talk to. I'm really just mad at myself. I don't understand why i can't force myself to do certain things. Easy things that everyone else can do. Like isolating a girl, or asking for her number. I have a lot of social proof, and I just don't know how to use it. I have confidence. I really do, I'm always charismatic, and happy, and people want to talk to me. People like getting to know me.

There's really nothing left to do with this situation. I know she had attraction at one point. My sister said she wouldn't shut up about me for a while, but whatever attraction was there is gone. I'll probably just walk away. I don't really think she's worth talking to anymore either.

I think i'm a bad conversationalist. Not that I"m not bad at speaking. It's just that i keep things platonic. Things that you can ask a complete stranger, so i never get to know someone, or get them to that level. This is all pertaining to girls though. It's like i'm trapped in my image, so I feel like I can't be more than what I am right now.