Men who get jealous possessive of their woman

[mrgoodstuff]

Triangulation (Cluster B’s do this). Experience taught me to see it for what it was and to get the hell away. The only way to recognize a girl that’s cluster B is to date one and be put through the ringer. You’ll learn and never forget but it’ll be a hard lesson.

Another example is you’re out with your girl at a bar or club (this is why I don’t do bars and clubs) and several things can happen. 1) you leave to go to the bathroom and come back to find a dude talking to your girl. 2) you’re sitting there with her minding your own business when a drink is sent over to her that you didn’t order and neither did she. Depending on the drink, I’ll drink it or refuse it. If she insists on drinking it, you better get it in your mind that’s the last night you’re going to see her because that’s the ultimate disrespect. 3) you’re sitting there with her and a random dude (or dudes) come over to “join you and attempt to be your friend)”. This is usually low class dudes and you have to handle this carefully or you’ll end up in a fight or look like an ass. I’ve only experienced this once when I was younger but what I did was take her and go on the dance floor or say “come on let’s get out of here and go somewhere else”.

These are very good scenarios.

What about the flirting in front of you to waiter, or allowing a guy to hit on her at the bar? The girls usually do it, not out of lust, but to prove that they have value in the world and are attractive and make you think you are lucky or some bull like that.

 

[oc16]

Anybody remember the great TV SERIES "Tales from the Crypt" from HBO in the late 80s, early 90s? Here is one where a young hot woman is dating a much older jealous dude.

 

[Robert28]

These are very good scenarios.

What about the flirting in front of you to waiter, or allowing a guy to hit on her at the bar? The girls usually do it, not out of lust, but to prove that they have value in the world and are attractive and make you think you are lucky or some bull like that.

Ahhh I forgot about this story! I was out with this girl that I’d liked for a long time, but she was dating someone. She became single and I asked her out. On our 4th date we went to some sushi place, actually she met me there because I was getting off work late and it was easier. I get there and I sh!t you not the waiter is sitting down at the table with her. He’d keep coming over to “check on her” but wouldn’t even look my way. To top it off he brought out our food and on her plate he’d written out her name in some sushi sauce. Of course she was naive and didn’t see it for what it was but I did. Anyways, check comes and my vengeful brain kicked into high gear. I’d handled all this well the whole time and wasn’t sure how to go about showing my displeasure about this dude showing blatant disrespect towards me. What’s the best way to hurt a waiter or waitress? Tip. If he thought I was about to tip him he was sadly mistaken. He should have made around $15 but instead he got absolutely nothing. I luckily had the exact amount in cash in my wallet and paid. As we were walking out she said “did you tip?” I replied “yep sure did”.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Ahhh I forgot about this story! I was out with this girl that I’d liked for a long time, but she was dating someone. She became single and I asked her out. On our 4th date we went to some sushi place, actually she met me there because I was getting off work late and it was easier. I get there and I sh!t you not the waiter is sitting down at the table with her. He’d keep coming over to “check on her” but wouldn’t even look my way. To top it off he brought out our food and on her plate he’d written out her name in some sushi sauce. Of course she was naive and didn’t see it for what it was but I did. Anyways, check comes and my vengeful brain kicked into high gear. I’d handled all this well the whole time and wasn’t sure how to go about showing my displeasure about this dude showing blatant disrespect towards me. What’s the best way to hurt a waiter or waitress? Tip. If he thought I was about to tip him he was sadly mistaken. He should have made around $15 but instead he got absolutely nothing. I luckily had the exact amount in cash in my wallet and paid. As we were walking out she said “did you tip?” I replied “yep sure did”.

She might have been well known in there and he was being nice.

 

[Robert28]

She might have been well known in there and he was being nice.

Nope because I asked her if she knew him because when I came in he was sitting with her. Still, even if they were best friends forever that was no cause to not even look my way when he’d come over to check on the table. Guy was being a douche canoe and I knew it. If you’ve made me jealous then you’ve really gone out of your way to do so.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Nope because I asked her if she knew him because when I came in he was sitting with her. Still, even if they were best friends forever that was no cause to not even look my way when he’d come over to check on the table. Guy was being a douche canoe and I knew it. If you’ve made me jealous then you’ve really gone out of your way to do so.

Thats how i am too. I don't get jealous. But if i see it was intentional i get angry.

 

[Robert28]

Thats how i am too. I don't get jealous. But if i see it was intentional i get angry.

I usually don’t get angry, I get even. And that was the best way to get even. Hit him right in the wallet.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

They have been SPOILED. There used to be a day when any descent women KNEW this instinctively. Actually they knew it was disrespecting themselves to allow this sort of attention, when they have a man...

ideally, your woman won't talk to guys when not in your presence either. To uphold the reputation of the 'us'. Reputation is not just for people already known but probably more important to uphold for unknown people.
I think that's the idea behind the visible wedding ring. It's supposed to signal attachment.
In my parents' courtship phase there was still rings. They were called 'going steady' rings. Even in early 70's this still existed!
Supposed to signal to unknown people they were 'taken'.

 

[thinker]

This is mate guarding and the way I have always done it is I literally don't care if guys hit on my girl. The only thing I will do is just smile with my confident smirk that communicates " I can't believe these losers think they have a shot" , it has always worked like magic. It shows supreme masculine confidence. The only thing I will get upset with is if she disrespects me, I have had women flirt very hard and sexually with me in front of their men and the guys just take it for the most part. That won't fly with me, if the waiter flirts and she flirts back I calmly get up and leave, we are done as far as I am concerned. Luckily this has never happened to me but if it does I will not lay down my pride and dignity. Another thing I won't do is fight for a women, if a women can't see I am her best option she is to stupid for me to date and if a women is willing to risk injury and death to you for her vanity she clearly doesn't give a shiit about you and you can do better.

 

[metalwater]

Possessive=Good
Jealous=Bad

How do you know the difference ?

 

[metalwater]

Thats how i am too. I don't get jealous. But if i see it was intentional i get angry.

how do you tell the difference? jealous breeds anger...

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Anybody remember the great TV SERIES "Tales from the Crypt" from HBO in the late 80s, early 90s? Here is one where a young hot woman is dating a much older jealous dude.

Wow

Anybody remember the great TV SERIES "Tales from the Crypt" from HBO in the late 80s, early 90s? Here is one where a young hot woman is dating a much older jealous dude.

Ha. This is some guys real life scenario.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

how do you tell the difference? jealous breeds anger...

The difference is i saw my nose was put into the shyt i intentionally. Its hard not to notice. I don't get jealous at a lot of things.

 

[metalwater]

I have had very different in this topic.

one good interaction I remember well. I was younger.. girl is really hot and a guy magnet. we sit down at a biker bar that I would frequent. she is CLEARLY with me and I am with friends. second or third date.. Dude asks her to dance while sizing me up... She moved closer to me and did not look at the guy but instead just softly said no, I am taken. they guys face almost turned pale white with what looked like fear and very respectfully apologized to me and then left. that was probably an emotional high point in my life as it relates to women. for context, I was a bit NERDY at that time... and naive.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

How do you know the difference ?

Jealous is when she's done nothing to instigate or arouse another man's interest and is about to politely/firmly turn down the advance but you jump in to accuse her of doing something inappropriate to cause the other man to try to get her. Like you are defending buddy instead of your very own woman ffs.

Possessive is **** blocking buddy before he even gets an inkling to approach her...how can you do that? Number one:imposing physical presence. If you're 5'3" you still better be ripped with an acute awareness of your surroundings with knowledge of location points of other men in the room.
My Dad perfected this deadly look he'd give men he didn't approve of if they got too close to my Mom, myself or my brother's woman/female family members. The air literally sparked with tension when my Dad did this and I've seen men nod at him and literally slink away.

You can develop enough planning skills that you arrange for a protective chaperone to act as mate guard if for example you must leave her alone to go use men's room.

There's dozens of examples on how to set up your lifestyle and public habits/mannerisms to protect your woman to be possessive of her

 

[derby1]

Yeah, but a woman is a human being, not an investment

shes an investment, it takes a man some serious effort to get a girl out in 2020, she only needs to swipe up

 

[Lynx nkaf]

I have had very different in this topic.

one good interaction I remember well. I was younger.. girl is really hot and a guy magnet. we sit down at a biker bar that I would frequent. she is CLEARLY with me and I am with friends. second or third date.. Dude asks her to dance while sizing me up... She moved closer to me and did not look at the guy but instead just softly said no, I am taken. they guys face almost turned pale white with what looked like fear and very respectfully apologized to me and then left. that was probably an emotional high point in my life as it relates to women. for context, I was a bit NERDY at that time... and naive.

she was a keeper

 

[metalwater]

she was a keeper

I know, I should have done MUCH more to keep that one.

 

[zekko]

My point; men have to accept this instead of getting jealous/possessive of it. (E.g. My girl is for my eyes only nonsense). The only way to avoid this is not to date at all or get yourself an physically unattractive woman. (both not good options)

You are fighting a losing battle, accept it!

How dare they not accept that I am trying to bang their girlfriend or wife? They should sit there and be cucked!

 

[metalwater]

Jealous is when she's done nothing to instigate or arouse another man's interest and is about to politely/firmly turn down the advance but you jump in to accuse her of doing something inappropriate to cause the other man to try to get her. Like you are defending buddy instead of your very own woman ffs.

Possessive is **** blocking buddy before he even gets an inkling to approach her...how can you do that? Number one:imposing physical presence. If you're 5'3" you still better be ripped with an acute awareness of your surroundings with knowledge of location points of other men in the room.
My Dad perfected this deadly look he'd give men he didn't approve of if they got too close to my Mom, myself or my brother's woman/female family members. The air literally sparked with tension when my Dad did this and I've seen men nod at him and literally slink away.

You can develop enough planning skills that you arrange for a protective chaperone to act as mate guard if for example you must leave her alone to go use men's room.

There's dozens of examples on how to set up your lifestyle and public habits/mannerisms to protect your woman to be possessive of her

thanks.. i like that definition. it would mean I am not jealous, but very possessive. just shy of 6', ripped enough that when I meet ppl it can be a topic from them about me. I now know where every guy in the area is as soon as I enter, I acquired this ability after improving myself this last year. at the same time, a number of men started slinking... but I am still me...

are those examples written down any place that you mention?