Gipper wrote:
What can you do to increase the odds?
1. Know exactly what you want from a woman and a relationship.
2. Frequent the places where the women you think you might be compatible with hang out.
3. Date as many of them as possible.
4. Ruthlessly weed out the flakes and undesirables.
5. Repeat steps (2),(3), and (4) until desired result is achieved.
Can you tell I like to keep things simple?
Yes! And between you simplifying things, and me overcomplicating them, we should get this figured out just right.
I would add a couple of things to the list as follows:
1. Know exactly what you want from a woman and a relationship
and don't settle for a woman who is lacking in qualities you know are important to you.
2. Frequent the places where the women you think you might be compatible with hang out,
and also try to meet women in "natural settings" where it is easier to tell if you have good chemistry with the woman you talk to.
3. Date as many of them as possible.
This means the following:
a) Approach lots of women and talk to lots of women. LOTS!
b) When you talk to women, do whatever you can to convey your personality and project a clear sense of who YOU are, to see how well she "clicks" with you. If you are being the person you really want to be, and projecting THAT, you are giving those women who DON'T click with you a chance to NEXT themselves--rather than wasting more time on them.
c) Of the women you talk to, you won't be interested in most, and vice versa, but with many of them you should set up a brief date. Make these "dates" no more than a quick, easy get-together like going for a cup of coffee together. Thinking in terms of a
brief initial date will make it possible for you to have LOTS of them.
Twenty minutes with a woman should be enough to tell you if she is a good candidate for a "second round interview" compared to the other women you've talked to.
d) Set up a second date with some of the women to continue the weeding out process. Avoid settings that force intimacy, for instance a dance club with it's music, dim lighting, and alcohol. Go for natural settings that make it easy to tell if you genuinely have good chemistry.
e) Of the women you go on "second round dates" with, you will pick some for a "third round", and weed out the rest.
f) Whenever you narrowed things down to the point of knowing that you have good chemistry with a woman, really "click" with her and enjoy being with her, THEN take things to a sexual level so you can assess your compatibility as sexual partners.
In this scheme, you are purposely putting off sex with a woman until AFTER you've had a chance to weed out the ones that you aren't highly compatible with. This keeps your judgement regarding compatibility issues from being clouded by sex. In other words, it ensures that you don't overlook serious compatibility issues for the sake of sex, only to have those issues turn into problems later on, if you get into an LTR.
g) Of the women that you are sleeping with, you might find that you want to start spending more time with some than others, and the weeding out process may continue till you've narrowed it down to just two women.
h) Rather than putting yourself through the unnecessary stress of deciding between the final two candidates--both perfect goddesses--the three of you can move to Utah and get married as a polyamorous couple.
DeepBlue
[This message has been edited by DeepBlue (edited 04-24-2002).]
