BetterCallSaul
Master Don Juan
Thought I'd relay a recent story of something that I learned about a guy I know from my church. He and his wife are probably a couple years younger than I am, but we've known them for a while and occasionally talk. On this it was just him with the kids.
He came over to shoot the sh!t with myself and some other guys who were talking. At one point he chimes in about a recent problem he had because he has to sell all of his furniture. So of course I ask what happened, he said he was moving and apparently all of his current furniture wouldn't fit through the door. I thought wtf? Seriously? I also must have given off the same look, but I asked anyway,
Me: "whoa, what? I mean you checked the place out pretty well beforehand right?"
Him: "Yeah it's just the main door is kind of narrow. So I'm selling everything I've got and then buy some new stuff that will fit"
Different guy: "Did you get the house inspected? Did you at least do a walkthrough of everything?"
Him: "It's an apartment"
So immediately I'm thinking, whoa! WTF is going on here? He lived in a decent home in a nice suburb, and now he's in an apartment? Immediately i start wondering if he's having wife problems, but then catch myself and at least try to not rush to judgment of him. He's a decent guy, maybe he sold his house and is in-between right now. Sometimes sh!t happens and maybe this is one of those situations. I did not pry any further since I didn't want to be rude.
So the convo dies off, he walks over to talk to some other people. Myself and 2 other guys are still standing around, and the one guy who was in the convo above says aloud "Wow, I didn't know any of that. Hope he's not having marital problems". I'm glad I wasn't the only one thinking this.
So a couple days later I happen to be talking to my wife and mention to her "Did you know (this guy) is moving into an apartment?" She replies "NO! No way....wow, that kinda makes sense though. I saw on her facebook page she's been posting a lot of updates recently about going out drinking with her girlfriends though".
And there it is.
Yeah my wife has been facebook friends with his wife for a while, but like I mentioned earlier, we're not THAT close. I took at look at her page and sure enough, ladies night out pics. Now about his wife, she's a pretty good looking. On her worst day, i'd say she's a 6. Once she gets fixed up and looking good, she's about a 7.5. About 2 years ago she quit her full-time job at a university (i think she was doing just secretarial work, maybe some finance?) because she was really tired of dealing with so much office politics and also stated she wanted the chance to be a full-time mom to her young daughter, which at the time her daughter was about 3-4. Now I try to give women the benefit of the doubt in situations like this, in face, I admire any family that can make this work. It can be hard to get by on one income these days, but I'd always take a mother raising her children over daycare.
Now even though his wife is mid-30s right now, it's evident to me that her genetics for her physical appearance will not allow her to hit the wall until she's probably 50. She's definitely got the genes that her physical beauty will last a lot longer than normal, but my guess for her behavior is that she is mentally and emotionally hitting the wall. I am also going out on a limb and guessing that the women she was in the photos with are single, which is what women do EVERY time. They always try to pull another woman down who might be accomplishing a lot and she has allowed herself to think that she needs another ride on the carousel, especially since her looks aren't fading as fast.
There's no real moral to this story, just something I felt I should pass along. I think one mistake her husband made was allowing this ladies night out in the first place. It should be made clear to a woman, especially a married woman, the going out at night on Friday or Saturday drinking with your single girlfriends is not acceptable behavior.
He came over to shoot the sh!t with myself and some other guys who were talking. At one point he chimes in about a recent problem he had because he has to sell all of his furniture. So of course I ask what happened, he said he was moving and apparently all of his current furniture wouldn't fit through the door. I thought wtf? Seriously? I also must have given off the same look, but I asked anyway,
Me: "whoa, what? I mean you checked the place out pretty well beforehand right?"
Him: "Yeah it's just the main door is kind of narrow. So I'm selling everything I've got and then buy some new stuff that will fit"
Different guy: "Did you get the house inspected? Did you at least do a walkthrough of everything?"
Him: "It's an apartment"
So immediately I'm thinking, whoa! WTF is going on here? He lived in a decent home in a nice suburb, and now he's in an apartment? Immediately i start wondering if he's having wife problems, but then catch myself and at least try to not rush to judgment of him. He's a decent guy, maybe he sold his house and is in-between right now. Sometimes sh!t happens and maybe this is one of those situations. I did not pry any further since I didn't want to be rude.
So the convo dies off, he walks over to talk to some other people. Myself and 2 other guys are still standing around, and the one guy who was in the convo above says aloud "Wow, I didn't know any of that. Hope he's not having marital problems". I'm glad I wasn't the only one thinking this.
So a couple days later I happen to be talking to my wife and mention to her "Did you know (this guy) is moving into an apartment?" She replies "NO! No way....wow, that kinda makes sense though. I saw on her facebook page she's been posting a lot of updates recently about going out drinking with her girlfriends though".
And there it is.
Yeah my wife has been facebook friends with his wife for a while, but like I mentioned earlier, we're not THAT close. I took at look at her page and sure enough, ladies night out pics. Now about his wife, she's a pretty good looking. On her worst day, i'd say she's a 6. Once she gets fixed up and looking good, she's about a 7.5. About 2 years ago she quit her full-time job at a university (i think she was doing just secretarial work, maybe some finance?) because she was really tired of dealing with so much office politics and also stated she wanted the chance to be a full-time mom to her young daughter, which at the time her daughter was about 3-4. Now I try to give women the benefit of the doubt in situations like this, in face, I admire any family that can make this work. It can be hard to get by on one income these days, but I'd always take a mother raising her children over daycare.
Now even though his wife is mid-30s right now, it's evident to me that her genetics for her physical appearance will not allow her to hit the wall until she's probably 50. She's definitely got the genes that her physical beauty will last a lot longer than normal, but my guess for her behavior is that she is mentally and emotionally hitting the wall. I am also going out on a limb and guessing that the women she was in the photos with are single, which is what women do EVERY time. They always try to pull another woman down who might be accomplishing a lot and she has allowed herself to think that she needs another ride on the carousel, especially since her looks aren't fading as fast.
There's no real moral to this story, just something I felt I should pass along. I think one mistake her husband made was allowing this ladies night out in the first place. It should be made clear to a woman, especially a married woman, the going out at night on Friday or Saturday drinking with your single girlfriends is not acceptable behavior.