Might get an arranged marriage

[skinnyguy]

Alright guys.

I've been on a matrimonial site and have been getting several interests from girls here in the US and abroad. At first I didn't even consider it, and now I'm rethinking everything.

For several years I've been trying to pick up on "game" only to become disappointed. I'm realizing that 90% of women are not right for me, nor do they like me. It hurts me physically and mentally to go after women who aren't interested in me. This FB girl who I met at the bar, I really thought that she would at least go out on a date with me but even she refused. That made me realize that I pretty much have no hope in the dating arena.

I always thought that I'd be able to find a girl on my own to get married, but it's slowly seeming like that will never happen. I know most DJs on this site just care about sex, which is fine, but I do not want to end up 40 and single. If I do I'll probably shoot myself.

Is this giving up hope? Maybe. But to me, it seems like the smarter choice than going around and trying to use pickup lines at bars. That stuff doesn't work for me because of my look and I could work out 12 hours a day and still not be able to pull tail like other guys do.

I don't think it's that bad if I have an arranged marriage. Who knows - the girl might be a great wife and a freak in bed.

Lately, the loneliness has been affecting my work. I'm not as happy at work anymore and I keep having this fear that I'll be alone for the rest of my life while others are having a grand time with their spouse + kids. I see my life passing by quickly. I do not want to be on SOS talking about girls for the rest of my life. I want to go to the next stage.

I'm still going to pursue women for now, but at the back of my mind I'm going to give it nine more months. If I'm still single by July, I will probably try to get engaged to a girl I met on the site. It feels like God is pointing me in this direction.

 

[jurry]

Your attitude in this post explains exactly why you are not getting girls. You are miserable and have no self confidence, why would someone want to be around that? Arranging a marriage is not going to solve any of these issues, she will most likely just ruin you and take your house for the trouble.

You are very selfish and egotistical, so you cannot bear the thought of failure and you take everything so hard on yourself, especially rejection from a woman. The reality is that nothing "out there" is going to make your life better. People spend their whole lives chasing endless desires and finding out again and again it wasnt what they thought it would be. "This job isnt that good", "this girl isnt who i thought shed be", etc.

The reason for this is that nothing external is going to change what you are internally. You must begin looking at yourself, and working on yourself before you can responsibly enjoy what is out in the world. There is no easy way out or shortcuts.. You must face your fears and depression head on and fight.

 

[skinnyguy]

Your attitude in this post explains exactly why you are not getting girls. You are miserable and have no self confidence, why would someone want to be around that? Arranging a marriage is not going to solve any of these issues, she will most likely just ruin you and take your house for the trouble.

You are very selfish and egotistical, so you cannot bear the thought of failure and you take everything so hard on yourself, especially rejection from a woman. The reality is that nothing "out there" is going to make your life better. People spend their whole lives chasing endless desires and finding out again and again it wasnt what they thought it would be. "This job isnt that good", "this girl isnt who i thought shed be", etc.

The reason for this is that nothing external is going to change what you are internally. You must begin looking at yourself, and working on yourself before you can responsibly enjoy what is out in the world. There is no easy way out or shortcuts.. You must face your fears and depression head on and fight.

I agree with you that I'm defeated. But you would be too if you were Indian. So what's your point? Exactly, you don't have one.

Many guys pull hot, quality women with no effort at all. They don't know what game is, and they don't spend tons of energy working on themselves. And guess what! They are really happy!

It's not MY fault what my circumstance is. I've done everything I can do to get better. I did PUA bootcamps, read DJ bible, worked out, etc.

To be honest it is quite liberating to know that I won't have to go after women anymore! It has become such a drudgery to the point that I resent anything that has to do with attracting women.

Im a f*cking awesome person with many talents who deserves to be happy. I do not deserve to get rejected by women who don't know me, nor do I deserve to spend copious amounts of time and money trying to get a girl who isn't interested in me.

I guess the one advantage that I have is that I can get hitched any time I want.

 

[Bible_Belt]

If you're trading your citizenship rights for pvssy, why would you restrict yourself to Indians? You can get a mail order bride from just about any country.

 

[jimmy18]

I guess the one advantage that I have is that I can get hitched any time I want.

And get divorce raped for your troubles :crackup:

 

[mangotot]

OP are you Indian? If you are there is not much stigma in getting an arranged marriage.

 

[jurry]

Oh my mistake i forgot indian guys dont get laid.. Cmon man thats the best excuse you can come up with?

You're selling out and whats worse is you know youre selling out and doing it anyway. How could you wake up everyday knowing that the woman next to you is just there for your money and security and is forcing herself to live with you?

 

[VladPatton]

Hey man, do whatever you think is best for you. Dating and chasing ass sucks, is hard on your character and requires time, all true. If you think this is the way to go, own the decision and realize it ASAP.

 

[skinnyguy]

Hey man, do whatever you think is best for you. Dating and chasing ass sucks, is hard on your character and requires time, all true. If you think this is the way to go, own the decision and realize it ASAP.

I admire you for admitting that chasing women sucks. At least one person on this site is man enough to admit that.

For the guys who think I'll get taken to the cleaners, I will only marry the girl if she has more money than me. I'm not worried about that at all because I screen women very well.

 

[Chamber36]

I admire you for admitting that chasing women sucks. At least one person on this site is man enough to admit that.

For the guys who think I'll get taken to the cleaners, I will only marry the girl if she has more money than me. I'm not worried about that at all because I screen women very well.

Not a bad idea. Get a rich one!

 

[Bible_Belt]

My ex-wife is 1/4 Indian. Her dad was a tall white guy a lot like me. She started cheating on me days after he died. We lived apart for the last couple of years, and I eventually found her ad on indianfriendfinder.com

When I confronted her, she told me she much preferred Indian men to me, and that I could never satisfy her the way an Indian man could. Because they were fun and liked to dance. She said the sex was better, too.

Boo hoo. Woe is me. Oh the pain of the white man. If you were white, you'd be a failure, too.

 

[mangotot]

When I confronted her, she told me she much preferred Indian men to me, and that I could never satisfy her the way an Indian man could. Because they were fun and liked to dance. She said the sex was better, too.

Noting to do with 'general' fun or dance. Its all to with big ****s and fantastic sex.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Noting to do with 'general' fun or dance. Its all to with big ****s and fantastic sex.

I agree about the sex. But regarding d!cks, she told me she liked little ones better, because she was all about cl!t stimulation.

 

[VladPatton]

I'd ride that Indian social circle scene like a fiend! You guys have a huge presence, and some of those Indian chicks are horny little bangers. Bollywood bang the fvck outta them. You gotta use everything in reach to your advantage.

 

[_sideways_]

Alright guys.

I've been on a matrimonial site and have been getting several interests from girls here in the US and abroad. At first I didn't even consider it, and now I'm rethinking everything.

For several years I've been trying to pick up on "game" only to become disappointed. I'm realizing that 90% of women are not right for me, nor do they like me. It hurts me physically and mentally to go after women who aren't interested in me. This FB girl who I met at the bar, I really thought that she would at least go out on a date with me but even she refused. That made me realize that I pretty much have no hope in the dating arena.

I always thought that I'd be able to find a girl on my own to get married, but it's slowly seeming like that will never happen. I know most DJs on this site just care about sex, which is fine, but I do not want to end up 40 and single. If I do I'll probably shoot myself.

Is this giving up hope? Maybe. But to me, it seems like the smarter choice than going around and trying to use pickup lines at bars. That stuff doesn't work for me because of my look and I could work out 12 hours a day and still not be able to pull tail like other guys do.

I don't think it's that bad if I have an arranged marriage. Who knows - the girl might be a great wife and a freak in bed.

Lately, the loneliness has been affecting my work. I'm not as happy at work anymore and I keep having this fear that I'll be alone for the rest of my life while others are having a grand time with their spouse + kids. I see my life passing by quickly. I do not want to be on SOS talking about girls for the rest of my life. I want to go to the next stage.

I'm still going to pursue women for now, but at the back of my mind I'm going to give it nine more months. If I'm still single by July, I will probably try to get engaged to a girl I met on the site. It feels like God is pointing me in this direction.

If you had put in 12 years of gym time you would be married.by now....ur a troll.
Sad to see you fall like that...

Damn...another statistical dude that makes us look bad.

Ur the equivalent of a fat girl who refuses to eat less day by day, walk half a mile day by day. And eventually be fit.

Ur genes deserve what you give them. Sorry to be blunt, but ur all talk. Banned.

 

[skinnyguy]

If you had put in 12 years of gym time you would be married.by now....ur a troll.
Sad to see you fall like that...

Damn...another statistical dude that makes us look bad.

Ur the equivalent of a fat girl who refuses to eat less day by day, walk half a mile day by day. And eventually be fit.

Ur genes deserve what you give them. Sorry to be blunt, but ur all talk. Banned.

In 5 years, I'll be living in a big house with a wife who cooks for me and does my chores, while you'll be on here talking about how to "game" women for a one night stand.

 

[foreverAFC]

ive said this before, and ill say it again. some of you need to just accept the fact that you arent attractive to women, and then realize you need to live a different kind of lifestyle. face it, you are an ugly guy, there are plenty of dudes from every race who are attractive and pull women, you arent one of those guys. that being said, you dont need to shoot yourself, and its not the end of the world. you just need to realize as an unattractive guy you arent going to life that fairytale fantasy life you have always dreamed about. instead you have to live more of a chris farley, artie lange, jim belushi type of lifestyle. you need to just say fck it and go to vegas and stay up the entire weekend drinking and doing coke and spending money fcking wh0res up the @ass as hard as you possible can up in your nice suite, and then you can go to a nice vegas buffet right after you know what i mean? ok so you cant have that perfect blonde wife you have been jerking off and dreaming about in your room every single night, but you can still go all out and have a great time. forcing some indentured servant to fck you until she gets a greencard and divorces you isnt the answer.

 

[skinnyguy]

ive said this before, and ill say it again. some of you need to just accept the fact that you arent attractive to women, and then realize you need to live a different kind of lifestyle. face it, you are an ugly guy, there are plenty of dudes from every race who are attractive and pull women, you arent one of those guys. that being said, you dont need to shoot yourself, and its not the end of the world. you just need to realize as an unattractive guy you arent going to life that fairytale fantasy life you have always dreamed about. instead you have to live more of a chris farley, artie lange, jim belushi type of lifestyle. you need to just say fck it and go to vegas and stay up the entire weekend drinking and doing coke and spending money fcking wh0res up the @ass as hard as you possible can up in your nice suite, and then you can go to a nice vegas buffet right after you know what i mean? ok so you cant have that perfect blonde wife you have been jerking off and dreaming about in your room every single night, but you can still go all out and have a great time. forcing some indentured servant to fck you until she gets a greencard and divorces you isnt the answer.

So if you're ugly, overdosing on coke is the answer? Oh gee, thanks man.

 

[Genos]

@skinnyguy, I feel like you're just having a defeatist mentality man. The negativity is pulling you down.

I'm Indian as well, and I can relate. It's a little more difficult to attract women, but don't doubt for a second that it can be done. My roommate, who is also Indian, is about 5'4, pretty damn thin; his girlfriend is a 9/10 Asian bombshell that turns guys' heads as she walks past. He's an incredibly funny and charismatic guy; he's kind, and cares about the people around him - but he's alpha as **** and knows when to stand up for himself and how to handle himself around women. And that's attractive.

Stop being so outcome dependent. Who the fk cares if you get rejected? Why are you basing your self-worth on women's opinion of you? Keep in mind that if they say no to a date invite, they are not rejecting YOU, but rather your approach and presentation. How can they know who YOU are after just 10-15 min of conversation? Also, why do you try and pursue women who aren't interested in you? Bad idea. If your goal is an LTR, you might wanna read Anti-Dump's Machine here on sosuave.

Another thing, I can't tell you how much getting in shape, and building muscle will do for attracting women. I found this online (read from right to left): http://i.imgur.com/eeD6viE.jpg
I don't think people are 90% looks (a bit extreme), but the point about not trying to look your best and still expecting people to like you really hit me - that's just self centered. Your appearance speaks to who you are - building muscle and staying in shape shows discipline and dedication, qualities attractive in any mate, man or woman.

Even if you are unattractive, what in the **** is complaining going to do about it? Play with the hand you're dealt to the best of your ability. Try your best to look good, do whatever you can, and go from there. That's what I'd do (and am doing - it's not like I'm brad pitt). But in the end, here on this forum we ultimately just offer advice. It's up to you to choose your own path.

Really though, get your head of the gutter. Be more positive. "As you think you shall become"

 

[thunderbolt]

yeah man those indian guys just cant get laid. i hear theyre an endangered species because nobody in india can procreate. srsly man