I'm fairly new here but not to women and after reading alot of old posts here I have noticed a bit of a pattern here- most men think that if a woman flakes, if a gf loses interest, if a woman sneezes its because of something the guy did wrong. This is usually phrased in the sense of you not gaming her right, or not doing something that you should have done...
But here is the thing I have learned after 40 yrs of life- Never take anything a woman does as personal. It will save you years of heartache and worry.
I have seen women leave good dependable men because of her own whim, I have seen women leave their bad boy alpha because they decided they wanted the house and kids a beta would provide, I have seen it all. Women are fickle creatures and literally a movie or a book might make them suddenly wish for a completely different life.
Oddly enough once you stop taking things personally not only do you get over your past you also become more attractive. Women love a guy they sense own't take things personally because they don't feel judged, and so they feel free to show themselves, to have sex and fun.
Most importantly when you stop beating yourself up you heal and feel better about yourself as well as recoupe your self esteem- which lets admit, women can be a drain on.
But here is the thing I have learned after 40 yrs of life- Never take anything a woman does as personal. It will save you years of heartache and worry.
I have seen women leave good dependable men because of her own whim, I have seen women leave their bad boy alpha because they decided they wanted the house and kids a beta would provide, I have seen it all. Women are fickle creatures and literally a movie or a book might make them suddenly wish for a completely different life.
Oddly enough once you stop taking things personally not only do you get over your past you also become more attractive. Women love a guy they sense own't take things personally because they don't feel judged, and so they feel free to show themselves, to have sex and fun.
Most importantly when you stop beating yourself up you heal and feel better about yourself as well as recoupe your self esteem- which lets admit, women can be a drain on.