most of the advice here is Crap/DJ bible is good.

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Let me introduce myself and why..

I will be 23 in a month. I came here a yr ago...not because I never got laid, or couldnt get laid..or wasnt a man. but because I had a 3 yr gf..who I crushed and warped her mind...with control and abuse. when it was all said and done..I coudltn believe what all took place.

and I was down and depressed on myself after doing such things to another human being. It was pretty sad.

so I came here..and this place is filled with wonderful tips on how to be mroe attractive and be a better man.

but the cynical advice here from people who havent had anything to do with women or life..or people who have been hurt and are cynics to the core.


I wrote a post on how much I miss my gf and how it sucked ass the past 2 days before I got to talk to her.(btw, it was 7 days total without talking to somene I am in love/falling deeper in love with)

I got a lot of repsonds on How its ONE-I-Tis, to protect my heart? are u kidding me? wat do u think actually being in love is? its not some freaking game...its the strongest feelings you will ever HAVE. u dont control it..u live it.

I talked to the shezzler..who I respect here and seems to have a handle on real life. Unlike 95 percent of the crap that gets posted here..but guys who have been heart broken and believe why they were heart broken is because they werent in control of it.


thats just not real life.


1. your girl didnt leave you because u said I love you first..(GET REAL)

2. being in love doesnt mean you have act like a hard ass...it means being devoted 100 percent to them.(if she feels the same, she will do the same)

-this has nothing to do with you wanting to call her 10 times a day..ITS NOT THE SAME THING.

3. women arent evil...infact probably 20 percent or less will fyck you over..and the others who do is because YOU LET THEM.

I could go on forever.
I dont feel the need..iM sure the mod will delete this..im sure most of you wont listen..because you would rather sit in your boxers and read how great it is to have all this knowledge come here post on shut youve never done and then pat ur self on the back.

I keep coming back here hoping some of you who really need help would listen and it seems from the PM;s i get..some of you do understand real life and listen.

but I for one will be much more selective in the advice I get from this place...
 

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your right.

There are some 'A' grade toss*rs on this site dishing out sh1t advice.

What a world we live in now.

The G-man Wingman of the all powerful Shezzler is not one of them though.

Respect

G-man

:)
 

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I agree with you. There's way too much macho, cynical, misogynistic input on these boards.

I definitely see the need for men to stand up for themselves, and generally be men. But being a man does not mean being aggressive, bitter or cutting off your emotions and becoming a caveman. I wish more people would understand this.
 

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frivolousz21: PROPS man! I cant begin to express to you how much I agree with you.


Laterz..
 

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I read your post - most of the comments were positive and if anything, they were meant as a "Check yourself" not in a negative way (well thats how I took them).

maybe a couple of dipSh#t comemnts spinkled in there - but that unfortunately will never go away.
 

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thanks for the replys.


exactly check myself for what? a pulse? a heart?

I see where they are coming from.

but instead of hearing- "yea, man I know how u feel it sucks when ur away from soemone u love..exp when its new..but just focus on other stuff...and she will be back"

GOD forbid we say anything that..what would we be like a women ? ??? :)

no we hear-

you have one-i-tis
your obsessed
protect yourself
keep control
dont tell her u love her first..she will break u

why are so many people so afraid to get hurt?

risk and reward
 

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Most people lose control when they fall in love, and become doormats. Love is one of the true tests of a Real man. If you can fall in love with a woman and still remain a MAN then congradulations, you passed. The trouble is when a guy falls in love with a woman and "LOOSES HIM SELF". Lets his life revolve around her, starts to plese her a little too much, and isn't a chalagne anymore..... That's when she starts loosing respect for you. It's like lookin up to your big brother and finding out he is a total and apsolute looser.....Imagine the disapointment.....Relatinships should be exciting (for you and her) and laying in bed saying "i love you more" to eachother gets dull after a while.

I'm sure that those who gave you that advice had notting against you and had your best interast at heart.

As long as your able to be in love, while at the same time, being your self (being a take charge man) you have notting to worry about.....
 

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so youve got oneitis and you're not satisfied by the replys you get when you ask for advice and therefor it makes it right for you to dis "most of" dudes that hang around here? Get real!

HELL NO, a chick will not dump you if you say I love you first! But she will after you call her 50 times a day, show her toooo much affection and act like a wuss. Its simple psycology. If chick gets in her head that she is too good for you, she'll leave or cheat. Thats just the way it is.

AND YES, you've got oneitis and you don't want to act like a MAN just cuz its LUUUUUUV her. Well, get this. Your LUUUUUV will push her away if she dosen't feel the same. If she does than she will stick with you but she will allways have the upper hand.

And by the way, shezz is a kiddo. So don't act childlish and diss my english! You english is belong to me!
 

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But she will after you call her 50 times a day, show her toooo much affection and act like a wuss. Its simple psycology. If chick gets in her head that she is too good for you, she'll leave or cheat. Thats just the way it is.

AND YES, you've got oneitis and you don't want to act like a MAN just cuz its LUUUUUUV her. Well, get this. Your LUUUUUV will push her away if she dosen't feel the same. If she does than she will stick with you but she will allways have the upper hand.

And by the way, shezz is a kiddo. So don't act childlish and diss my english! You english is belong to me!



at what point did I say I called her 50 times per day?

when did I say that I trell her i love her all the time?


so its one-i-tis that:

she has sex with me
she calls me everyday
she wants to see me as much or more
she tells me how amazing I am, perfect, wonderful, beautiful, how I am just an amazing MAN with a great soul.


and she tells me how she can see us together for a long time.


oh and her body launguage clearly suggests all of this.


but again I have One-I-Tis

haha right..im glad IM not you...your Crap advice is going to mess with guys who dont knwo any better and ruin great things they have.
 

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Being bitter won't help you get laid, just the opposite. There is a general attitude on this forum and in dating materials that you dump anyone at the slightest wiff of trouble. Unfortunately, if you follow that advice to the extreme, you'll always be alone while the other guys are getting pvssy.

On the other hand, too many guys are a doormat these days. Men need to stand up when being treated disrespectful or when someone is being snotty.

Here is the comprimise. Go a head and get in her pants. Even if you know you can't stand her. Dump her the next day and leave her voicemail telling her why. Never speak to her again. It will KILLL her not being able to get in the last word or any closure.

Move on and find someone else. At least you get the pvssy while remaining dignified this way.
 

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On the other hand, too many guys are a doormat these days. Men need to stand up when being treated disrespectful or when someone is being snotty.

well it seems from this board..if u love someone...and show them affection..your a doormate.

when she gets back from Germany..whe she says I love you..I should tell her she is a stypid bytch who will never be on my manly level..then throw her into the wall to show my UPPER HAND.
 

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yeah, there are only really 3-5 posters on this entire board I would ever consider taking advice from.

For instance, anyone who ever asks a question about approaching a girl, when there is literaly a BIBLE on it, on this site, free of charge, I don't even waste my time talking to.
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
when she gets back from Germany..whe she says I love you..I should tell her she is a stypid bytch who will never be on my manly level..then throw her into the wall to show my UPPER HAND.

If you do that then you're just stupid. Thats not acting like a man thats acting like a jerk. When she says I love you, then IF you feel the same. You say it to. But then dont be a wuss and act all girly like and tell her how you cant live without her! See the diffrence? Man-Jerk-Wuss?

From what I can tell you're a wuss!
 

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Is frivolous21 = P*ssyeater?


yes I do like to do that.

and no that guy was full of theories...everything Ive ever written on here is from a TON of real life expierence..

its the guys who have much less expierence who hate on me.

but they will come around when they are in there 30;s and lonly still.
 

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where did I say I cant live without her?

I said it sucked arse to miss her like I did....maybe if u were in love or falling in love...and it was taken away...u might miss that that person too..its a natural reaction.


since everyone in the human race would feel it..except the elite at sosuave.net

amazing
 

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diffrence between elite and wuss-es (like you), is that when they Do fall in love, and when they Do get all crazy in they head, they shill remain a MAN! While you, become a girly girl and go acting like a freakin poo poo!

And when a elite is dumped (if ever) by a girl, he don't go off feeling all crappy and ****. He know that she ain't the only one out there even if it seems like that.

I bet "elite" knows better what is Love than you. Do you know why? Cuz you think love is something special. It ain't!

Love is all over the f_cking place!
 

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My feelings are this, and I have been around.

The bible is a good STARTING POINT, but it is not a cure all.

The bible is good for ameaturs to get a start, but it isn't a cookbook, not all women are the same. The bible is a tool much like a hammer. Sometimes you use it for driving nails, sometimes you use it to pull them.

A real DJ knows every woman is differant and needs to be approached differantly. Their is no one technique that works on every girl.

A true DJ, sizes up the woman and knows what to do/say before he even approaches her. And that can change by the minute.

You see a girl and one minute she is laughing with her friends, and 2 seconds later she is sitting there alone because her friends went to the restroom. Same girl requires 2 differant approaches.

What you guys call oneitis is a good thing, you speak of it as it is a disease. I tell you this Quality is much better than Quantity when it comes to women.

Quantity will give you a big ego, and a lot of bad experiences that you project on other women
 

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As for love,

Love is letting yourself go, love is giving yourself to another, and love is having the guts to put your emotional controll in the hands of another person.

That is what seperates the men from the boys. Being willing to take that risk.

And no, you cannot fully experience love until you let your emotions go.
 

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And when a elite is dumped (if ever) by a girl, he don't go off feeling all crappy and ****. He know that she ain't the only one out there even if it seems like that.

right, a person gets there heart broken...and they dont feel bad :)

i wish I had the balls of steel you do
 
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