My boss is chasing/tryin to win back wife that cheated, Should I advise?

[Dgwizdal]

My boss is a badass dude. Gazillionaire, successful, owns 5 businesses, purple belt Brazilian jujitsu, a million in cars (3rd person to get Lexus LFA in US), relentless work ethic, self-centered and self-confident.

However he is about to go down a dark, castrated, road with his bombshell wife of 14 years.

Since becoming DJ aware, I have always known that she is a c0ck hopping, gold digging, semi-BPD slootbag. I think I could have banged her out as I've innocently gamed her a few times. There have been times when I HAVE CRINGED at the way he supplicates to her and treats her while she has him wrapped around her finger. He has been in AFCville for about 2 years now as I've watched her attraction to him diminish and I have bit my tongue with disgust at I knew where this was going to eventually end up.

Now here we are....

She cheated on him with a Pro NFL coach (not going to say who) and now wants a divorce. He is doing all the wrong things as an AFC would do trying to logically engage her, chase, supplicate, plead, etc. Posting on her facebook wall "i love you's and our sons need you in our lives" You know the drill.

I want to puke.

He has not told me yet but I've heard thru the office grapevine and snooped a bit. WE ARE FRIENDS (he doesn't have very many) and although it may be awkward for me to bring it up - I feel it has to be done and I have to lay some wisdom on him before she walks off with millions and his balls and soul. He is stubborn as they come, relentless, and doesn't listen to anyone - this has made him the successful guy he is today.

I am not sure if he is going to bite as I am just a kid at 27 compared to his 45 but I feel as though I cannot stand by and let this b*tch drag him through the mud.

Should I engage or watch as my boss makes all the wrong moves destroying his dignity?

 

[DragonBlood]

Should I engage or watch as my boss makes all the wrong moves destroying his dignity and any chance at reconciliation?

If you are friends you could go out for drinks right? You could probably console him in this way but really at this point your on damage control. This is only going one way.

 

[Bingo-Player]

personally i would keep well away from this

your going to damage his pride and ego by bringing it up especially if he hasn't even deemed it necessary for you to know this information

you even say yourself he is as stubborn as they come and relentless

he's got to realise for him self thats she's worthless trash

you voicing your opinion is not going to do any good and it certainly won't gain you the brownie points your looking for

instead i would recommend just watching his back and his surroundings for him

 

[Dgwizdal]

personally i would keep well away from this

your going to damage his pride and ego by bringing it up especially if he hasn't even deemed it necessary for you to know this information

you even say yourself he is as stubborn as they come and relentless

he's got to realise for him self thats she's worthless trash

you voicing your opinion is not going to do any good and it certainly won't gain you the brownie points your looking for

instead i would recommend just watching his back and his surroundings for him

I'm not looking for brownie points - guy loves me as is. We are buddys and he opens up to me about personal stuff a lot - im not sure if this will be crossing the line. Its just hard for me not to become captain save a bro especially to a guy I admire whose got all the power in the world except to this b*tch.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Reality check: he's your boss first, friend second. If you start advising him on what he should or shouldn't do, and he decides to listen to you but screws it up and doesn't make it work the way you told him to do it, he's going to be mad at YOU for the outcome, thus putting your job in jeopardy. So, my personal recommendation is to leave it alone.

WITH THAT SAID...

If you decide to ignore that advice and try and advise him anyway, do it passively. Like, when you're talking to him, don't do it like you're giving him advice - instead, act like you're telling a story about another friend who went through a similar situation. Then, you can give your boss examples of what "your friend" did that helped him deal with it. For example: "Yeah, my friend had a woman who cheated on him, and he was trying to call her all the time and she kept getting distant. It wasn't until he backed off and stopped calling her that she started trying to win HIM back. Not saying it works all the time, but that's what my friend did." That way, if he tries it and it doesn't work, he won't blame you for telling him what to do since you were just telling a story about "someone else."

Hope this helps!

 

[VladPatton]

Leave it alone. Don't get involved in a rich man's personal life. Unless he directly asks for help, which he won't, do not mess with it. This DJ shıt is not for everyone, especially when you drop it on someone who doesn't want it.

 

[dasein]

Friend? Sure. Boss? No. Stay clear of this unless your current work is not really a big deal for you. So many ways this can go wrong, will not insult your intelligence and list them all. Good luck.

 

[n52]

Sometimes you need to experience a downfall to experience an uprising. He may make a fool of himself now but he will realise. He doesn't sound like an idiot or anything, being how successful business wise he is. He just needs to go through this to understand and learn what he did wrong. I have a strange feeling this will end up (in the long run) with his wife trying to get back with him and him cold shouldering her.

 

[Jack89]

Best you leave it alone, no matter how much advice you give anyone in the end it's their decision. Experience is the best and harshest way for him to learn since he's stubborn. He's already turned his back on himself by supplications and trying to fight for a cheating ***** back. If your not a psychologist at dating or some therapist I suggest you back off.

 

[Mike32ct]

Stay out of it.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Leave it alone. Don't get involved in a rich man's personal life. Unless he directly asks for help, which he won't, do not mess with it. This DJ shıt is not for everyone, especially when you drop it on someone who doesn't want it.

Agreed, most people react with extreme hostility. Steer clear, forget this friend nonsense, your boss pays your bills.

 

[Albatross953]

If he needs support, be his friend and remind him about all the poon he will be able to get when he's ready with money and status.

Once upon a time I would have tried to help, now I leave that to epidames. I'm sure he will post shortly.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

No, never try to advise friends about the skills you learn here. Let them learn them on their own. Most people will only accept advice that they only want to hear regardless of how asinine.

 

[Lotus Effect]

I believe the course of action would be as Harry Wilmington has advised! In fact, really good advice Harry! Thumbs Up!

Anyway, Keep it to yourself, but lay as subtle as possible if he ever brings up the subject with you!

If he is your friend indeed, and if he is AFCing all out, eventually he will bring it up! Specially when the time comes where he won't be able to handle sh*t anymore! When he loose track of his work, and his life, he will look for a friendly shoulder!

 

[Dgwizdal]

Boss has been sitting in his range rover for the last hour texting in the parking lot. As I am thinking about what he's doing I am starting to get a knot in my stomache from past beta feels I know he's going thru. F Me.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Sad, but what can you, and I guess pretty much anyone in here besides from:

"Been there, Done that!"

I guess you only learned by making a huge ammount of mistakes. I know I did. In fact, if I haven't done all the sh*t I've done, I wouldn't actually be in here in the first place!

 

[Don_Dom]

If you value your job the best course of action is to do nothing. Stay out of it.

He's likely about to take a good reaming at the hands of his wife and the legal system. He has lots of money and she likely is entitled to a lot of it under the law, regardless of her transgressions. That will be the case no matter how AFC or not that he becomes at this point. You are just opening up entire cans of worms for yourself by getting involved. These types of situations can send guys over the edge.

I know a guy whose business partner got a divorce. A silent partner who was never there. One day a cop shows up with a subpoena for copies of business records for the divorce proceedings. So my friend gives them to the cop and calls the guy to tell him about it. The guy was so pissed off that he threatened to kill him. My friend was like what am I going to do, NOT honor a subpoena? But try explaining that to an otherwise rational guy who is being completely fvcked over financially and is having his kids taken from him by the legal system at the behest of a cheating b1tch.

Go read some of the divorce threads in the Mature and Married sections before you decide to take this up with your jujitsu purple belt boss before his robbery and castration has even really begun. Most guys can't handle the mere suggestion that they need to work on their game because their egos just won't allow them to consider reading a site like this, much less actually do it. A lot of threads about this recently...Consensus is, we all have to come here on our own. How do you think a self made guy in his mid 40s is going to take a suggestion like that from an employee in his mid 20s?

 

[Frogster]

You could always find a way to innocently recommend this site, and let him figure it out for himself.

(although I'd delete this thread)

 

[Trixx]

I say you should at least have a talk with him. If you two have a good relationship, you can at least say, "Hey, I heard about so and so...let me know if you ever need to talk to me. I'm here for you."

Don't give advice on your first interaction. If he feels comfortable talking to you, he will probably ask you for advice and maybe what you would do in his situation. And then you can give him advice more subtly.

 

[Albatross953]

Reread what Don Dom wrote.