Lying Girlfriend

[Darth_Qurashi]

ya man, well maybe she's not cheating. but maybe she doens't realize what it feels like if the roles are reversed and it was you on the other side doing that to her. maybe u should get her a bit jealous and see if she'll fight for you

 

[Pierce]

And that's the main problem with her. I guess she is just dim-witted as hell or something.

 

[Kailex]

And that's the main problem with her. I guess she is just dim-witted as hell or something.

What's worse... the woman with no common sense... or the man who chooses to stay with her despite her lack of it?

 

[Masculinity]

:cuss: YOU ARE THE SECOND, MOST AFC GUY OF WHOM I'VE EVER HEARD; I used to be the first one, but I MANNED up and learned to respect and value myself; you should start doing the same

You need to stop being a little b!tch and dump that girl before she dumps you.
It is obvious you don't understand the game: if you dump her now, at least you'll have you dignity intact. Don't think everything will magically disappear because trust me, it doesn't. If you really want her to change, shake up the hen cage and if she's really interested, you will have her eating from your hand. Don't waste our time by being redundant; instead, follow the advice we give you. The intelligence of all the guys who responded to your post is greater than yours; it isn't greater because you're the biggest chump ever, but because there are many more of us and "two heads thing better than one"(in this case, a bunch of heads.)

I went through something very similar if not almost identical. She lied to me and I caught her. I posted the problem here and I got bombarded with "Stop being a little b!tch" comments; I sat down and thought, what if they're ACTUALLY right? I dumped the girl and she said she wanted to be friends. I said "I'm not interested in being your friend" (a slap across her face, she said), did NC and four days later she called me crying her eyeballs out and begging me to take her back. I didn't take her back and for two days straight I ignored her texts. She texted me 23 messages one after the other on the 3rd day. In summary, the messages read: I'm sorry, you are right, protect me and give me what I want. I'll behave if you just forgive me. This doesn't feel right, I need you back.

These 23 messages confirmed to me something of which I wasn't sure: I'm valuable and desirable. For some reason, being in a relationship makes you feel like no one else will ever be interested in you, but that isn't the case. The night I dumped her I went out and danced with hb8+girls and that made her furious. This was a two-year relationship, and trust me, it doesn't matter. YOU WILL BE TESTED BY THE GIRL ON A REGULAR BASIS; BE PREPARED TO ACE THOSE TESTS. I'm back in being the leader of the relationship. I'm not an complete ahole, but not a chump either. When you are too good to a woman, she will disrespect you and you will lose your value in her reality.

In conclusion my dear brother: MAN THE F*CK UP.

 

[Pierce]

Your post makes perfect sense to me. I am afraid of change but I know what I must do because you guys are right. I knowledge I need to break up with her and then never ever think about her again. There are way more girls out there for me. If I feel that I can't get my respect then I need to end it. This is easy saying it. Hopefully I can actually do it because I tried to break up with her months ago but for some AFC reason I was the one to beg her back the next day. I need a lot of change and it starts today.

 

[pipe007]

well you need to prepare yourself mentally before you break up

grab your best friend and tell him what you plan on doing so you can have emotional support while you are hurting and healing.

once you end a relationship, you go into withdrawal mode, just as a drug addict experiences when he is forced to stop consuming any substance he does, his body will release chemicals that will force him to do whatever it takes to consume again.

the same will happen to you, once you withdraw from your girl, your body chemicals (emotions) are going to do what it takes to make you bring this girl back into your life (if you have feeligs for her), its a naturall process, an evolutionary process I believe.

so if you decide to end it, be prepared for the withdrawal period which can be FREAKING INTENSE!!! , you need support and the right tools to prevent "relapse" and going back for her.

 

[Masculinity]

Some tools to help you through the tough time to come

Your post makes perfect sense to me. I am afraid of change but I know what I must do because you guys are right. I knowledge I need to break up with her and then never ever think about her again. There are way more girls out there for me. If I feel that I can't get my respect then I need to end it.

Grrreat! That is the way you are going to think from this point on; behave the way you just described and you will be on the way to finding a new babe(if your current girlfriend doesn't beg you to get back with her of course.)

This is easy saying it. Hopefully I can actually do it because I tried to break up with her months ago but for some AFC reason I was the one to beg her back the next day. I need a lot of change and it starts today.

:nono: It isn't easy to actually get it done, but it isn't impossible. I (and I'm sure most of the guys here,) believe in you being able to accomplish your goal. Don't mess up;it only takes one breakdown to bring everything to ruins.

Just as Pipe007 mentioned: "once you end a relationship, you go into withdrawal mode, just as a drug addict experiences when he is forced to stop consuming any substance he does, his body will release chemicals that will force him to do whatever it takes to consume again." Pipe007 is right on the money with this comment. The information he presented is not only a psychological fact, but also a biological fact. You may not understand it now, but I've studied these fields in the past as probably has pipe007 and I support his data.

What to do next: I have attached a link to a thread called "THE NO CONTACT CHALLENGE" originally posted by Daydream Enginner. This thread was extremely helpful to me and probably to many other men who are either ging through a break-up or facing the after-effects. It will definitely help you through the break-up process as well. Take the time to read the thread, its links, and highlights entirely and you will be very well prepared to face the psychological struggle in which you're probably going to fall. Don't beat yourself up;instead, think of this decision as one that will change for the better your self-esteem, way of living, and way of dating.

It makes me very disappointed and upset to see good men such as yourself go down and give up. I, personally have been exactly where you are now and allow me to tell you not everything is lost. I feel obliged to share this knowledge. Hence, my goal is to provide you the with the most information available, but only you can make the ultimate decision.

The guys in the thread and I are looking forward to hearing good news from you. Go get it done, brother; it is now or never. :box:

Link:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160056&highlight=dumped

 

[Pierce]

You guy's obviously know what you are talking about so I have no choice but to do what you said as it is in the best interest.

 

[sodbuster]

First, you can't change your girlfriend-she is what she is,but you can change girlfriends.{some can change, when they want to,but it's almost impossible for YOU to change her]

Second, if the lack of common sense,lying,etc. bother you NOW, just think about how it will bother you when she's spending your money on dressing your kids like barbie dolls in $100 outfits[that they will puke on and ruin][while she lies about the costs] When she asks when you will make her a baby?..... Tell her when she proves she is worthy,lying,stupidity,lack of respect,etc. DO NOT make her marriage material at this point...and she should know.

Third, I've been married and there is NOTHING as lonely as being in the marriage bed with a woman who you'd rather see gone. Single and alone-Maybe today I can find someone. Married and alone-How much is it going to cost me to divorce her so I can have a chance to look for someone else?

 

[Masculinity]

You guy's obviously know what you are talking about so I have no choice but to do what you said as it is in the best interest.

Is it just me, or does it sound like he's just playing along?

 

[LoneWolf]

sorry to bring up an old thread but... what happened to this guy? i guess he didn't dump her.

 

[Tiguere]

sorry to bring up an old thread but... what happened to this guy? i guess he didn't dump her.

nop he didnt. he is an immature 21 year old and spends time in the mature forum giving advice

 

[Cry For Love]

Just Pump&Dump her dude. Its the only way to go these days. Girls aint what they used to be.

 

[Pierce]

Well I decided not to follow you guys and stick with her. Caught her in a lie one time and then I got so upset that I "jacked her up" by grabbing her and then asking why she never cared about me like an AFC. Now she broke up with me. After begging for a long time she says she wants to work it out with me but I must change. I agree with getting help with anger management but to get back in a relationship with her...... my pride is too much destroyed to get back with her.

 

[Masculinity]

I knew you weren't listening. And here the consequenses...ahhh man you remind me of a friend who got dumped by his ex, then she wondered off living with some dude for a few months, phucked him, then tried to get back with my friends, he fell for the trap and now she dumped him and she's back with the other dude that pays for everything for her.

This AFC behavior makes me want to knock all of you out!!!

 

[pipe007]

omg im glad you guys broke up
she did you a favor by breaking up first... which was expected, but now you are doing her a big favor too by deciding not to be with her and preventing her from getting more sick from your AFC behaviors