Yeah this makes a lot of sense and is basically where I'm at. The new women is getting quite attached to me and I like her back.back when single I found 2-3 was just the natural state of things. I mean, one night a week each. It would just be impractical otherwise.
I didn’t think there is anything red pill about that. It was just called being single and dating. Some girls evaporated as they found other guys, some stayed.
I actually found it hard keeping some of them. Before I decided to go with my wife, I had a lovely girl who I strung about and it’s kind of hard to do, to be fake, when you know you’re going to let the girl down.
this is the issue. If you’re not a bona fide cluster B, you will enevitably feel some regret in hurting a woman you quite like. Having had that experience ourselves, it’s actually quite difficult to do. We’ve all done it for secks though.
in the end I just explained to the girl to concentrate elsewhere. This is probably the difference between a real PUA and a guy here just looking to improve. If you are reasonably high in empathy you just won’t want to upset multiple women by serially cheating on them. You’ll have some sort of feelings for all of them.
when it’s upfront then 2-3 is just natural before one goes somewhere or you really like the girl. That’s how it worked for me.
Although I do want to try some other women on for size. I've not indicated to her this and she's basically treating me as if I'm her her boyfriend.
So not in a relationship with her but it would feel like cheating. So mabye I'm struggling with the empathy part just as much as the logistics.
It's inevitable that I would have to lie , and put in effort to get the story straight/not mix up girls.
There are a few other potential girls. Although it's mainly just one other I'm interested in seeing and possibly having sex with.