Don Juan Tenorio
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Just a thought
This is a really interesting post. My intention is not attack anyone but contribute some elements to this discussion. First, let’s agree to disagree. Second, let’s respect each other.
I see these kinds of cases on a daily basis through the legal system. Although I’ve never admitted to be a saint, it’s hard for me to be in Centaurion’s shoes under those circumstances. I know how it feels to go through the experience of (even remotely considering) having an undesirable child. I can empathize with him on that. But what I don’t agree at all, and I think he recognized being emotionally shocked, are the methods used. Domestic Violence (DV) is not acceptable. 75% of the cases are related to female victims and 25% to male victims. Yes, there are still out there some guys who become psychologically, emotionally, financially and/or physically abused by their partners, including pseudo “Alpha males”. Many individuals don’t even recognize they are living in an abusive relationship. Manipulation is one of the elements of the DV cycle. DV creates lots of problems, and guess what? The cycle perpetues generation over generation, until hopefully finally someone becomes aware of this and decides to end it. That could be the answer to why some of us straggle with relationships. Perhaps we saw the disfunctionalism in our parents or love ones?….. think about it for a moment.
Remember DJs, being an Alpha DJ is not being abusive, jerkish or mean to your partner. You can be strong and firm, and at the same time, calm, respectful and understandable of the situation. We have to learn how to handle any of these challenges in front of us.
Where I live the likeliness for a case like this is that the District Attorney will nail the guy down with multiple counts. You name the charges and counts….it’s terrible! Unfortunately people in system are used to dealing with all sorts of individuals, and the rule is that for one we all get screwed up.
Once I heard the story of this outstanding 65 year old guy, whom the first time he got drunk killed his wife during a frenzy and exacerbated discussion. I know it sucks to always behave right. Fvck!!!! Tell me about that. But we have to learn to think with our heads and not just be impulsive.
I’m not condoning by any means the girl’s behavior. I think is pretty self-explanatory. She screwed up big time…And she deserves to be punished, not necessarily by the law, but by taking away the opportunity to be with the incredible man you are. “Castigala con el latigo de tu desprecio e indiferencia” (Punish her with the whiplash of you scorn and indifference)
Just a thought.
This is a really interesting post. My intention is not attack anyone but contribute some elements to this discussion. First, let’s agree to disagree. Second, let’s respect each other.
I see these kinds of cases on a daily basis through the legal system. Although I’ve never admitted to be a saint, it’s hard for me to be in Centaurion’s shoes under those circumstances. I know how it feels to go through the experience of (even remotely considering) having an undesirable child. I can empathize with him on that. But what I don’t agree at all, and I think he recognized being emotionally shocked, are the methods used. Domestic Violence (DV) is not acceptable. 75% of the cases are related to female victims and 25% to male victims. Yes, there are still out there some guys who become psychologically, emotionally, financially and/or physically abused by their partners, including pseudo “Alpha males”. Many individuals don’t even recognize they are living in an abusive relationship. Manipulation is one of the elements of the DV cycle. DV creates lots of problems, and guess what? The cycle perpetues generation over generation, until hopefully finally someone becomes aware of this and decides to end it. That could be the answer to why some of us straggle with relationships. Perhaps we saw the disfunctionalism in our parents or love ones?….. think about it for a moment.
Remember DJs, being an Alpha DJ is not being abusive, jerkish or mean to your partner. You can be strong and firm, and at the same time, calm, respectful and understandable of the situation. We have to learn how to handle any of these challenges in front of us.
Where I live the likeliness for a case like this is that the District Attorney will nail the guy down with multiple counts. You name the charges and counts….it’s terrible! Unfortunately people in system are used to dealing with all sorts of individuals, and the rule is that for one we all get screwed up.
Once I heard the story of this outstanding 65 year old guy, whom the first time he got drunk killed his wife during a frenzy and exacerbated discussion. I know it sucks to always behave right. Fvck!!!! Tell me about that. But we have to learn to think with our heads and not just be impulsive.
I’m not condoning by any means the girl’s behavior. I think is pretty self-explanatory. She screwed up big time…And she deserves to be punished, not necessarily by the law, but by taking away the opportunity to be with the incredible man you are. “Castigala con el latigo de tu desprecio e indiferencia” (Punish her with the whiplash of you scorn and indifference)
Just a thought.
