Men confuse me
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I would like to encourage you not to think about cheating. Don't lower yourself to that level. If you do then I hope you end up feeling like a little slut.Originally posted by littlebumblebee
I have an inquiry about the male gender. I am an attractive female and since I've been dating my boyfriend (of many years) I have noticed the pattern that each of his best buddies at different points in time have all made passes at me, or expressed interest either verbally or with physical signals.
Now, I would like to know why guys do that? I would never do that to one of my best girlfriends! Don't get me wrong it is funny and flattering but seriously.
Anyways, the **** hit the fan when I found myself attracted to one of these guys. Bad news. Even his girlfriend at the time told me she thought he was in love with me, yikes!Anyways, I asked him what his intentions were and he denies everything! Granted, when he verbally expressed his interest to me we had been drinking and flirting back and forth, but then its like deny deny deny! Its quite an uncomfortable situation, why do guys have to show interest and screw up things? More importantly, why do ppl become more attractive once you find out they have a thing for you?
Let me explain why a guy would hit on you when he knows you have a boyfriend.
A guy is either
a) sleepy
b) hungry
c) horney
d) any combination of the above.
This is all you need to know about the male gender to be successfull.
Therefore I suggest that you cook something for your boyfriend, have sex with him, and then keep quiet so he can sleep.
He might still get honey looking at other women, but as long as you do the above he won't leave you.
I've wanted some of my girl friends’ friends on many occasions. The reason for this that I thought they had nicer asses.
You should also know that every time a guy sees a woman for the first time he thinks, "would I **** her?" then he thinks, "how hard would I **** her?". It doesn’t matter if he is married or not. The married guys are in fact very horney because they don't get any sex.
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He wants to screw you because he's a guy and guys are horny. I would hazard a guess that you're not really attracted to him as a person, but just the fact that you're receiving attention from someone who you thought didn't like. Feeling wanted makes you feel good; therefore a part of you wants to be with him, so you can get an ego stroke from knowing that even with a BF, other guys will still go after you. That's just my educated guess, I could be completely wrong. Whatever choice you make, make sure you don't do it in a way that plays with people's emotions, because that just sucks.
dearsappho
Senior Don Juan
Shes a slag...get back to the heap.
No I don't think it's right for guys to do the same thing. She wasn't just flirting with this guy, she says she "likes" him. In my mind that's cheating already.
She's a ho, coming on here looking for excuses from males to justify her actions and take some of the guilt away.
She's a ho, coming on here looking for excuses from males to justify her actions and take some of the guilt away.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Morons. Why don't you try being helpful instead of misogynist cretins?
SELF-MASTERY
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why so shady? Be honest tell the dude that ur dating that his friend hit on you and that you would like to screw his friend. At the very least dont be a dishonest slutty *****.
If ur wondering why so many rude post. This is a forum for men, why the hell are u here?
By the way what do u mean by showing physical signs of attraction? gUYS will always check asses and t**, doesnt mean we give a sh** about you.
go read cosmo... b****
If ur wondering why so many rude post. This is a forum for men, why the hell are u here?
By the way what do u mean by showing physical signs of attraction? gUYS will always check asses and t**, doesnt mean we give a sh** about you.
go read cosmo... b****
MrCode
Senior Don Juan
She came to the wrong place and asked the wrong question. I'm curious how this post adds any value to this site, besides making many readers more distrustful of women.
Why can't men have a place of their own without women butting in?
littlebumblebee
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who knew asking for advice and help would prove to be such a waste of time
once again, i dont see how i am making men distrustful of women. i havent cheated or done anything wrong, the worst thing ive done is posted on this site asking for a males perspective. Majority of the posts in my discussion have been so far off from my topic that I swear ppl arnt even reading the posts.
and when i found this site and signed up for it, it didnt state anywhere that I had to be a man. what makes you more pissed? the fact that im asking for mens help with my situation (instead of being a slut and sleeping around) or that ive been reading your other discussions and now know your manly "secrets" and "ploys" against women.
This isnt a freaking club house, try building one in your backyard and posting a "No Girls Allowed" sign like when you were 5.
Grow up.
once again, i dont see how i am making men distrustful of women. i havent cheated or done anything wrong, the worst thing ive done is posted on this site asking for a males perspective. Majority of the posts in my discussion have been so far off from my topic that I swear ppl arnt even reading the posts.
and when i found this site and signed up for it, it didnt state anywhere that I had to be a man. what makes you more pissed? the fact that im asking for mens help with my situation (instead of being a slut and sleeping around) or that ive been reading your other discussions and now know your manly "secrets" and "ploys" against women.
This isnt a freaking club house, try building one in your backyard and posting a "No Girls Allowed" sign like when you were 5.
Grow up.
Why is it misogynist to call women on their BS? She doesn't say she's sexually attracted to the guy, like most guys would check a woman out. She state's she "likes" him. When a woman says that, she has an "emotional" attraction to the person that goes beyond physical.
It may seem like an unimportant distinction, but in my opinion she's already cheated.
Why does she need a male perspective? We view things differently than women. I still contend that she's trying to look for an excuse and ease her guilt.
And the "captain save a ho's" that are sticking up for her are just making themselves look silly.
It may seem like an unimportant distinction, but in my opinion she's already cheated.
Why does she need a male perspective? We view things differently than women. I still contend that she's trying to look for an excuse and ease her guilt.
And the "captain save a ho's" that are sticking up for her are just making themselves look silly.
littlebumblebee
Don Juan
anyone else who feels like ripping me to shreads, do it through private message. I'd like to leave my forum for ppl with helpful advice and insight. Any so called "man" who posts here with something negative to say should be a man and direct it towards me personally, thats what private messaging is for. If you have something to say about me, why not try saying it to me.
catch
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yeeeaaah, so there... go little beee go!!!!, tell those horrible men what for...
oh by the way little bee,
my real name is ummm rupert, i live in england... and er....and so i just wanted to say that.... i um...was just thinking about maybe asking you if i could just be cheecky and ask you if you have a number i might be able to reach you on... if you want????
and that we might, if you want, um go out for a quick coffee maybe and possibly get to know each other umm so that we can can just be friends...
oh by the way little bee,
my real name is ummm rupert, i live in england... and er....and so i just wanted to say that.... i um...was just thinking about maybe asking you if i could just be cheecky and ask you if you have a number i might be able to reach you on... if you want????
and that we might, if you want, um go out for a quick coffee maybe and possibly get to know each other umm so that we can can just be friends...
But this is a public debate. You said you wanted to get inside the male brain. Well open your eyes. In reply, you got male rational thinking telling you how it is.
If you don't want your ******** to be torn to shreds find some girly female empowerment dating tips site to post on.
If you don't want your ******** to be torn to shreds find some girly female empowerment dating tips site to post on.
cactus3178
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Re: who knew asking for advice and help would prove to be such a waste of time
LMFAO.
There are some girls here and it's fine with me as long as they don't post ridiculous BS. I think your question is valid.
BTW, thanks for making me spit pop on my keyboard. That sh*t made me laugh.
LMFAO.
There are some girls here and it's fine with me as long as they don't post ridiculous BS. I think your question is valid.
BTW, thanks for making me spit pop on my keyboard. That sh*t made me laugh.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
Any men caught supplicating to you is not a MAN!!!!!
***You have been warned
MrCode
Senior Don Juan
Your boyfriend has desperate loser friends who don't know how to control themselves around an "attractive" woman.
So you are saying he screwed things up by denying his drunk-induced declaration of interest, instead of following through with it, which would seriously screw over a lot of people? Hmmm, I think you need to stop being so selfish and consider reality a bit here. If he did pursue you he would probably ruin his friendship with your boyfriend as well as messing up other people in your social circle.
Anyways, the **** hit the fan when I found myself attracted to one of these guys. Bad news. Even his girlfriend at the time told me she thought he was in love with me, yikes!Anyways, I asked him what his intentions were and he denies everything! Granted, when he verbally expressed his interest to me we had been drinking and flirting back and forth, but then its like deny deny deny! Its quite an uncomfortable situation, why do guys have to show interest and screw up things? More importantly, why do ppl become more attractive once you find out they have a thing for you?
Just because he attracted you doesn't mean he is obligated to take it further.
Some of you guys crack me up.
You might learn something valuable if you listened more to the free and impartial views and real experiences of women instead of putting all your faith in the "seduction gurus", with their hypothetical situations and contrived female responses.
But then again, perhaps you think these female posters will fall in love with your jerk-like replies.
You might learn something valuable if you listened more to the free and impartial views and real experiences of women instead of putting all your faith in the "seduction gurus", with their hypothetical situations and contrived female responses.
But then again, perhaps you think these female posters will fall in love with your jerk-like replies.
SageOFAllenAge
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Well if finding someone else attractive while being in a relationship is technically cheating.
I wonder about the guys with chicks who beat off watching porn or check out HB's.
I wonder about the guys with chicks who beat off watching porn or check out HB's.
MrCode
Senior Don Juan
You have a point, but this particular poster did not provide much useful information, besides showing a lack of understanding of men.Originally posted by Jariel
Some of you guys crack me up.
You might learn something valuable if you listened more to the free and impartial views and real experiences of women instead of putting all your faith in the "seduction gurus", with their hypothetical situations and contrived female responses.
But then again, perhaps you think these female posters will fall in love with your jerk-like replies.
If you are saying we should be all polite, nice and sweet because she is a female, then I think you are on the wrong forum.
Any poster has to earn respect through good posts over a period of time. Wyldfire has my respect, even if I don't always agree with what she says. This new girl may earn my respect one day, but until then I'm not going to treat her any differently than other posters who post dumb things.